I contacted him yesterday to have the screenshots as proof and he told me that since we met on a dating website, I should be expecting this.

When I told him that people meet on dating website to date and not to be groping the butt or boobs, he told me to grow up.

He showed no remorse for his actions and even had the audacity to say that I enjoyed it. I told him that I never said and that I told no to kissing/touching my boobs and that I was feeling so uncomfortable- how he cannot remember all that?

I posted on the residency sub and everyone asked me to report him.

This morning I spoke to someone whose husband is a retired police officer in the US and they told me not to report it. Because it has a lot of grey area and the police would question why I went again with him to ikea after he groped me the first time and why I didn’t stop the date after meeting him at the restaurant?

( Edit: It was actually because he suggested we stay in the parking lot of the restaurant and I didn’t want to be there so I thought going to ikea where there will be people around will be a safer option but sadly that didn’t stop him too)

And they asked what was my tone when I said no. and if I said it firmly ?

I am usually very timid. I said no but I didn’t shout and say no. So they said all that could mean I was playing hard to get. It would just go to court and would just leave me miserable.

And if I complained to the Program Director and if he loses the job that he tried so hard to get for so many years that could make him very angry and he might try to physically harm me anytime later.

So they are asking me not to complain.

I have decided not to complain to the police because I don’t have the financial support to do that.

I was planning on complaining to the PD - should I report him or not? If I report him to the PD and if he loses the job, I am very scared if he will physically harm me like find out where I live and kill me or something.