Preparing my Plan B - executing a clean break. Advice from those who've been there?

onmyownpath · 2016-09-11T17:19:51+00:00

Do not try to work it out yourself. Always get professional help. It is worth the money to prevent future fights.

You can be assured she will fight over every little thing. Men just want to move on and get fucked in the process.

Do not make this mistake. Think hard about what is fair FOR YOU. Fight for it. Do not consider what is fair to her. That will be her job.

You will probably not heed this advice, as I have given it to many men and they always want to "be fair and just get it over with" and end up taking it in the ass. So, I have no hope that any man will listen to this advice.

You will greatly underestimate how much she will trifle and rape you with a smile on her face. You need to be 100% in your own corner because a woman's idea of fairness means to take as much as possible from the man who is leaving.

You are asking for advice but will probably not take it because you feel like you are the one leaving so you should be nice.

Fuck that. She is the one ending your marriage by acting like a spoiled child and refusing to see what the relationship needs.

Instead of feeling guilty, be fucking pissed that she cares zero for the relationship and use that anger to go on the offensive to protect your money.

EDIT: You are already doing it. "I don't like the furniture anyway, so she can keep it." Wake the fuck up. That was bought with your money. You make more than her so %65 if the furniture was paid for by you.

If you don't fight over the furniture you will be fighting about alimony. You need to fight for everything that is fair. Fair means you get to keep the shit you paid for and earned. You may end up losing the furniture but that is a bargaining chip for the other things. Furniture, dishes, pots, pans, cutlery, bed sheets, towels, artwork, cars, cash in savings accounts, credit card balances - fucking divide everything up and fight for half. Your negotiations may go a different way but you have to start there. Fuck her for not caring about the relationship. All you want is a happy marriage and you are trying to get there and she doesn't give a shit.

She is going to let this marriage fail without even trying to do what is necessary? Then you leave with nothing and she has furniture, knives, silverware, coffee mugs, kitchen table, glasses, TV, plants, the apartment, bed sheets, shower curtains, and trash cans? Like nothing ever happened? If she is too selfish to try and be an adult and save the marriage, she should not get to keep all the shit. Men think "I can take my shit in a few bags" but you have no idea what it really means to give up everything you have. This is a traumatic change and you will not realize until later.

You need to establish what is fair and fight for it. You are already hamstering yourself into an ass-fucking.

I left my first wife and I had nothing. I had to go buy a pan to cook in. FIGHT FOR HALF OF EVERYTHING.

RP_SuitScholar · 2016-09-11T17:14:23+00:00

Go to a lawyer and give him every detail. Ask him what a responsible legal exit strategy would be if you chose to execute on it.
Make sure your money is secured away with a minimum 3 month living expense set aside and the money to move into a new place (security deposit, moving truck, etc.)
Do not talk to anyone about your thoughts and make sure she cannot look at your browser history to see this. If she gets an inkling of what you're thinking the situation could go south.
Make sure you do not do or say anything in text/email and preferably keep your conversations face to face once you tell her your plans. Women can bring that shit up in front of a divorce judge and if you seem like anything other than a perfect gentleman the law will fuck your butt.

zeteomegaleio · 2016-09-12T02:01:46+00:00

I know a lot of guys are talking about money and lawyers, but I think this one is important:

Iron Rule #5: Never allow a woman to be in control of the birth.

This is important anyway, but especially so if you are considering divorce. I know you said no kids, but you never know what tricks women will pull to trap you if shit goes down and she doesn't want you to leave.

About 4 months into divorcing my batshit crazy ex-wife, she handed me a positive pregnancy test. This was hilarious to me because I knew it had been so long since we had sex that she would have been in her third trimester. She didn't bother doing the basic math before pulling that stunt.

Also, do not let her fucking know one bit of your personal life once the divorce is in motion. My divorce was years ago before I found MRP, and she baited me by telling me she found another guy after about a year of separation before the divorce was finalized. I mentioned I found another woman and she went nuclear trying to make the rest of the process as miserable as possible.

Looking back this should have been common sense, but 25-year-old me slipped for one second by actually thinking she was trying to be decent, and wound up getting fucked over for months for it.

screechhater · 2016-09-12T00:21:27+00:00

"I hope that she takes notice and decides she wants to change her behavior"

Your wasting your time hoping. Plan, talk to counsel and make damn sure she is got a job that is 40 hours.

I agree with a separate savings and I have one that is 1 year of living expenses, which is what my father beat into my head. I have that savings for me and a savings for the family, she is clueless.

I am hoping you have read WISNIFG

SirGuileSir · 2016-09-12T06:02:43+00:00

Start wearing a condom, friend.

YoureAfuckingRobot · 2016-09-12T21:37:53+00:00

Make sure every aspect of the divorce is on paper. Do not leave anything as a verbal agreement. I did this on a few measly things and she went back on everything just to fuck with me.

Persaeus · 2016-09-12T12:09:52+00:00

Having a well-worked-out-ready-to-go-plan-B will negatively influence your plan A. You're in A for 100% or not at all.

Title	Preparing my Plan B - executing a clean break. Advice from those who've been there?
Author	ShiveringPines
Upvotes	16
Comments	20
Date	September 11, 2016 4:40 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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