Hey ladies, I realize that the majority of my romantic relationships with men have been toxic. I've really been working to level myself up after my divorce.

However, I'm wondering if my idea of love is totally warped. I grew up in an abusive household with lots of domestic violence, drug addiction, and suicide. I think my past relationships resemble the relationships I saw my mom endure. They have always been intense--quick, strong, and flammable. Swept me off my feet only to bring me into a snake pit.

So asking all the queen's with HVM relationships... What does your healthy, FDS love feel like? Is it still intensely passionate, a whirlwind of green flags? Or is it slow, mellow, comfortable?

Hope this makes sense. Thanks!

Ps- I am trying to get into therapy.