Should I leverage my virginity when dating or should I explore my sexuality and find the best match?

ino_y · 2019-11-22T02:59:56+00:00

What do you mean by leverage.......

If you mean sell it to the highest bidder, no.

Marrying into a dead bedroom because you're incompatible or he's terrible in bed, also no.

A satisfying sex life, for the rest of your life, will sustain your loving relationship.

Leveraging it might get you a weirdo who fetishizes virgins. Is that all you are? Is that your personality? "A Virgin" ? what happens when you're no longer "A Virgin"?

MonicaLSolis · 2019-11-22T03:10:42+00:00

Do not use it as leverage. You're just going to get a misogynist

Works_For_Treats · 2019-11-22T04:28:53+00:00

I wouldn't at all divulge you're a virgin. Many men view that as being another notch on their belt and will just pump and dump. Personally I don't think your strategy would be really that different at all than anyone else here, you'd just go at whatever speed makes you comfortable.

You're only open to the vulnerabilities of your choosing. If you don't want a guy to weaponize things, do not give him anything to weaponize.

dackaroo · 2019-11-22T05:40:13+00:00

Good guys don't want virgins. The worst guys only want virgins.

It's better to go out and see what you like than to save it for someone who probably won't appreciate it, but don't feel pressured to have sex with someone you're not really feeling it with. If you happen to end up not having sex until you get married, that's okay. I just wouldn't go around telling people about your lack of experience, because that will be a magnet for predators.

CoolMelonade · 2019-11-22T03:13:45+00:00

I’m confused what you mean by “leverage”? Leverage it for what?

BellaStayFly · 2019-11-22T03:58:51+00:00

Leverage is a really bad word to use when referring to yourself and your virginity. If you have sex with a guy you should genuinely really want to and feel ready to. It’s nobody’s business that you are a virgin either.

JanTheBrown · 2019-11-22T06:42:37+00:00

Dude you asked the same question I had! Thanks!

CSQUITO · 2019-11-22T12:20:20+00:00

In my opinion you should not use virginity as a tool. Virginity is a social construct so you can still maintain your “modesty” (or the thing that makes your virginity personally important to you) for every sexual encounter you ever have.

Blackishcat27 · 2019-11-23T00:22:43+00:00

Don't let anyone you're dating know you're a virgin. They'll treat you like you're a conquest.

Title	Should I leverage my virginity when dating or should I explore my sexuality and find the best match?
Author	bringmetassadar
Upvotes	0
Comments	17
Date	November 22, 2019 2:25 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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