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Hey. It's been a while.

September 10, 2022

I've posted on this sub more than once so I feel like I need to give you an update on how my life is going as well as to vent out a few things:

Simply put, I feel burned out and lagging behind. Surely grades are good in college but I feel like I've worked myself up too hard. I'm now dreading going back to college (I start again Monday) because of my burnout. It doesn't help that I'm studying a course that demands 200% efficiency everyday. I would like to take a day off or something but unfortunately, I'm already shooting myself in the foot if I do that. I'll still have to grin and bear it for the time being.

As for the lagging behind part, I feel like I'm always a step behind my peers. Most people my age seem to have a good idea on what they want in life, are in relationships and whatnot. Whilst I'm still single and I'm not completely lost but still have trouble finding myself.

I guess I'm still having trouble accepting that I'm a work in progress and honestly, my progress is so slow it feels like I'm making none. However I started going back to the gym when I have time (which I struggle to find) and I'm on my way to making friends so there is that silver lining I guess.

I once again apologize if it looks like I'm rambling

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Title Hey. It's been a while.
Author Toxic_Lord
Upvotes 13
Comments 3
Date September 10, 2022 7:12 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/MenSupportMen
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[–]AvoidPinkHairHippos 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Speaking as someone who's older than you but not that old: never hesitate to regularly evaluate if 1) your major, 2) your so called friends, 3) your school, 4) your family are adding or subtracting positive value to/from your QOL

I used to just endure certain segments of my social circle/jobs/school despite the fact that they were worsening my life. I've learned to recognize those signs and cut them off..... And I become much happier and healthier for it

As for dating or relationships, my advice is the same to all men and women: always have options and never chain yourself to a sinking ship. And be thankful when you evade bullets

[–]a-man-from-earth 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks for the update! And good to hear you are at least making some progress.

Is there a counsellor or so at your college who you can talk to about your burn-out and the study pressure?

[–]proffgilligan 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Your self-awareness and your drive will get you thru. Take care of yourself as well as you can, but don't stress too much about it. You're doing great. I second the search for a therapist. Talking about your life and struggles with someone who's in your corner can be really helpful.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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