GirlWritesWhat: Men not marrying?

AdmanUK · 2012-03-16T02:00:20+00:00

These videos blow my mind every time I watch them. Not only are they startlingly accurate in terms of men in society, they illuminate things that even as a male I hadn't truly thought about but still reacted to.

Keep up the good work!

IHaveALargePenis · 2012-03-16T05:36:54+00:00

I really enjoyed the part where she talked about women elbowing their way into men's spaces and demanding things change. I don't mind if it's at work or somewhere, but imagine if a few guys walked into a beauty salon, started telling jokes and bullshitting and when all the women were made to feel uncomfortable, they (the guys) demand that things change to suit them.

That's how I've seen the breaking of "sexist barriers" and it's absolutely frustrating. And of course now feminists are complaining about sexism on the internet because of anonymity and how that needs to change. But I'm pretty sure the main reason behind this isn't because women can't just create a women only forum that's restricted to men, but because that's were men are retreating. There are no more men only places in society, so we go where there are, video games and the internet.

Why do you think there's so many complaints about adult men playing video games and hanging out with his friends rather than getting a career and finding a nice woman? Because those are the last places where men can truly have a man only space without having to change the rules in order to better suit women.

eluusive · 2012-03-16T10:31:31+00:00

I really like her commentary. I'd marry her if she'd have me. :D

How'd she become so informed about men?

Indog · 2012-03-16T00:27:52+00:00

Another great video, GWW. Very interesting about the 'respect' for the role angle. I had always thought of male shaming for feminine behavior to be from a modern point of view, more about how feminism succeeded in overthrowing the traditional female role, while nothing similar existed for men, but I think you're exactly right.

If you're curious the OkCupid 'study' she talks about is here: http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-looks-and-online-dating/

Interesting was that while men rated women's looks in a more sane bell curve, they greatly disproportionately messaged women towards the higher end of the scale. I'm not sure if this is just because, as the male, it's pretty much up to you to do the initial messaging (I knew a girl who used Lavalife for a year and didn't know it was a pay site), and if you're sending a bunch of messages, might as well send some to the hottest.

Phrodo_00 · 2012-03-16T03:10:33+00:00

Oh my god, I started laughing at the OKCupid reference.

aetheralloy · 2012-03-16T18:35:12+00:00

Just posting to say I appreciate these videos from Girlwriteswhat.

I always have, but I know it probably helps to keep getting positive feedback. So even though it's probably redundant - just wanted to post and say thanks.

2012-03-16T21:45:32+00:00

I'm speechless.

You are one of the greatest assets to the MR movement and, really, all men.

A woman speaking on behalf of men--often to the disapproval of her gender--who verbalizes our concerns better than any man in this movement.

I don't know how you develop your insights but it's truly incredible. I can't even begin to get into the female mind in the same way.

As always,

Thanks.

themountaingoat · 2012-03-16T01:01:10+00:00

I find it amazing how often I watch a GWWs video and find that she has expressed something that I have felt for a while but not really articulated. I totally fit her description in this video in that I don't see anything appealing about excelling in the workplace or as a boyfriend or partner, and I find that playing sports on a sports team is one of the things that I find most comfortable with.

girlwriteswhat · 2012-03-18T11:24:05+00:00

Who else has such a patriarchal, misogynist, chauvinist crush on girlwriteswhat?

ignorantmotherfucker · 2012-03-16T07:25:52+00:00

Just to add to it, we hear about the growing trend of 'man caves' and that is just another form of male safe space. Anyways, Good job, GWW.

InfallibleBiship · 2012-03-16T02:20:10+00:00

I'm not sure how she can sum up my life experience better than I can... but that's what she did. That video was fantastic.

reinhardt · 2012-03-16T00:58:23+00:00

I'd say that this speech really hits the nail on the head. On the other hand , I would go further and say than men's expectations of women also fall far from their level of the "attractiveness scale". It is hard to be happy if you are told you could have more, could have gained a higher position or could have dated this unbelievably well retouched model just in your city. The choice and the amount of lies is too damn high.

Title	GirlWritesWhat: Men not marrying?
Author	TracyMorganFreeman
Upvotes	56
Comments	20
Date	March 15, 2012 8:37 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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