What do you do when you feel like you’re being clingy to a guy?

pissed_af · 2020-02-27T13:17:47+00:00

-Have you caught yourself double texting when he doesn't answer?

-Or coming up with "more interesting" stuff to text him

-Thinking you bore him?

I think if you feel you're being clingy there is already some power imbalance, no shame though most of us have been there

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-02-27T13:24:38+00:00

I think I should just take a step and cut him off for a while ?

It sounds like you already know the answer to your own question, sweetie. <3

My friend told me to text this guy a week later while I gather my emotions about him.

The next time you text him should be 24 hours after he's texted you. In the meantime, go on a date with someone else to remind yourself that this man is not the be-all end-all of your prospects.

Radiant_Success · 2020-02-27T15:34:19+00:00

I think about ALL of the things he's done for me.

Has he wined and dined me (and I do love good wine)?

Has he brought me flowers or any other gift?

Has he enhanced my life, solved any problems, alleviated any burdens, or benefited me in any way?

Does he behave as if I'm as great as I think I am, and like he would be a fool to lose a woman like me?

If the answers are negative, I tell myself that I'm playing myself.

I'm happy single because its stress free I don't question myself. If he's not adding to that happiness, or if he's making me question him, or if analyzing him and his actions is stressing me out, I disappear.

aclumsygirl · 2020-02-27T16:59:56+00:00

Our instincts are usually right. If you feel him pulling away, he probably is. The only thing to do is lean way back (no texting or calling) and see what he does, or just cut him off completely.

Either way, you should be firing up your dating rotation.

jmaydizzle · 2020-02-27T17:45:06+00:00

Have a LONG HOT SHOWER (or bath) when you want some immediate relief. Then exercise daily. Focus on yourself and what you want to achieve - whether that’s finishing a book or running a 5k. You can always find room to self improve and I tend to find when I’m in the flow of exercising or reading for myself I care less and less about the LVMs taking up valuable breathing space.

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-02-27T13:49:41+00:00

start entertaining other men. go on dates with other people. this subreddit is against this but maybe sleep with a guy you plan to never see again. clingy is a sign that you're putting all your eggs in this one lame ass basket.

7_0f_9 · 2020-02-27T15:30:25+00:00

Don't text him at all unless he texts you first. And ya take a step back and focus on yourself.

Dimethylchlorine · 2020-02-27T23:46:49+00:00

Utilize the scrotation. It really takes the edge off. Date more than 1 guy.

Let him text you, if he doesn’t text in 1 week well you got your answer there.

extraacct1234 · 2020-02-27T17:04:16+00:00

Get involved in your life. Go to some classes for a hobby, the gym, spend time with friends etc.

Title	What do you do when you feel like you’re being clingy to a guy?
Author	redfarmmmmm
Upvotes	25
Comments	43
Date	February 27, 2020 1:09 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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