Women destroyed me.

Chrollo-Lucilfer · 2017-03-13T07:03:12+00:00

First of all you are saved. Don't think like that she destroyed your life. She just use you and throw you away. Learn the lessons from your mistakes and don't repeat them. They say some will come in your life and you will find love all again those saying are bullshit. Everyone knows a broken glass can't be fixes no matter what you do, you can still see the cracks. Relationships are also like that your are now just a broken glass that smash in to pieces. Don't cry over or occupying your mind thinking about over spilled milk. Gather your pieces glue them and live your life. Do things that you like and don't think about others.

LibraryGuyMGTOW · 2017-03-13T09:08:17+00:00

Oh man I know this pain, I couldn't sleep or eat for weeks. I lost so much weight it was crazy and I chained smoked until I started coughing up some mad sticky shit I can't describe. Believe me you have hit your bottom but I'm not going to give you any 'the only way is upwards' niceties. This is going to suck and hurt for quite a while and it is going to be a struggle but just focus on each day and focus on doing something, anything to take your mind off the trainwreck that has just happened and that is what it is, casualties all over the place and it will take time to recover from your wounds.
MGTOW is your hospital and refuge while you get better.
Lots here have been through the wringer, some absolute horror stories so read their tales to see you are one of many.
As for me, the woman that drove me to actually google 'easy suicide'? I saw her last year and felt absolutely nothing for her and she also has just past the wall and those bricks ain't been kind.
You will find you dodged a bullet too my friend.

phreshstart · 2017-03-13T06:58:40+00:00

I've been there and it sucks. All I can say is that it takes time to heal and you have to take baby steps to improve your life. Give yourself a break for now, keep sleeping(it helps the mind to heal and to cope with reality) and do whatever you feel like. When you start to feel better look into things you enjoy doing. I like cooking because I can take control of what I put in my body. A healthy body is essential for a healthy mind.

You can also reverse that brain damage you're talking about trough meditation. This is what worked for me, your journey might be different. You have to rediscover yourself, without that life sucking bitch attached to you. That's what going your own way means.

eagleye101 · 2017-03-13T10:30:42+00:00

Stoic philosophy ASAP

shellbroth · 2017-03-13T07:19:37+00:00

How long has it been, friend?

Sometimes recovery can take as long as 25-50% of the relationship length. So if you dated 12 months, that would be 3 months to fully get over it and resolve your emotions. It takes time man, hang tight.

Benny757 · 2017-03-13T12:22:48+00:00

You were taught that love was real and reciprocal. You are now going through the stage of enlightenment, or, as we call it, swallowing the red pill. Modern feminism continues to destroy any hopes of a true relationship. Yet the narrative suppresses the value of modern masculinity while upholding and supporting the feminist ideal of supporting the woman above and and beyond any value of a normal relationship built on love and trust between a man and a woman.

In short, you are going through the motions that will bring you to MGTOW. This is your grieving process. Much like any other death, you are naturally suffering a death of your understanding of love as it was taught to you. Welcome to the red pill lense. You are almost to the part where you say "I just don't give a fuck." It take some more time and pain. Embrace it. You are almost there.

pawsahf · 2017-03-13T09:01:21+00:00

"This too shall pass"

Survival is the only game at the end of the day everything else is insignificant bullshit. Keep on keeping on, if you need more sleep atm no problemo, your body will tell you, listen closely.

Massgumption · 2017-03-13T11:20:17+00:00

Four easy steps, no alcohol, no smokes, regular exercise daily...even going for long walks if you aren't naturally inclined, and reading/meditation before bed...close your phone a couple hours before so you aren't distracted.

Your body will revert back soon enough.

ThePenitentMan38 · 2017-03-13T07:30:54+00:00

I found that exercise improves my mood. Take it slowly and in small steps, but be persistent. Do it every day and make no excuse to skip. Use this book as a guide:

Adult Physical Fitness

cyborg_type_darkness · 2017-03-13T11:26:28+00:00

"Whatever does not kill you makes you stronger"

Your life didn't get destroyed but you gained a whole new life. Imagine if she still was with you and she could manipulate you because you had feelings for her. Trust me she did you a huge favour. Otherwise, you could have married her, made her pregnant or a lot worse things that could happen. 10 years from now on she will look like crap and you will ask yourself why you even felt something for her in the first place. It's your reproductive instinct doing the work. One question you should ask yourself is would you go back to her if she wanted.

p.s success is the sweetest revenge.

mofono · 2017-03-13T08:41:58+00:00

Try to find meaning in life. You have let go of her and she is behind you now. Forget about her.

