I made a terrible mistake

checkoutdeeznuts2 · 2022-12-18T21:17:47+00:00

Insist on a paternity test. That's that.

WeEatBabies · 2022-12-18T21:50:26+00:00

Paternity test!

Have a room ready, if she is abusive, she will abuse the kid, eventually, at that moment you get the kid to confess to a counselor, you take her to court, and if you're lucky, she might end up paying you some child support.

Phoj7 · 2022-12-18T22:22:30+00:00

Use the abuse video in court.

peasey360 · 2022-12-18T21:21:49+00:00

Demand a paternity test. None of this “oh what you don’t trust me” crap. She’s a danger to you. Countless men throughout history have thrown their life away to “do the right thing” and you’re no one’s meal ticket. Run far and fast.

BlackberryDull402 · 2022-12-18T22:32:07+00:00

Paternity test first and foremost.

drsugarballs · 2022-12-19T02:46:02+00:00

Paternity test. If positive, and you don’t want to fight for your child then leave the country.

shit-zen-giggles · 2022-12-19T02:47:41+00:00

contact a lawyer. Face it head on. paternity test and the whole 9 yards.

jjj2576 · 2022-12-19T00:25:52+00:00

How did your attorney advise you?

kiadragon · 2022-12-19T05:20:43+00:00

Don't sign the Birth Certificate without a DNA test.

mopemardermun · 2022-12-18T22:15:17+00:00

1) Demand a paternity test

2) I just want you to really take in how fucked this entire thing is. A woman can gladly go around fucking whoever she wants without consequence. If you say "maybe she shouldn't be allowed to abort a bunch" you are told you're a "misogynist who hates women and wants to deny their sexual freedom" or "it's just one mistake, you can't doom her life for that!". Meanwhile you are FULLY expected to take the responsibility for sex, even in a case like this. ONLY men are required to take responsibility for sex, only we are the ones who are forced to be put in 18 years of debt for one night of fun (while according to feminists doing the same for women is misogyny). It's fucked up. So fucked up. Whether or not one night of sex fucks your life up for 18 years is based ENTIRELY on what genitals you were born with. I just want you to remember that if you were a woman in the same position you'd have no issues whatsoever - a million ways out. And everyone would support you. But because you're a man you have 0 ways out and if you try and get out of it everyone thinks you're the devil. It's a tough reality but it's something I want every single man to understand. It is the most prime example of the law being biased against men and it's disgusting. What's even worse is feminists try and downplay it like "how is taking responsibility for sex oppression". The same feminists who say that restrictions on abortion is "literally an attack on human rights and proof women are oppressed cattle". I fucking hate this reality.

AndyBrown65 · 2022-12-19T01:01:45+00:00

I assume you are in the USA. OK, so there's a lot to unpack, but lets go through this logically, and step by step.

She's a prostitute who has advised you she is pregnant and done this by taking a photo of a positive pregnancy test.
She claims the baby is yours
She is planning to extort child support out of you
She has a history of DV against you
She already has a child and doesn't has a paying job.

So, "(after) a few months (of) no contact she tells me she is 2 months pregnant and it's mine" Yeah, I would suggest that even if she is pregnant, then the changes of you being the baby daddy are actually pretty low I would suggest, if she is pregnant at all.

I left the state to get away from her, and because her family tried to kill me

I've already changed my name, my number, changed my address but she knows my new address but I'll move again before the baby is born. Also thinking of changing my social security number, which I can do as a victim of DV.

OK, so I think the important thing here is you lay low. She sounds very much like a bunny boiler and like someone who lies to create sympathy. You need to let your family know how dangerous she is. You need to cut contact with her and block her on all the socials, delete all your socials and press reset. Tell your family that if she contacts you to tell her (or her posse) that they haven't heard from you and they don't know where you are, or if you are alive.

Finally, let's just say in a few months time she does actually spit out a Bub (unlikely), if the claim for child support comes through, like everyone says, ask for a DNA test to be done. Never admit to anything until a DNA test proves everything.

I know it's hard not to, but try to not worry about it. On the balance of probabilities I doubt if you are going to become a father based on her history of lies and deceit. I would say you have <10% chance she's pregnant, <10% chance she's pregnant to you, >80% chance she will miscarry if she is, and so it's 0.2% chance she's having your kid.

TurbulentPractice773 · 2022-12-18T22:14:29+00:00

Is her name Jennifer?

Fancy-Respect8729 · 2022-12-19T01:15:17+00:00

Jesus Christ that's heavy. Can't you just refuse paternity? She sounds like a right nutter.

mrios303 · 2022-12-19T05:32:31+00:00

Don’t know where you are but laws vary in each state. In Colorado, you can relinquish rights. I had a woman promise to “make my life hell” and “I’ll see you in court”. Obviously I held onto those messages but i didn’t need to because i could simply relinquish parental rights. Once she figured that out she got an abortion and has been tormenting some other poor bastard. Hopefully you don’t live in Texas. My buddy was put on the BC and later found out it was not his child but Texas didn’t give af.

Neither-Ad-2475 · 2022-12-19T07:53:14+00:00

Thanks for sharing. Sounds awful.

I'd definitely asked for DNA test. Get ready for worst case scenario, paying maintenance.

Pepsimax88 · 2022-12-19T13:44:08+00:00

Get a paternity test buddy.

If its yours though don't let that awful woman get in the way of been a father

beecherJohnson88 · 2022-12-19T14:56:28+00:00

I wouldn't have any contact with her that isn't documented or recorded. Get a DNA test. If it's yours, you need to prepare for a fight. Get a good lawyer. Get in the right mindset. Keep any and all receipts of anything you purchase for the kid. I wouldn't take any phone calls from her. Make sure it's in text. There's more to do but I think you get it.

short_dude5ft3in · 2022-12-19T15:37:14+00:00

DO NOT sign any papers unless paternity test confirmed you’re the father.

wanderlust_12 · 2022-12-19T17:08:02+00:00

Might not be easy but leave the country if you can if there’s no other option. Go and start a new life in a different country.

EviessVeralan · 2022-12-19T18:25:33+00:00

Paternity test.

Also, although its an uphill battle, if the child is yours you should try to get custody, she will abuse the child like she abused you.

Positive-Theory_ · 2022-12-20T16:44:36+00:00

The good news is I guarantee you it's not your kid.

Title	I made a terrible mistake
Author	YoshiFelipe
Upvotes	141
Comments	47
Date	December 18, 2022 8:29 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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