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[–]eveninghopeFDS Apprentice107 points108 points109 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
"I want you to commit to this situation but I don't actually want to put any effort in."
[–]myousernameRuthless Strategist69 points70 points71 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
"I want to continue pursuing multiple women, but I will act indignant and offended if you sleep with anyone else"
[–]ariaa12643 points44 points45 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
“I’m not looking for a girlfriend but let’s do relationship things and I will emotionally manipulate you to thinking it’s your fault whenever another guy shows even an ounce of interest towards you.”
[–]basedbeckyFDS Newbie91 points92 points93 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
And some shitty friendship. No farmer's markets, no fun gallery trips, no coastal adventures, no cooking classes. I'm sorry, but I'm too good for even friends to expect me to watch them play video games and eat greasy fast food.
Friendship? They wouldn't have the first idea. To them, friendship is about the "feelings" they get from the person - not the care and attention and support for wellbeing that friends give and accept.
No wonder a lot of male friendships don't last: they're predicated on the fun they have without any maintenance or effort.
[–]WorthReindeer8Throwaway Account21 points22 points23 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s a clever dynamic with the whole no labels thing on their end, they’ll pay for your food but never brainstorm fun date ideas!!!! plus the whole I don’t like you but let me claim you in front of everyone
[–]HottPinkSlugFDS Newbie18 points19 points20 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yep. Like the kind of 'friend' who only calls you when they need something
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[–]not_a_paper_pusherFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s one blessing I took from my most recent “friendship”, I overshared about my history of abuse (never again) but I shared very little about myself, he doesn’t have a clue who I am. He knows what people have done to me but he doesn’t know me.
[–]hikurangi2019FDS Apprentice27 points28 points29 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Never.again
[–]DuckToaster12FDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Was gonna say the same thing!
[–]BellaStayFlyFDS Disciple25 points26 points27 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
For the man that doesn’t want to commit or call it anything, but wants ALL the benefits of locking you down as his woman. Nah, we ain’t here for that anymore. Fuck situationships.
[–]napdtFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Situationships are THE worst.
It nearly destroyed my mental health. This guy never considered me his friend. He told me that we were a "thing." "You are not my friend, you are so much more than that. Don't overthink it, b" he said and I bought it.
Never again.
[–]v0ta_p0r_m0taThrowaway Account6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
To be honest. This was my way of thinking not too long ago. ThIS is what I would say to men. Definitely not healthy at all.
[–]whatsmynameagain91Throwaway Account23 points24 points25 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I did this with a guy for years. We just hung out had sex went to places together it was awesome. We never discussed what we were. We never labelled it. We just had an amazing casual situationship. His family liked me a lot. He paid for my coffee and was happy to pick me up and drive because he was a car enthusiast. I’d known him as a friend long before this.
I guess he was a bit of my rebound and he was down for it. He knew my ex and his ex dated my ex so it was a bit messy.
It wasn’t until I felt all the trauma from my last relationship caught up with me that I had to cease hanging out to try and sort myself out. Still not close to healing.
The reason it worked so well was because nothing really mattered to me so I had no expectations. I was just happy to have someone to hang out with.
I did ask him if he wanted to come to dinner with my family for my birthday and he declined. He was either too nervous or didn’t want to commit to anything.
I miss that guy.
[–]glowingupasafdsThrowaway Account6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
were you guys exclusive in this situationship?
[–]whatsmynameagain91Throwaway Account11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I was not right in the head during all of this. And I haven’t been with anyone for over a year. I’m wanting myself to heal more than anything. Plus I got sick and have no interest in sex at all now. Oh well, I had my moment.
[–]whatsmynameagain91Throwaway Account6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No I had a occasional hook ups with his friend. 😬 only a few times. Most of the time it was with him.
[–]glowingupasafdsThrowaway Account1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
so glad you’re healing ❤️
[–]Totolin960 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Agreed to this exact situation with 2 different guys concurrently for many many months. What a fucking idiot I was cause I thought at least one would fall for me for real. I was friends with both of them and both expressed they really liked me so i did a lot of stuff with them pre-covid (trips, concerts, dinners). I would tell them about each other and they’d get jealous which I thought was a good sign? Anyway, I was tired of being optional and so I broke it off with each one and NEITHER tried to get me to stick around. Now I have a super sweet boyfriend who will go to the ends of the earth for me and I get to cheer him on as he becomes a fucking doctor (yes this is flexing). Point is, it’s really crazy once you realize your worth and what it attracts..
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[–]basedbeckyFDS Newbie91 points92 points93 points (4 children) | Copy Link
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[–]HottPinkSlugFDS Newbie18 points19 points20 points (0 children) | Copy Link
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[–]not_a_paper_pusherFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]hikurangi2019FDS Apprentice27 points28 points29 points (1 child) | Copy Link
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[–]BellaStayFlyFDS Disciple25 points26 points27 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]napdtFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]v0ta_p0r_m0taThrowaway Account6 points7 points8 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]whatsmynameagain91Throwaway Account23 points24 points25 points (3 children) | Copy Link
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