Feminists often argue that men who say that women are to blame for getting raped are blaming the victim. But why don't feminists apply "blaming the victim" to men?

If a woman lies about taking birth control, she's using deceit to force her boyfriend or husband into an unwanted pregnancy he can do nothing about. He's the victim here, yet people always say if he didn't want a baby he should have worn a condom. Is this not blaming the victim? More-so they same thing happens when you talk about men getting raped in jails or men who get robbed in divorces due to alimony and child support.

I think every time a feminist mentions "blaming the victim" we should say we'll stop doing it, if they admit that they do it to men"