How do you combat loneliness

MarqNiffler · 2019-09-13T00:00:14+00:00

I’m of the opinion that there’s nothing wrong in being with a woman. Just don’t put yourself in a position of vulnerability or risk.

batfish55 · 2019-09-13T07:20:51+00:00

You just gotta get used to it. Keep reading stories about guys getting divorce raped and women fucking guys over in general. It'll sink in.

I dunno...get a dog? They're always happy to see you. Fuckton cheaper than a wife, too.

mechgaige · 2019-09-13T10:41:56+00:00

Spend time outdoors, go camping and fishing with your children. Once they are hooked, you will spend the other 50% prepping. You will interact with others doing the same. Also, bro take care of yourself and know you have our support!

Roto2esdios · 2019-09-13T11:28:16+00:00

I am surrounded by women (nurse student) and I am fine, just trying to go on my own and feels good man. I chat superficially and listen some bullshit. I try to enjoy some of it, but when that starts to be iimbearable (talk about nonsense) I just go. I dont make excuses... just go. Really try this they stop working. The next day they change their attitude and they are nicer until they get accostumated again an repeat. They hate not having attention.

I need a very little social interaction. I have a group of old coworkers which I go to eat luch. I have my laughs and whatever ... and all done!!

I love my life as it is. The worst period of my life was with a woman.

Roto2esdios · 2019-09-13T11:37:36+00:00

My life:

Some social interaction... if things get weird I just go (funny thing I get phoned to make plans, lucky I guess)

Emotional interaction: cat (in the future I want a house full of cats and dogs), NO WOMEN

Sex interaction: expensive whores from time to time, jerking

Rest of the time: rollerblading, boxing, research stuff (Life Sciences), watch youtubers MTOWG, music, some series/anime, gaming (very little I dont like games anymore)

Shalin_316 · 2019-09-13T11:39:03+00:00

There's no such thing as loneliness. It's the term weak people use. Solitude is what you should be seeking for

TigPlaze · 2019-09-13T13:49:06+00:00

Not all MGTOW like this idea, but I use the services of a professional cuddlist. For an hourly rate, she cuddles with me but we don't do sexual stuff. I have the money and it makes me feel good, so it works for me. It's an honest transaction, unlike dating which is just a carrot and stick ripoff.

LesterBurnham97 · 2019-09-13T15:02:59+00:00

Your problem is that you are a guy who needs social interaction with others and your programmed brain tells you that it has to be a woman.

You could try hobbies that are being done with others.

I started with mountainbiking for example as it is possible to do it both ways on your own or in a group.

Another benefit of mountainbiking is that not too many women do it so it is more of a man's club.

taco_smasher69 · 2019-09-13T20:41:01+00:00

I've found that working out helps out a LOT. After a tough workout I get this big endorphin rush and just feel good. I don't care if I'm alone or not. And I notice this when I don't workout --- I feel like I should be around people. I found that just going grocery shopping or walking around in a place full of people for ten minutes helps a LOT with this feeling.

You can also try drugs -- I know some people look down on this, whining how its not "natural" while they scarf down their genetically engineered food filled with artificial flavors and chemically enhanced meats.

https://www.chicagomaroon.com/article/2019/2/16/uchicago-professor-developing-pill-lonliness/

JustOnePixel · 2019-09-13T22:50:22+00:00

Try getting a pet, making a bunch of friends so you have some people to hang out with when others are busy, stay busy so you don’t think about your loneliness, there are quite a few things you can do.

Quick_Safe · 2019-09-14T01:45:51+00:00

Hey.

I see this in my dad sometimes. When my mom is gone he gets quite restless. I think you could try to adopt the point of view that the 'loneliness' you feel might be the result of her conditioning on you over years and years to keep you around.

Try exploring your state of mind before you ever met this person and what your life was like. Did the quality of your 'loneliness' have the same signature/feel to it before or is it different now? More intense? More feral? More uncomfortable? Then chances might be you're doing through an actual detox.

Keep in mind that cells divide and die off, every 7 years it's a whole new you, with no original "pieces" left, just the patterns they carried on. What pattern will be written into the cells of tomorrow is up to you. My advice would be to just sit and be with the loneliness as best you can at the time before pushing it away again. Meditating or doing yoga might be good.

As far as short term strategies go, they are designed to be short term and won't address the root of the problem. But try walking in nature, going hiking alone or if you're brave get some mushrooms and try a soft reset on your perspectives.

If you choose the latter, do some research on erowid.

Best wishes!

Liquid_Leopard · 2019-09-14T05:15:08+00:00

When I first became single I also went through this a lot. I forced myself to do a "rehabilitation" period where I only did isolated things by myself. I'd go through tough periods where I was lonely but it made me find alternatives. I took up running, going to the gym, I got into photography and I even started playing some ole video games and picked up my pool stick again.

My suggestion would be to let that loneliness rest with you and work through it solo. You'll definitely go through some rough days, but it will strengthen you to where you need that validation less and less. I'm monk now for over a year and I enjoy being alone and doing what I want, when I want 99% of the time. I'm definitely liking being solo more than with other people, but it takes time to find that self confidence again.

Blahfknblah · 2019-09-14T09:24:46+00:00

Pregnenolone!

