The "Whats for Dinner?" Game

sexyshoulderdevil · 2015-07-22T20:19:45+00:00

You suggest two places immediately. Let them pick from those two. If they shoot them down with hard no's, ask for two suggestions and you decide. If their suggestions are unreasonable, you pick from your original two and be done with it.

thisisme0007 · 2015-07-22T21:47:14+00:00

Plan ahead. I am the chef in the house so I use dinner to exert dominance (thanks /u/jacktenofhearts I believe for the suggestion)

I rearranged the seats from 2 on each long side of the table to 1 on each side with me at the head.

I plan a 21 day menu and take requests onlyn in the few days before i plan it out.

I make sure I tell her "it is time for you to come to dinner now"

We don't eat out since restaurant food is garbage.

One family, one meal. If they don't like it it is on them to fix that problem, not me.

If they want seconds before I am finished with my serving they can go scratch.

Edit. I make dinner into a production. Each night has a theme. I play music related to the theme as i am preparing and involve the kids if they are not being crazy. The menu is posted as I prepare it. Each night is 3 or 4 courses. The food is made from fresh ingredients and not processed. It is served on the good China from our wedding even though our kids a young. The table gets dressed up most nights too.

Basically, I make sure that family dinner time is an awesome family experience. Do something like that maybe

Edit 2. Read WISNIFG

RobbingTime · 2015-07-22T20:12:41+00:00

I allow their input, because we all have those days where one type of food is just not what we want to eat right then. I give a couple of options at most, either or, one or the other, unless a compelling point can be made for a 3rd option. Most of the time, the first option is met with, "OK".

The_Litz · 2015-07-22T21:18:27+00:00

Tell, don't ask. 'Get ready, we are going to xyz at seven'

'Dad we want McDonalds! '

'You have McDonalds all the time, we can go there next time'

Teach the kids/spouse that they must put in requests ahead of time, then you will accomodate them.

Besides, healthy food takes priority on your lifting regime.

stonepimpletilists · 2015-07-23T12:36:05+00:00

I usually give one 'veto' and a counter if she wants. after that? I'm making a hamburger on the terrace

jessalon · 2015-07-22T19:52:33+00:00

Suggest a place. If she shoots you down and has no definite suggestion of her own. Then go get in your car and eat at the place you suggested in the first place alone. Enjoy the savings of not paying for their food. Repeat until she stops being combative.

articulatefit · 2015-07-23T03:30:13+00:00

i stopped asking and started making it a surprise. They've all stopped whining and complaining about it and have become quite pleasant dinner companions - heh, well, for hormonal teens. Also every now and then I remind us all how blessed we are to have such first world problems.

RPAlternate42 · 2015-07-22T20:24:35+00:00

"[insert place.]"

"I don't like that place that much."

"Okay, let me know what you want from there and I will go pick it up..."

she gives me what she wants from place she doesn't like.

All this is is LMR for dinner plans... ignore it, push through, be happy.

enfier · 2015-07-23T04:08:11+00:00

Just tell everyone to hop in the car, you are going out for dinner. If they ask where, tell them it's a surprise. Drive there and trust me once everyone is at the restaurant they'll be fine with it.

UEMcGill · 2015-07-23T12:49:49+00:00

Other than birthdays, never. My kids would resort to lord of the flies if I asked them all where they wanted to go. Since all but one eats only three things I always pick.

Here's a lesson to teach. Get in the car and tell everyone we're going to XYZ. If anyone complains, tell them clearly "this is the place I choose. If you don't like it we don't have to go out at all. " and if you hear one peep, TURN THE FUCK AROUND AND GO HOME. You can clue your wife in so she's supportive, too.

Your kids are testing you frame. Show them what happens.

Knoxvillyn · 2015-07-22T20:43:03+00:00

Seriously? You're a man and you're asking about dinner?

Pick a restaurant. They serve chicken nuggets everywhere. If everyone hates the food you make, maybe don't make it again or learn to make it taste good.

Jesus....no wonder you get shit from your family. You can't be confident about your meal choices?! Fer fucks sake

RedPillForever · 2015-07-23T00:54:21+00:00

If I'm asked, I assume it's because the person asking doesn't have any ideas and I pick.

Venge97RI · 2015-07-23T13:02:47+00:00

Thanks for all the replies , but just to clarify , this isn't a constant thing happening either.. really we only go out for dinner once a week if that. and as a rule the parents decide where we're going and we go.. just the few times we've been out all day , waited too long to eat everyone is crabby

I always tell the kids.. this is what the adults have decided on , you don't like it fine, don't eat. They haven't gone hungry yet.

Title	The "Whats for Dinner?" Game
Author	Venge97RI
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Comments	25
Date	July 22, 2015 7:37 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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