Went to a matchmaking event online...

_mooness · 2020-08-18T01:57:13+00:00

I think you should try to be more internally validated instead of externally validated. Whether or not men give you attention shouldn’t make you feel SHOOK. It shouldn’t affect you that much at all. Do you think you’re attractive? Yes. Do YOU think you’re a catch? YES. So fuck them. Why do you care?

heliodrome · 2020-08-18T01:54:18+00:00

It’s possible you were more confident with the new nose? I would get the hell out of the matchmaking and just do whatever you please with your life that brings you happiness.

eveninghope · 2020-08-18T03:05:39+00:00

Maybe you were feeling self conscious and people picked up on it. I wouldn't sweat it. Sometimes people just have an off night. I have not had a rhinoplasty but from what I've read, people can fixate on it and convince themselves it's a massive change when it actually looks fine. This is just one incident out of a lifetime of interactions. Try to focus on internal validation.

a_throwawayy_ · 2020-08-18T09:51:51+00:00

why do you care about what males think of you?

curlygirl507 · 2020-08-18T03:39:28+00:00

Who cares? I'm sure you looked great! Plastic surgery has come a long way.

420snailmode · 2020-08-18T10:51:47+00:00

Woah woah woah, hold the phone girl. You are not defined by a small group of men’s opinions of you, hell, ANY man’s opinion of you. It has no correlation to how smart, funny, and pretty you are. If they don’t see it, so what? Guess who DOES see it? YOU! and guess who’s the only person that is gonna stick with you and have your back till the day you leave this planet? YOU! Sure, it’s nice to have people compliment you/ show interest, but it’s NOT the end of the world if they don’t. Life is a lot less stressful if you can just be yourself and focus on what makes you smile and what makes you enjoy life. I know, it’s easier said than done, but eventually you can stop caring about what others think and loving yourself will come naturally. I believe in you queen. Trust me, it’s not worth losing sleep over men’s (or anyone’s) opinions of you. You’re so, so much more than that!

NessaMonsta17 · 2020-08-18T02:43:34+00:00

Relax, it's just one event geez. Ur not ugly at all, lol. There just could of been a girl who got all the attention over u this time. Shoot this can happen for a number of reasons.

So stop over thinking it.

FDSxMuffinVSrat · 2020-08-19T18:39:41+00:00

I think perhaps you're just a little bit more aware of how much attention you're getting or not getting after the surgery.

Could just be a different batch of guys. Could be covids getting to people. It might have been that you were more nervous and like you said, gave short responses.

Give yourself some time to cool off and feel better then try again when you're up to it.

2020-08-30T20:57:21+00:00

Your nose is fine. There are uglier people than you and prettier people. People with weird eyes, ears, mouths, teeth. I doubt your looks had anything to do with it. Remember you don’t need every man to like you. I know you are feeling self conscious but wanting male attention / validation to make you feel better is not ever going to help you. That’s exactly when they don’t give us attention. It could have been a million things from your vibe to them not seeing you because your video wasn’t on their screen to them being not in the mood to pursue. I would have read into this too but you need to change your perspective. You don’t need all the men, especially because 99% are LV. You just need 1.

Title	Went to a matchmaking event online...
Author	OrchidLion
Upvotes	5
Comments	24
Date	August 18, 2020 1:34 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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