Maintenance Dread

jessalon · 2015-08-12T20:22:24+00:00

Depends on how you do it. It might come off as validation seeking and do the opposite. You might wanna just let her see it first-hand instead.

whinemoreplease · 2015-08-13T00:17:31+00:00

why do you need to remind her of your high value? are you trying to actively trying to play games? worrying about what she thinks of you seems pretty pathetic to me.

mommy! mommy! look at me! look at how cool I am with my xyz!

damnyoutall · 2015-08-12T20:27:26+00:00

Unless its done with extreme tact, it's just going to sound like you are trying to impress her. It's better to casually talk about female co-workers and then let her hamster do the work for you. Talk about them within the context of some other story so she doesn't think you are just trying to make her jealous.

strategos_autokrator · 2015-08-13T07:02:45+00:00

Don't talk or brag. That comes off desperate and like you are searching for validation.

SHOW with actions. Let her hamster remind her.

yoaked · 2015-08-12T21:13:55+00:00

Dread

Starting here is always good place: The 12 Levels of Dread. Maintenance Dread is the probably the same as Dread in that you should always be incorporating it into your life. I see your point, though. When you talk about Maintenance Dread, it seems like you are asking what little things you can do to add Dread with your wife. Again, you should always be incorporating things from /u/BluepillProfessor 's post. Read it.

Note: You want just enough food (Dread) for the hamster to chew on without making her outright jealous. Her hamster needs time to process the Dread and too much jealously stirs up an emotional response which defeats the purpose of Dread (in many cases).

Some Examples

lifting (why: because fit alpha's can always fuck a hottie)
calling the cute waitress by her name while you are at dinner together but not being overtly flirtatious with her (why: hearing another girls name coming out of your mouth + confidence that you can talk to women)
A&A anytime she mentions getting old/other girls... "yep, all the hotties on the cheer-leading squad would be all over me" (why: confidence and cockiness)
any situation where she can see you in a casual conversation with a good looking woman (why: you are not a bumbling idiot that would be lost without her)
at the beach... opportunity for her to see other women looking at you (why: assuming you lift... she will notice when other women notice)
having your own hobbies/life outside of the marriage
if she talks about her friends and their shitty marriages you can elude to the fact that "they need to fix it or they should definitely divorce... marriage should be fun" (why: this lets her know that you think divorce IS an option but it's under the radar since its not about your relationship)
if she ever mentions a cute chick checking you out... agree that you are hot enough to merit the attention while simultaneously telling her that you only want her and that fat ass of hers (why: this shows confidence/cockiness and also diffuses a comfort test)

I am sure others will opine on the subject of Dread but this should give you some insight. YMMV. Good luck!

itstartstoday123 · 2015-08-12T20:29:39+00:00

How does she react? What's the tone? It's hard to tell whether it's a good idea with your wife or understand how it's goes over without her reaction being included here.

eREKTi0n · 2015-08-13T02:23:05+00:00

Nope, shut the fuck up. It can only end badly. Reserve the dread for company parties and whatnot.

BluepillProfessor · 2015-08-13T02:53:35+00:00

A little goes a long way before you become a dick, and not the good kind.

I like the idea of maintenance Dread for sparing use in maintaining a near sex on demand relationship.

thezaxxon1982 · 2015-08-13T19:53:21+00:00

A huge part of PUA work is having and telling your stories that DHV. No good PUA uses the same stories over and over again on the same set because that would be a DLV. Use these, but use them sparingly.

Title	Maintenance Dread
Author	thelotusknyte
Upvotes	4
Comments	41
Date	August 12, 2015 8:01 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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