Thoughts on using Bumble for OLD?

minklash00 · 2020-04-10T20:50:54+00:00

Found that dudes on bumble were worse than tinder. Atleast on tinder you get approached with honest intention (of just having sex). Dude I got involved with from bumble pretended to like me for months until we had sex and then slow faded. These are the types of dudes who don’t approach women in real life because they “don’t need to since they get approached” 🤢 Soooooo in my opinion ... stay far away from bumble.

virginiadancer · 2020-04-11T04:03:26+00:00

I personally found significantly less fuckboys on Bumble and have had loads of success on OLD. IF you are VERY good at vetting, have a serious no bullshit attitude, and are experienced in dating, I personally think OLD is a very useful tool. I'm 35 and in a rural/ small town area so please take what I say into context. My city girlfriends hate it for all the reasons the above comments suggest.

PaciencaYFe · 2020-04-11T03:00:42+00:00

Personally every guy I met off bumble was way more shallow with a bigger head

electroloop · 2020-04-11T19:11:42+00:00

Lol Bumble is a joke. The guys on there expect YOU, as a woman, to continue to carry the relationship because “you messaged them first.”

Also, to echo what someone else already said, the men on Bumble are dishonest about their intentions with you, unlike Tinder. I’d rather an attractive 10/10 guy message me on Tinder and be straight up about his intentions, then a 6/10 guy lead me on for months with the prospects of a relationship when all he wants is the goodies, then the slow fade begins.

ManchurianCantaloupe · 2020-04-10T19:51:26+00:00

FDS, as a sub, is against Bumble for exactly that reason.

We tend not to recommend OLD in general, but many ladies here are on it. Meeting people through friends/activities/whatever doesn't guarantee you'll find a winner, either.

Hinge might be more your speed. It's like Bumble in that it's (in theory) more relationship-oriented, but it doesn't require women to make the first move.

curlygirl507 · 2020-04-10T21:22:37+00:00

I don't speak for the sub in general, but on Bumble the only difference is that women have to send the first message - that's it. There's no other requirement that the woman lead, and I unmatch guys nearly every day on there who don't lead the conversation.

With online dating in general, you have to go into it assuming that the guy is a lying sociopath until proven otherwise. I hate to say that, but after over 3 years of horrible experiences and men trying to use me for assorted purposes, that's the conclusion I've come to. You certainly can't believe anything they claim without verifying it, and you need to make notes about both good and bad things he does and says. Stay skeptical and don't allow yourself to get attached until 4-6+ months in.

stovetop_bellbottom · 2020-04-17T14:27:53+00:00

For bumble I just start the convo with either a flower or smiley emoji and nothing else... and then let them do the rest.

For what it’s worth I’ve used both tinder and bumble and while there are less guys on bumble they are much better quality.

Tinder is a dumpster fire and I’ve stopped using it.

2020-04-11T04:53:18+00:00

The lvm I got to the "let's make a date" part with said I talked about myself too much and when I called him on that he said my profession "was the worst" , and something else incredibly rude. His "date" was walking my dog. No. Sorry, my dog is like my child, so no, you don't get to just meet him. And that's a date? It's not like he has a dog himself so, it wasn't a casual meet. Maybe I think walking my dog is a pathetic first date but maybe not.

Deadgirl1888 · 2020-04-11T04:56:55+00:00

I met my long term HVM on bumble but I think it was pure luck and idk if I would use online dating again.

IridescentSpirit · 2020-04-11T11:31:25+00:00

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ninetiesbaby16 · 2020-04-11T10:08:29+00:00

Ugh bumble is awful. They all want the woman to do the asking out and arrange the date. And they’re all soyboy looking guys with pube beards and dad bods 🤮 When I switched to tinder I was blown away by how much hotter the guys were in comparison.

Title	Thoughts on using Bumble for OLD?
Author	IridescentSpirit
Upvotes	17
Comments	39
Date	April 10, 2020 7:48 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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