I suggest you go on YouTube and watch "the red pill grief cycle" and also watch videos by Messenger Rising.

Good luck.

saggsy · 2017-03-13T08:50:38+00:00

Hey man, you're in a bad place right now, and you know what? That's ok. You've reached out for help, and that's the first step to getting back to being you. No one can tell you what will work for you, as everyone is different. For me, I found a therapist who I get on with. I read Eckhart Tolle and found out what was really going on inside my head. It's been 15 months since I last tried suicide and for me now the world is a beautiful playground. It was hard work because I'm worth it. So are you.

Feel free to pm me anytime.

FuckedExistence · 2017-03-13T10:03:52+00:00

A fucking narcissistic psychopathic hoe.. This fucking bitch caused me brain damage

This is victim talk. You're better than that

I've been through rough times, and what's helped me more than anything else is this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_J0Ahh3UxbM

Life is going to hit you hard no matter what. MGTOWs who think they can live an easy life without problems by avoiding women are deluding themselves. Like Rocky says, it's about how you can keep moving forward regardless of how tough life gets

That is the best revenge. To be a survivor instead of a victim. This girl couldn't destroy you. She could beat you down, but you have the power to get right back up and even become stronger from it

JackWithTheHammer · 2017-03-13T11:15:54+00:00

Here's what I did to treat my depression :

Exercise. It is the most efficient way to beat depression. About 50% of your total result will come from working out. Run, do aerobics or lift. Tip: find exercise videos on YouTube to motivate you, run outside, preferably in the woods for an extra dose of oxygen, and instead of a gym membership, get a set of adjustable dumbbells you can use at home.
Sleep a lot. You're sleepy because your body is telling you it needs to rest. You've been through trauma. If you survive a war or plane crash, your body and mind will be exhausted, same with psychobitches. Get the rest you need but also don't neglect to do what you must.
Rewire your brain. Your depressive thoughts are like a highway and the positive thoughts you ought to think is like a cow path. It's easier to travel on the highway, but if you make an effort to walk the cow path, the more you walk it, the more it will grow bigger while the highway is deteriorating. One day the cow path has become the highway. Train yourself to capture negative thought mid-thought and wrestle them into positive thoughts. Like "That damn bitch... taught me a valuable lesson that will serve me well in the future. Bless her."
Eat well. Less carbs, more protein. Less processed food, more organic. Replace sugar with xylitol. Eat your veggies. Get your probiotika. What you eat ends up in your gut, and what's in your gut affects your gut health, and your gut is directly connected to your brain so it will affect your brain health as well.
Supplement. Lecitin, Ginkgo, 5-HTP, L-tryptophan, Omega 3, N-acetylcysteine, etc. There are lots of options that make your brain work better and lowers depression.
Have fun. Find that hobby that even if you can only do it once a week, makes you smile for three days afterward, and also makes you smile three days beforehand as you look forward to doing it again. For me, it's archery. I'm on my way to the range wearing a shit eating grin. 😁

But first step: Get your butt out of that couch, put on your running shoes and get your ass around the block. 👍

HierEncore · 2017-03-13T12:04:29+00:00

It may be helpful to acknowledge that this woman was not the one who fucked your life up.. You've likely been fucked in the head growing up that put you in such a emotionally precarious place to begin with. You've emotionally se yourself up for this and she just consumed you like a predator, as some women will... Bpd or schizo or other issues.

You will be ok. Stay away from mental women. If that means going monk for a while, it will be a therapeutic experience and you will feel and be better for it.

shellbroth · 2017-03-13T09:34:18+00:00

I've been there, for years... I wanted to end my life regularly and almost took the plunge a few times...

But once you swallowed the pill and understand that in fact it was a single way relationship from the start, that she never loved you as you understand love, but only for what you can provide her (status, money, stability), you can mourn the relationship and be in peace with it.

The next step is to find things to do, hobbies, that makes you feel good about yourself. You need to rebuild the self-confidence, and to learn how to focus all your energy on yourself only.

