Any positive uplifting advice for a dad going through a child custody battle with a bat ish crazy mom that is on psychological medication? It’s a major downer going through this wish I found Mgtow before this happened thank goodness I never married her. Still painful as crap love my boy.

betterredthenwed · 2018-10-29T15:33:03+00:00

Take the high road. Children learn by watching. My ex-wife was off her rocker. She self meditated with alcohol. And food.

It was hell for me, but I never once trash talked her or made excuses for her. My son and I have a stronger relationship as a result.

Best wishes, brother.

whiskeyandbasketball · 2018-10-29T17:30:27+00:00

My co worker was willing to give up everything to get 50% custody of his kid. She could keep the house, the cars, money, he just wanted to be in his son's life.

She fought him tooth and nail over everything because she wanted full custody, even accused him of being alcoholic, which hes not.

Judge took his side, he got 50% custody, no child support, half the equity in the house, and half her retirement. Legal system isnt equal yet, but its getting better. Dont lose hope, and do the best you can.

deadBeefCafe2014 · 2018-10-29T15:22:57+00:00

Fight for your son. Do not settle for less than 50/50. The battle is worth every sacrifice.

Unlike your STBX, your son can come to love you unconditionally, as much of a pain in the ass as they can be. She is not capable of raising a boy into a man. That falls squarely on you.

Iqbal40862715 · 2018-10-29T16:01:30+00:00

I’m divorced a few months from a nagging narcissistic control freak cunt who is hellbent on being vile and hurting my 5 year old daughter in the process

Anytime I extended an olive branch to deal with her she’d metaphorically spit in my face

It got so bad I found myself thinking “if her new black boyfriend OJ Simpsons her ass I won’t have sympathy”

If there is anything I’ve learned it’s

Forget about trying to be civil now

Myopically focus on your boy

Shoot to give him stability regular bed times don’t shit on his mother even though she deserves it

Get up earlier in the day before your kid to take care of yourself then focus on being a dad

Don’t worry about getting laid. I bought a fleshlight to control the urges

Focus on living a frugal efficiently spending your dough no waste life

Good luck

mgtower1 · 2018-10-29T15:24:55+00:00

Stay strong this will pass in time. Show you son how much you care and in time he'll figure out who has his best interests. Right now it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. But if you persevere your son will be your reward.

Minimeiser · 2018-10-29T15:32:43+00:00

Use her mental illness against her and make some shit up about knives and being worried about the boys safety. Recount instances of her hallucinating.

Playstation_5 · 2018-10-29T18:17:38+00:00

My experience: as the kids get older it often become a a case of loving and tolerating their mom but adoring and respecting their father as the parent who never manipulated bullied or mistreated them.

rooster-one4 · 2018-10-29T15:20:15+00:00

Yeah, though busy tight now and can't answer, I dealt with this and have custody. Posting to remind myself.

ikeaharlot · 2018-10-29T18:34:33+00:00

well. my mother was batshit crazy when I was young. my parents didn’t separate, but our whole family was very dysfunctional back then. we kinda just had to deal with the situation.

however, after I (and my brother) grew up to adulthood we have forged a very good relationship with our father. my mom and father separated later on which was a huge relief for everyone.

as someone else said: kids are not stupid. be there (fight for some kind of custody, preferably 50/50 and be there for them), be reasonable (teach them the ropes and allow them to make mistakes) and be solid father-figure — they will appreciate and love you for it

HackrKnownAsFullChan · 2018-10-29T17:10:46+00:00

I feel for you, I've been there myself.

First thing is to figure out what's most important for you. For me it's being a father. That meant I had to cool down my rage, focus on the future, spend money, stay patient until I got 50-50.

Then to be a good father you'll have to manage your relationship with your son's mother. If you can't be friendly, be civil. You're doing it for your son. It will be difficult, she'll be a bitch throughout. But you don't have to take shit, you have to set the rules.

And find leverage. Be pitiless and keep your goal in mind.

At some point you'll have figured out out, it will be smooth and your son will make it all worth it.

I have two, so for me it's double the reward :)

Stay strong brother and win this game.

kushpatel3410 · 2018-10-29T17:12:09+00:00

Doesn't being on psychological medication render her an unfit parent?

Whatever the outcome, stay strong and raise your son to be better than this

MuleFool42 · 2018-10-29T18:45:05+00:00

Get as much custody of him as you can. If she's that f'd up then it's in his best interest and you may succeed. It also will cut down on how much child support you'd have to send her. If you can get primary guardianship then she'd have to pay you.

Good luck.

9_line07-15 · 2018-10-29T18:46:56+00:00

Brother, Let me begin by giving my credentials, while also saying that I DO NOT know everything.

Divorced my boys mom shortly after re-enlisting (active duty in the USMC). She went home with my two boys and I had 3 years left on my contract. When finish those 3 years and get home I immediate begin court proceedings to get what I believe I deserve. 50/50. End of story is a year later and a bunch of court BS I have my two boys 50/50. She was crazy as well and physically violent. I’m 6’2’ 250 lbs and could have crushes her but then I lose in the long run.

It’s a tough road brother, and it is hard but you can do it. They’ll be ups and downs, hard day and days that will be easier than others. In court they’ll probably make you do a plethora of “crap.” Just maintain your “posture” in court and in public. Her true colors WILL show it’s just a matter of when. I did all of my venting at home or behind closed doors. You’ll get through this. I wish you all the best.

RobertTheGenius · 2018-10-29T20:44:08+00:00

Stay off social media and keep your nose clean. In my experience crazy bitches like her will eventually sabotage themselves when there man isn't there anymore and they get to make decisions themselves

MattFoley79 · 2018-10-29T23:01:31+00:00

Been through it... going through another round with the ex-wife in the courts right now. Wish I could say it will all turn out fine... basically, just try to get through it without eating a bullet and you'll be a hero to many of us.

DannyNog556 · 2018-10-29T23:19:34+00:00

Damn, having kids with a crazy woman is hard. It’s hard to keep composure when she erupts and wants to fight in front of the kid, I should know... I feel your pain brother and yes, you are very fortunate that you didn’t get married... FML!!!!

CraigMcCloud · 2018-10-29T15:51:18+00:00

can't offer any advice (never dealt with a family court nor a woman). There are youtubers who help men to deal with this crap every day. MisandryToday and some other dude named Mgtowlawyer I think. Check them out if no other solution comes to mind

binkerfluid · 2018-10-29T20:29:27+00:00

Stay strong and be there for your kid (which you are trying to do)

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