Meant to be single?

CoolDEpot · 2020-11-17T12:37:35+00:00

Marriage is too unfair for men its simply not worth it.

dachengchuan · 2020-11-17T13:50:06+00:00

marriage has become a scam for men; avoid it at any cost

casra888 · 2020-11-18T02:26:21+00:00

Men take on all the risk with little to no reward. All a woman has to do is file for divorce and walk away with cash, prizes and social credits.

YouSaidChicken · 2020-11-17T12:50:38+00:00

It’s like being waterboarded. No interest.

MrRoam90 · 2020-11-17T17:44:59+00:00

Women just don't make worthwhile long term partners.. I don't want anything from them except sex.. the day to day bullshit and drama and everything else that goes with them just isn't worth it to me .

LonelyBobcat · 2020-11-17T17:20:51+00:00

As a teenager I dated a very frequently because I moved around so much. I wasn't popular at most schools until my senior year by any means, but being new and thrown into an entirely new school usually means some girl is going to find you attractive and not know your embarrassing stories from childhood like she does with all the local boys she'd known all her life. When i was that age i loved the idea of romance and getting married, but about 3 months into each relationship id find myself feeling very suffocated and depressed. It didn't matter how great the girl was, how not clingy she was, i just would.

I dated a bit more when I got to LA but after my second relationship, which lasted a whopping 9 months for me, I just decided to 'take a break' from girls and get back into it at a later point. I still slept around and had fun little flings, but I didn't want any serious titles. 8 years later, I still haven't gone back to actually dating them. I just realized that all the feelings of wanting marriage were just a cultural brainwashing. Nothing nefarious or purposeful, but our media had propped up the idea of 'true romantic love' being the most important thing, and like most people i believed it. I find the thought of committing in romance rather depressing now, it just feels so insincere and like you're randomly throwing supposed meaning and value at someone based on their looks, even if you do come to like their personality its just hard to say how much of it is generated from your hormonal rushes instead of a real bond.

I find friendships much more fulfilling, people taking an interest in each other based more on what they have in common and then building into something beautiful. Romance is like meeting someone, and then looking towards the future with the hope that it will feel meaningful.

Friendship is meeting someone, then one day looking back at all you had done and realizing it was meaningful.

At some point I just realized that I was not built for that lifestyle. The only downside is I'd really like to have kids some day.

BadWardrobe · 2020-11-17T14:46:12+00:00

When I was younger and still blue pilled I believed in the mystical unicorn but I was always a bit different than most people. I would observe my friends relationships and they would almost always appear exhausting to me. I even knew a couple once who openly (unashamedly) said "we're only together because we're both afraid of being alone". I found that both sad and terrifying.

I haven't changed that much as I've got older but red pill knowledge has allowed me to organise and accept my own feelings on relationships.

Marriage is a con. Never commit.

ConvergenceMan · 2020-11-17T14:15:23+00:00

You really shouldn't be in a relationship with a woman unless she adds something to your life. She should not put up artificial barriers to your success as a man, and should support and not hamper your goals.

Most men never have this dynamic with a woman. Some would argue none ever do.

redditloginfail · 2020-11-17T13:32:03+00:00

I don't believe in fate or a path one was "meant" to have, but i do feel more comfortable with singlehood in the latter portion of my life.

Sarusse1 · 2020-11-17T18:39:56+00:00

I have always been an introvert since childhood. I already "wanted" to form a family but I knew that this was not for me. I believe that mgtow always ran through my veins.

rmeestudios · 2020-11-17T15:17:14+00:00

I've never wanted kids. Ever since I was 15 I was just completely disgusted by the idea.

burnett-lignon · 2020-11-17T15:31:33+00:00

Like so many other theories, it wasn't possible for me to adopt MGTOW as a way of life until I tried it out and experienced its effect. The freedom to pursue goals and experiences, peace of mind from not having constant distractions and compromises, and the joy that comes from being unfettered, all influenced me in the direction of MGTOW. I was miserably married before I was 20 and started GMOW while still married. I've been doing it for many years now and can't fathom changing course, because it's given me a satisfactory happy life.

ManReignsSupreme · 2020-11-17T16:17:27+00:00

100%

Even the language implies failure, “settling down”.

“Little Timmy didn’t get into a major league so it settled for a community league”

Also why in any god’s name would I let an animal have control over my life or breeding rights? It’s a crazy world.

NotherThrowaway284 · 2020-11-17T14:10:26+00:00

Does anyone look back on their life and see that maybe they never wanted to settle down and get married from a young age?

Bingo.

A chaotic home life is not necessary for this; being an introvert is the key, I think.

mortymorty789 · 2020-11-17T21:32:52+00:00

Take it from me, if you are coming from a rough upbringing like you describe, do NOT get in any form of entrapment with anyone until you can heal and see the world for what it is, and most importantly grow.

trash62 · 2020-11-18T19:13:47+00:00

When I was a kid, I wanted to live in a pickup truck and work at a radio station.