No, your life isn't worthless, your life is the most important thing in the whole universe, it's the only thing that really matters. Don't waste it on someone else who doesn't give a shit about you.

Hang in there buddy, you can do it!

Nothing246 · 2017-03-13T09:45:31+00:00

I'm gonna make it so theres 12 people who care. You've had this outrageous negative experince, my suggestion is that you do things that are positive. Let off some fire works, cooking, break some stuff, read a novel, fuck some chicks, exercise in a gym enviroment. The list goes on n on. Do what you feel and you will start to feel your old self minus 1 leech.

e2npau · 2017-03-13T10:27:16+00:00

I hear you, my story is not that different.

Start new, get a grip on you existence and work out the basic, set goals and achieve them. That's my plan.

97697 · 2017-03-13T10:50:31+00:00

I know how you feel bro.

n0SkDo3puh · 2017-03-13T11:47:15+00:00

You are safe now. Never agains rely on a woman. AWALT, they are pushed into the cheat-chad fantasy as a hot torrid forbidden sin they must fulfill if they have the chance. Your life is precious, you could help a lot of people, save people's lives, be rich already and a lot of things. Educate yourself better, take care of your health better and think positively. Go to a escort twice a month to get your body hormones in shape.

batfish55 · 2017-03-13T11:49:07+00:00

Without getting too personal (can't afford to be spotted), let's just say that I was in a CRAZY stressful period in my life when my fiancee of 6 years decided to split, no warning signs or reason given. I don't think I shaved in a month. Showered once a week. Safe to say that's where you're at?

Shrooms, man, shrooms. The magic variety. I always wanted to try them. Been dealing with depression most of my life, and I'd read several articles about non-US science using psychedelics to treat (cure?) depression.

At any rate, happened to make a friend who was a closet lsd/shroom freak, got me a hookup, got us a sitter, dropped some shrooms.

I didn't care for the high that much (you get really thirsty, and it's hard to drink from a cup when your depth perception is fuuuucked), but the "hangover"....man....for like a month, I was unflappable. NOTHING bothered me. NOTHING got under my skin. NOTHING could irritate me. NOTHING could make me angry. Best of all, depression, gone. Like a weight had been lifted. Just mellow AF. For a friggin month.

Yea, it's a crutch. But it's better than drinking yourself to oblivion. Plus, it'll help long term while you adjust.

JayFuckingNorris · 2017-03-13T12:10:01+00:00

I wish I could say it gets better man... I really do.

Red_Shambhala · 2017-03-13T13:40:57+00:00

Make a schedule for the things you have to do daily and then check your schedule each day, giving yourself a check once you've finished this specific thing (working out, do the necessary stuff for work, college [or finding work] or whatever), read a little about a topic not related to work, college, etc. (two pages or so is already enough).

The most important thing is that you have a structure in your life; if you don't have a structure in your life, well, get one now. Then you will go on with your life, work on your schedule (work: check, reading: check, eating healthy today: check, work out: check, meditate: check, etc. etc.) and one day the pain will be over.

The important thing is that you don't destroy your life while waiting for the pain to be over. (And if you're still able and willing to write here on reddit, you haven't hit rock bottom yet.)

--Steak · 2017-03-13T18:50:39+00:00

OP You dodged a bullet

Something that got me thinking was watching this and reading this (granted it has some sarcastic humor in it).

Maybe it will help you too! I also 110% agree with what /u/Snyggkille stated as well... except maybe joining my electric motor scooter gang in GTA 5 for PC..

soullessgeth · 2017-03-13T08:27:49+00:00

i find drinking until i can't think or feel feelings works when things get really bad. just don't overdo it friend

BukM1 · 2017-03-13T11:05:21+00:00

you got out early and are now in prime position to build an independant life the relies only on yourself.

whatever misery you think you are in could be a million times worse if you were married 30 years and she divorce raped you and you had kids and the whole ongoing saga was causing you eternal grief.

you got a clean break, use it, sculpt yourself and dont take shit from anyone ever again.

a moments grief is better than a lifetime as a chump. you should be thankful you awoke when you did.

Kennen1Trick · 2017-03-13T14:14:36+00:00

Lift! Get up early and make a schedule. When you first wake up, down a big cup of water. Force yourself to enjoy your own company.

