When you did everything in the wrong order...

Sage_Planter · 2021-01-30T04:00:35+00:00

Shoutout to the women posting "I've been with my boyfriend six years, and I'm not sure if I should tell him about this huge thing that bothers me..."

There is absolutely a right and a wrong way to approach difficult conversations, but you're not doing yourself any favors by holding off on saying things that are important to you.

2021-01-30T04:22:27+00:00

If you've got to ask, you're really nothing too serious. Sex isn't going to change that.

SnooEagles9138 · 2021-01-30T09:58:13+00:00

I remember when I was younger and I was watching american sitcoms - there were so many instances where people would sleep with each other after 3 dates, or hooking up for a while, but were making always a huge fuzz about dropping the L-word.

To me the order has always been 1.confessing feelings 2.Sleeping with someone not the other way around. Also starting to date someone without having butterflies is such a foreign concept to me - e.g OLD.

whatawonderfulepoch · 2021-01-30T11:35:57+00:00

100%, shit is so backwards. It would be funny if it wasn't so tragic

EffectiveHoneydew422 · 2021-01-30T16:48:50+00:00

"I feel weird and uncomfortable sitting down at a restaurant and eating dinner with a guy I barely know, but being completely naked with his penis inside me it totes chill" - pickmes (no judging Ive been there its just so fucking bizzare to me now that sex gets used as an ICE BREAKER )

Davina33 · 2021-01-30T08:27:01+00:00

So true!

Ayxmiii · 2021-01-30T08:52:25+00:00

Honestly !

nancy5559 · 2021-01-30T20:19:14+00:00

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CynicalSucculent · 2021-01-30T21:28:09+00:00

I love her accent

Poggersisms · 2021-02-02T02:51:04+00:00

Nothing more deeply embarrassing than a high value, educated, smart, beautiful woman sleeping w/ a lazy, ignorant, loser man and her getting upset because he didn’t wanna play house and call her all nice on Valentine’s Day. Sis, please. Please stop. This is like the libfem equivalent of conservative 1950s housewives dressing up all pretty and cooking a good dinner to try to win back their cheating ass abusive ass husbands from the young secretary. Humiliating. You are NOT winning!! Stop. You’re too good to be falling for this. Not in 2021, sis. Let’s do what’s right for WOMEN!!

Defiant_Refuse_4726 · 2021-01-30T14:12:36+00:00

Honestly, I wish I'd come across FDS sooner... like just five months ago sooner. I have always since my history of dating after 18 jumped into bed with men on the first or second date and stayed for a whole rElAtIoNsHiT afterwards. I obviously have the blinders off now and realize this is not the way to do things or solidify a partnership, but what can I do to change the past? Nothing. (LOL therapppyyy ftw) I bristle at this meme because it feels sort of shamey. Like... "must have been nice to have people in your life contradict the brainwashing patriarchy and rape culture on your way to adulthood" SIIIIGH

Title	When you did everything in the wrong order...
Author	Less-Panic
Upvotes	851
Comments	23
Date	January 30, 2021 3:35 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/l8csh2/when_you_did_everything_in_the_wrong_order/
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