Got older and bought into the whole relationship can make you worthy thing, and am now realizing that I am meant to be a lone wolf. I enjoy solitude. I want to be nomadic, there's really no place for me to call "home" and I like it that way. I should have paid closer attention to my childhood dream.

As far as being single... eh. I kind of feel like we are meant to have relationships and friendships with women, but the games we've been playing (marriage, children, divorce) is for the birds.

I have to think there's a non feminist independent "gypsy" woman or two out there who wants to be friends with me and perhaps half a dozen or so other guys... and I'm ok with that.

I'm not meant to place all my happiness on one woman or person or place or thing. That is just stupid.

Plus, I'm just not, nor was I ever, husband material. I'm not meant to put down roots.

Alert-Form · 2020-11-18T09:29:47+00:00

Boys and men who come from stable families where the father is married to a, by today's standards, exemplary mother might be tempted to try to replicate the perceived success.

Men and boys tend to think of marriage abstractly and through the lens of ideals. Not through statisctics and the actual experience of the vast majority of men.

Some might think marriage means at least endless sex and other entertainment to go with the duties. For most this is not the case. Let this be a reality check for you: For a man a sexless marriage is one of the better outcomes. When things go bad, they go really bad. Having to jerk off is better than, unbeknownst to you, to be raising kids that aren't yours.

IBudgetForIt · 2020-11-17T17:24:43+00:00

Yes, I always knew I marriage and family wasn't for me, from age 20 on. However, I didn't expect that lack of female companionship would become so difficult by my late 20's, so I ended up getting married anyway at age 32. It was a disaster and I was divorced 4 years later -- no kids from that marriage. But I still couldn't figure out how to get my need for female companionship met while single, so I got married again 4 years after that. This time I ended up with kids, and waited 14 years to get divorced. Fortunately, this time around I've finally figured out how to be successfully single and get my needs met.

Solo_and_Simple · 2020-11-17T20:30:02+00:00

Bella DePaulo, PhD, who writes about singlehood, has this phrase, "single at heart," to describe people who are naturally inclined to be single rather than coupled. I've always identified with her descriptions of this.

Here's one article on the subject, "How to know if you're a confirmed bachelor or bachelorette"https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-single/201709/14-ways-tell-someone-is-happy-single

Here's a general list of her articles on the subject:

http://www.belladepaulo.com/2013/03/single-at-heart-what-do-we-know-about-it/

Caveat: Dr. DePaulo is a female professor from Santa Barbara, CA, so you can guess there will be some feminism sprinkled in her work. Despite the occasional victimey whining, she does good work. Reading her stuff a decade ago helped me in my MGTOW journey.

Yasai101 · 2020-11-18T12:22:58+00:00

I never understood the need or the willingness to give away your freedom of choice.

The constant dumb arguments such as " what will you do when your 70." what will I do? Look back at the 70 happy fucking years and grit my teeth at my last few. One thing is for sure, when ever I had a what if moment, there wasn't anyone to stop me or dissuade me.

urbana1 · 2020-11-18T10:33:22+00:00

Enjoying a chat with females can be nice but in relationships I feel like it always leads to nagging eventually. The honeymoon period is enjoyable. Sometimes euphoric but when familiarity sets in contempt is the ugly monster on the brow of the hill. Once the contempt has set a precedent it’s like an elastic limit that gets stretched beyond and can never go back to its nice original shape. It would be great to just finish up with the honeymoon period and both decide to move on in every case because it’s rare for that initial respect to last. That’s probably why most of us are here because we know it’s a losing battle being with a woman.

Coroner-virus · 2020-11-18T04:58:27+00:00

Having children was the thing that I always wanted to avoid. I never really had a problem with women, and nor did I ever buy into the whole "women are evil and they just want your money" bullshit, but finding a woman who doesn't want kids is just impossible.

So I simply accepted reality. To be honest it doesn't really concern me. Sex is overrated anyway, and there are just better things to do with my time.

BrodesBallBag · 2020-11-17T23:57:28+00:00

I think these days the only way for a man to come out ahead in a marriage is to borrow a page from the Mossad/Maxwell/Epstein playbook and hold incriminating evidence on her

Adal345 · 2020-11-21T01:36:55+00:00

What gives me a great comfort is hearing, all of sudden, an Uber driver telling me that he lost his life to maintain his wife and child after marriage, or a older co-worker saying his wife treats him insolently. I definitely am in a better position.

Title	Meant to be single?
Author	Tannhausergate2017
Upvotes	10
Comments	46
Date	November 17, 2020 12:33 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW2
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