MRA-automatron-2kb · 2017-03-13T14:22:57+00:00

Now is the time to take care of YOU.

owq · 2017-03-13T14:56:30+00:00

I've had my share of crazy women, and all I just wanted to say is that all your feelings come from within. The heart break, depression, brain damage -- it's all caused by your reaction to her craziness. I don't know what works for you, and how long it'll take. But time will help, as it did for me. Focus on the current moment, not the past, nor the future.

-God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to tell the difference.

heavylead · 2017-03-13T15:01:06+00:00

Bang her friends, works for me when a relationship ends, I usually want to bang 'em anyway. It's a great way to finalize a relationship and revenge sex is fun .

starkiwi · 2017-03-13T15:26:56+00:00

Dude, you sound just like me 10 years ago after my ex. At the time I couldn't see it but life is weird. Turns out it was the best thing that happened to me, changed my perspective in a lot of ways. I learned a lot about myself and in particular what I want and what I won't accept in a relationship.

I wrote the whole story out in a post last week on the "when did you realize your SO was the wrong one" but ended up deleting it. Anyway it was a fucked up story and even after breaking up she gave her 100% champion effort to fuck with my mind and make it as drawn out and painful for me as possible. Ended up clinically depressed and took me months to crawl out of that hole.

Listen to these guys telling you to hit the gym. I channeled all that anger and heartbreak into moving iron and it changed my life, now I have a terrific physique, big and strong as fuck (205lb/6'1/10-12%bf) at 34.

knightwhosaysneet · 2017-03-13T15:38:28+00:00

Dude. It happens. Stop thinking so short term. This shit takes months or even years to get over. And even then, it's like a cold sore and will pop up at the worse time. Just stay busy. Get hobbies. I train in boxing and it def helps.

tyrexxx1231 · 2017-03-13T16:07:27+00:00

"If we can forgive what's been done to us... If we can forgive what we've done to others... If we can leave our stories behind. Our being victims and villains. Only then can we maybe rescue the world".

Klimthourglass · 2017-03-13T16:13:22+00:00

If you would realize this happens to people all the time who attach themselves to others you will get over it faster. Always leave something in reserve.

humbleguy73 · 2017-03-13T16:31:36+00:00

Hang in there man. Women have a habit of taking advantage of kind/giving men, chewing them up, and spitting them out... often for completely insane and irrational reasons. Put simply, all women are NUTS and contact with them should be under specific conditions. When the ring goes on or when they have a child, THEY CHANGE and always for the worst, as at that point they think they OWN you. Its cheaper and simpler to just deal with women on a very short term basis. Whether it be for work, or for a quick nut. Yeah it fucking sucks as I was raised to be a good giving and selfless man. I followed that path for decades and it has led to nothing but misery and pauperhood. I'm on my second marriage (i'm a dumbass) and its round 2 of nearly the same shit. The first time around was a complete disaster. Round 2 is even WORSE. My hypothesis is all women have inherent mental disorders. Sure, we all have our own idiosyncrasies, but women are exacerbated FAR more due to their general emotional/hormone driven irrationality. Ex was bipolar. The current one apparently has borderline personality disorder. I'm fucking SICK of being a psychologist in my spare time. No wonder so many psychologists are nuts at the get-go (as stated by friends who are in the field).. and dealing with this crap day in and day out.

Stay strong my friend. You will get through this. I know all about the physical pain, the lethargy, the lack of focus. I nearly offed myself three times (DONT DO THAT!).

I essentially survived on anti-anxiety meds and the periodic smoke of mj (legal in my state), and time eventually somewhat resolved things. I still suffer from extreme generalized anxiety disorder. My normal state of being is waking up shaking and with sweats all night. Panic attacks are typical. I just learn that it is a part of me now... it doesn't make it any easier, but I keep it as a reminder that this shit isn't worth it.

Next step for me... figure out what to do with round #2. She won't change. She has the temper tantrums and mentality of a 5 year old with the slyness of a 35 year old experienced manipulator. Dangerous combination. Likely what will happen to me next is this. I'll fall back into my nice-guy pattern. She'll act all nice. Then eventually she'll pull the trigger and screw me.... despite HER being the abusive one. The LAW does not treat men and women equally. NEVER assume they will. I'm wiring up my house with security cams in the coming weeks to help cover my sorry ass.