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2019/jan/26/pill-for-loneliness-psychology-science-medicine

Not to downplay the importance of good social interaction but a lot of what we call loneliness might just be some kind of physiological stress. We are an era of being flooded with exogenous hormones and differed stresses. We can no longer expect our chemistry to not be tampered with. It is.

avtarius · 2019-09-13T06:50:14+00:00

You refer to it as loneliness, so first figure out if this "loneliness" is just a preprogrammed label for being alone.

The lemmings always think being alone is being lonely, that's not how it works. Social butterflies can still feel lonely because they have nothing of value other than external acknowledgment.

First understand what this feeling you call "loneliness" is really about, and then see if there's a good solution to it.

Right now it just seems to me you're mistaking programmed purpose (feeling whole) with this thing you call "loneliness".

perryurban · 2019-09-13T04:44:35+00:00

Get a dog. They're the best human beings out there

retard_____ · 2019-09-13T00:13:23+00:00

I'm just spit balling but can you get therapy? I know a therapist would help me with my loneliness more than dating.

JackSkell0255 · 2019-09-13T00:37:52+00:00

This sounds similar to a recent question in the other forum. My advice is the same:

Change the music that you put into your ears. No country and western, no R&B, pop music. I’m old enough not to care about hip-hop, So I don’t know what to tell you, but you get the idea. Anything that encourages simping feelings is out.

I moved to jazz, classical, and pipe organ music. I will also do 70s rock. Watch the lyrics that go into your head.

ELPwork · 2019-09-13T00:45:26+00:00

When I start to feel lonely, I just remember how much I hate people and my loneliness tends to just fade away.

SUEDE2BLACK · 2019-09-13T00:52:03+00:00

You just need a dopamine hit.Hit the Gym by a motorcycle do some home contraction projects watch Anime and get into online gaming.

cracksniffer666 · 2019-09-13T11:30:52+00:00

I look at people that NEED some sort of human interaction at all times, and fucking laugh.

People that think it's INSANE to eat in a restaurant alone, or go see a film alone. THOSE are the lonely people. Don't forget.

801735 · 2019-09-13T01:26:45+00:00

getting over this need for a woman's validation once and for all?

Get married again. Maybe this time you'll learn?

Setari · 2019-09-13T01:46:32+00:00

You're seeking companionship, not love.

Maybe get a pet. For me, pets don't replace human companionship though, which is why I'm hoping AI that can actually hold a legitimate conversation will be a thing in my lifetime, and be affordable enough for me to have at home, in a "person in my house" way.

PhilNEvo · 2019-09-13T01:47:13+00:00

I do it by keeping busy with hobbies and friends whenever I'm not working~

BertTheWelder · 2019-09-13T01:51:03+00:00

Make good and meaningful memories with your male friends. Go places you will enjoy. Do projects together. Have beers and BBQ. See movies together. The only thing your male friends can’t give you is sex. (Yeah, yeah I know.) But you don’t need a woman to live a good life.

I love a number of my male friends and I love them in the most #nohomo way possible. Still, there are a few of them I would jump on a grenade for. I think the feeling is somewhat mutual.

Man (the species, not the gender) is a social animal. We need connections with people. They don’t need to be sexual or romantic.

Maple_Gunman · 2019-09-13T03:16:26+00:00

Everyone needs to get out at least once a week and go to a place where they can just be themselves. Whether it’s church, a night class, a hobby meetup, support meeting- something. Anything where you can learn, socialize but most importantly be yourself. It does wonders for a person’s mood and character.

I like the therapy suggestion also that shit always feels great. But I’m thinking broader, and more frequently (but not too much so.) It takes effort on your end but it will be worth it! Take a chance!

Good luck! I see this pop up alot here so you are lot alone!

deadliftingdad · 2019-09-13T04:41:21+00:00

Some people need to touch the stove more than once to make sure it's hot... if you break down and date, just remember, protect yourself. Realize that angel you meet can be a devil in disguise, and someone somewhere has seen that side of her. I dated a few women after my divorce, and after the last one ran me through the wringer a few times, I'm finally settling into monk mode. Don't commit, always use protection or get a vasectomy, and do not cohabitate.

hoipalloi52 · 2019-09-13T03:19:20+00:00

Work hard, stay busy, get to bed early and stay off social media. I read.

Poofysmoof · 2019-09-13T03:30:28+00:00

You have to truly believe within yourself “It’s ok to not be with a women.” Go through a ton of material, stoicism, Theredpill, Mgtow, anything that can help you with developing a independent mindset.

betterforitall · 2019-09-13T03:48:05+00:00

Set a goal to work on yourself. Resolve to take a year off from being in a relationship. During that year work on yourself.

YouTube and podcasts for sure. Be in constant learn mode. There are a lot of therapy-type programs out there that can also lead you to good books. Learn about yourself.

Get used to eating alone. Your phone can provide all the company you need. I have Bluetooth headphones and watch shows or shit on YouTube when I eat. I'm learning most of the time.

Find a couple of coffee shops to hang out in or join a gym. Get to know the people who work there. You'll have a place to go when you need human contact. Don't sit around being thirsty for women. Do your own thing.

notadaddy · 2019-09-13T04:16:25+00:00

Everyday it hurts less

When you figure out life is about YOU then can you move forward.

csehszlovakze · 2019-09-17T18:51:17+00:00

Being alone or with others is a fact, while being lonely or not is a perception. The lone wolf types are alone but not lonely, while someone stuck in a loveless marriage is not alone but lonely.

How do you combat loneliness

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Title	How do you combat loneliness
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