[Houston, Texas] Tech school. I Dated my instructor for 4 months. Broke up last night. She said something to administration, I don't know what. I am now suspended and not allowed on campus while she keeps her job. Do I have a case? What kind of lawyer should I seek?

Kyle_Fischer · 2017-04-24T17:29:59+00:00

Keep all communications you had with her, i.e. e-mails, texts, social media messages. Keep all evidence that you had that shows you were in a consensual relationship, i.e. movie ticket receipts, hotel receipts, dinner receipts, etc.

You should seek an attorney who specializes in education disciplinary board appeals who has handled a case involving sexual allegations. If you can't find one, then find a sexual assault defense attorney.

It would be helpful if you were notified of why you were suspended. Did they give you anything in writing? Is dating an instructor an honor code violation? You need to obtain the administrative regulations for the school on how to deal with suspensions to find out what due process, if any, you are afforded prior to being suspended. Have you completed the semester, or did you get suspended right before finals?

EricAllonde · 2017-04-24T17:52:33+00:00

Get in contact with these guys, they specialise in cases like this one:

https://www.thefire.org/resources/submit-a-case/

They can give you some no-obligation advice, and if you decide to bring a case against your school they may be willing to back you.

GettingGains · 2017-04-24T17:25:02+00:00

Keep all communication between you two. Better if you can record her admitting to some bullshit. Sue the school for millions.

Sartyrh · 2017-04-24T19:16:28+00:00

You have all the power in the world on your side in this one. Teachers are not allowed to date students.

Link here.

It is a felony for a teacher to engage in sexual conduct or relationships with students in Texas, regardless of whether or not they are of age of consent or even teach in the same school the student attends.

She committed a felony, and the school is protecting her and punishing you when you are in a position of weakness and her in a position of ultimate authority.

You have what is called a slam dunk case, my friend.

Rasalom72 · 2017-04-24T18:22:04+00:00

Make sure to talk to the administration. If she is your instructor, she is in a conflict of interest for dating her students, and now is preventing you from getting your education. Also, like everyone else is saying.. get a lawyer.

I'm going to go out and also add that you should make it your mission to burn her life to the ground. Nothing but embers. Go to social media, the papers, everything. Make sure everyone knows this woman's name and any pictures you have.

pmblathered · 2017-04-24T23:12:23+00:00

I don't understand.

Why would the school suspend him or care if he dated an instructor? (Both are consenting adults I assume)
How does being suspended give him a legal standing to sue the school?

Thanks

gayguyredditor · 2017-04-25T02:06:46+00:00

They took her word since she's female and never asked your side since you're a male? This is disgusting. How can we help you and others?

UDT22 · 2017-04-25T03:14:12+00:00

They didn't give you a reason? Just said you were suspended? As far as a lawyer, ask up front what kind of cases they've handled over the years. Ask them for references.

lexanimata · 2017-05-01T03:56:58+00:00

FWIW IAAL (see what I did there?; opposite of IANAL), although this is out of my jurisdiction.

I will say this though, the comments about gathering evidence are SPOT ON. Ensure that you have copious amounts of written records. Consider retaining a solicitor/attorney/whatever to ensure that you do not prejudice your case through unwarranted communications.

Asking for "Particulars" or a record of the "administrative decision" would not be unreasonable given your circumstances.

While I can't tell what your injuries are, given that the US is more lax with 'punitive damages' might I suggest 'not going easy' on them. That is, I suggest that you seek out medico-legal reports fully substantiating your level of anguish, distress and depression following this very difficult time in your life.

Subject to the advice of a legal professional, I suggest that you consider an out of court settlement. Twist their arm and twist it hard.

Another poster said 10mil. I don't think that is reasonable (although jurisdictions vary). However, you stand to be reinstated in your course and possibly quite a hefty settlement.

Goodluck and Godspeed, Sir.

Tex623 · 2017-05-02T03:41:42+00:00

Texas is a one-party consent state. If you have any verbal interaction with her, I suggest you record it.

GoldenWulwa · 2017-04-24T20:16:25+00:00

My boyfriend is an attorney and at work so fuck me I wish he was here so I could ask him and see what he says. He can't officially give legal advice, but I'll ask when he gets home.

But from what I know, you need an attorney that specializes in workplace and employee rights. Your best bet is to approach this as a purely workplace issue until more information arises. Gather all evidence you can of the relationship. Texts, emails, letters, photos etc etc.

Edit: For some reason I thought he put it was another instructor. If it's his professor, she can be royally fucked. Get all evidence of the relationship. I don't know about what attorney type in this case.

BaconCatBug · 2017-04-24T22:41:37+00:00

You are a moron for dating her in the first place. You deserve everything coming to you because it's your own fault

[Houston, Texas] Tech school. I Dated my instructor for 4 months. Broke up last night. She said something to administration, I don't know what. I am now suspended and not allowed on campus while she keeps her job. Do I have a case? What kind of lawyer should I seek?

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