Bah. Onwards and upwards. Or at least try. The good news.. the last woman messed me up so bad, that the current woman can't screw me up much more than this.

Datson_Horrenbrand · 2017-03-13T16:55:58+00:00

you need to heal yourself and read about being codependent.

the fact you are loving someone does not mean you should allow someone to hurt you.

read about BPD and codependence, there's a nice reddit subforum about it.

Earthworm_Djinn · 2017-03-13T17:03:50+00:00

Hey man. I got separated from my STBX wife last May, and we're finalizing divorce in the coming months. I feel the same way.

Started seeing a psychiatrist, who got me on a med that helped me feel okay, which was an improvement. Started Cognitive Behavioral Therapy as well.

All of these are just kind of steps and bandaids toward wellbeing, combined with new habits and working on examining my changing philosophies.

Big blow, but those things can help you want to even work at it.

PabloEscoba · 2017-03-13T17:09:26+00:00

Hang in there mate. It gets better with time. Kill the need for female validation by watching lots of MGTOW videos(especially the ones centered around female nature). Study hypergamy,female solipsism and briffaults law.Trust me you will want nothing to do with them after that.

SgtMGTOW · 2017-03-13T17:28:20+00:00

Hobbies. Hobbies. Hobbies.

Get some. Pursue some.

LostInTheHead · 2017-03-13T18:46:47+00:00

You've survived, not destroyed, through tenacity and grit. Don't think otherwise

mgtow4lifefellas · 2017-03-13T19:44:48+00:00

All that matters from now on, son, is that you finally found MGTOW. You are saved. Some people have to go through some extreme shit to wake up. Whatever it takes, though. Anyhow, time to focus on yourself now. If you got any questions or just want to talk, just know we're here for you. MGTOW saves lives and we stick together.

Never doubt yourself, stay focused, never let anything slow or stop you.

MGTOW FOR LIFE FELLAS!

FuckedExistence · 2017-03-13T22:23:31+00:00

Stop. Here is what you do. Get your diet under strict control. I am serious -foods you eat will cause and aggravate depression. You have a blender? Starting tomorrow morning you are going to start juicing. Some raw green kale. Some fruit for sweetner (absolutely no sugar), pineapple or mango. Put some raw peeled ginger in that, about a half an inch. A teaspoon of tumeric and half teaspoon of black pepper. A half an avocado. Add water to help liquify and blend. Drink half of this in the morning half later in the day. Drop all the shit food. No meat, no filler foods like pasta and breads Your diet should be mostly green, leafy foods with fruit. Raw, not canned.

You should notice the affects almost immediately.

Then you get a mountain bike and start going on trails hit them so your heart gets a really good workout.

If you keep this up, and combine great diet with exercise, things will get better for you very rapidly. Your physical later will affect your mental layer. Take care of that physical first, then later you will be better equipped to deal with your thoughts.

Onkel_Adolf · 2017-03-14T03:03:36+00:00

Get a dressmaker's dummy, dress it like a whore, and flog the fuck out of it several times a day. Works for me!

uud4tea · 2017-03-15T00:16:31+00:00

Look into drugs. I think that's the only way

Dank_Meems · 2017-03-15T16:41:29+00:00

I'm emotionally broken due to women. I also have zero fucks left to give thanks to women. I don't know if I should thank them or slap them.

androenergy · 2017-03-13T10:51:20+00:00

Read "If" by Rudyard Kipling...it will help you rebuild http://www.kiplingsociety.co.uk/poems_if.htm

leditor999888 · 2017-03-14T00:28:14+00:00

Youll find yourself, times heals most of things - if you want specific advice in depression PM me, maybe I can act wise or maybe I wont, hold on brother!

MessyEnema · 2017-03-13T11:36:43+00:00

This is pathetic and it's not MGTOW. Where's the self respect? The independence? You exhibit no MGTOW qualities.

You're not going your own way, you're still chained to her.

She "destroyed your life because you loved her?" ugh.
She "caused you brain damage?" ugh.
Your "hole (sic) existence turned into crap?" ugh.

You're not ready.

Title	Women destroyed me.
Author	FuckedExistence
Upvotes	105
Comments	142
Date	March 13, 2017 6:33 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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