Life ain't worth it

Proof-Cockroach-3191 · 2025-12-07T21:02:39+00:00

Same bro. The only problem is my parents and sister will be heart broken if I was alone I would have ended it definitely not because I am depressed or anything I just don't see life as a net positive

Call_It_ · 2025-12-07T20:46:28+00:00

Feel this…but I’m 40.

BillyRubenJoeBob · 2025-12-07T22:24:08+00:00

Hugs brother!

vessel94 · 2025-12-07T22:28:14+00:00

It will NOT remain this way forever and you also need to remember that it’s not this messed up in the entire world.

Men from earlier generations in the United States made a lot of foolish decisions, and our generation is paying the price. We see the mistakes that were made and we are trying to change it.

A lot of the privileges that women have come at your expense. That is the system in America. We can in fact make that stop, but things take time.

AI is going to accelerate this change, in my opinion. But men as a whole need to change their behavior towards not just women, but other men as well.

Take care of one another, look out for one another. Most importantly, take off the cape. Stop involving yourself in women’s affairs.

If you see a man and a woman having some sort of exchange, let them handle it, it’s their business not yours.

Anon_049152 · 2025-12-08T00:56:20+00:00

I would kill several people to be in your shoes.

You have what I do not, time.

You need to make adjustments. Consider adjustments or changing your work, your residence, any people you associate with, and perhaps after considering and putting action into those, your attitude and outlook will change.

Don’t stay in a bad relationship (thoughts for the choir, you didn’t mention any) Get out of it, and learn to be at peace with just your own silence. It is only then that you can learn who you are, and how to consider improving the intangible things about you. Get used to the idea of being alone for the next five years. Recognize and avoid co-dependent behavior.

Don’t stay in bad or one-sided friendships. You can develop positive acquaintances, but it sounds like your real friends are few. That’s fine.

Don’t accumulate stuff to weigh you down. If you need to move, move.

Avoid debt. Pay it off. If it’s insurmountable, do a chapter 7 bankruptcy. It’s ok. In 10 years, when it goes off your credit record, you will have rebuilt your life anyway. If you’re getting raped by a huge automobile loan, find a financial counselor to work out the available method to get out of it. Don’t call the lender.

Focus on building a bank balance. Open a savings account, and make a car payment to yourself, for when the time comes.

Focus on the basics. Good food from the store, not restaurants. Cheap living space. Building a bank balance.

It’s possible you need to change jobs. If so, make changing jobs something you work on 3 times a week, until you are successful.

Men tend to avoid unhappiness by focusing on work. That’s ok, and a healthier response than tobacco, marijuana, alcohol, drugs, or sex.

Simplifying your life, and building a bank balance gives you options.

You’re going to need options, because when you get past this in 6 months, and the weather gets better, and things have improved, you will be in a headspace to plan your future.

Where do you want to be at 50? Where do you need to be at 40 to make that happen? What needs to be accomplished by 35? What do you need to do in the next year to get on track for 35? 6 months? What do you need to straighten out in the next 6 months? Visualize it until it’s clear in your mind, then throw work, and movement at it.

Lose the stuff, lose the bad relationships, and lose the things that are holding you back from your potential.

Single, probably childless, employed, and healthy 29 years old. Yes, I would commit an atrocity for that.

Hang in there. Simplify. Plan. Work. Execute.

NayLay · 2025-12-07T21:25:17+00:00

Sorry man. What's the main thing making you feel that?

NCC-1701-1 · 2025-12-07T22:04:00+00:00

This is truly sad. When you say you lost everything, what did you lose and how?

dickvandykeY · 2025-12-07T23:11:32+00:00

I know that the politically correct response is, to say this feeling is temporary and it will get better, but that's not true for everyone. Forcing people to continuing an existent that is nothing but misery because death makes us uncomfortable is cruel. I don't know what you're going through or what has put you in this place, all i can say is that your feeling are legitimate and i hope you are able to find comfort, however that may come.

keine257 · 2025-12-07T23:23:24+00:00

no you are mistaken do you know how many times you can conquer the world in various grand strategy games, get 2500 online chess rating etc so there are many goals that still worth to pursue...

Hopeful-Barracuda-43 · 2025-12-08T01:17:15+00:00

Choose your adventure. Make one small attainable goal. Reach the goal. Build from that goal to another, keep it small. Reach that goal. Get up each day drink water and repeat. Never quit.

Repulsive_Milk877 · 2025-12-07T20:25:45+00:00

I'm sorry that your situation sucks so bad. I would recommend forum sanctioned suicide for these type of posts. Reddit is not very pro free speach when it comes to this topics.

Icy-Friendship1163 · 2025-12-07T22:37:02+00:00

You will not have to wait very long based on the news ,think that way.

twitoot · 2025-12-08T00:23:55+00:00

I'm seriously considering a restart, you're not alone.

We would just have to repeat the same shit we're going through in some fashion in the next life though.

Hefty-Rip-5397 · 2025-12-08T02:39:07+00:00

Maybe research some NDE (Near death experience) videos. It can help put this life into perspective.. I for one actually believe this isnt the only life we get. I believe im an old soul and ive lived many times. Ive lived several lives. We choose each life carefully before coming to earth. We choose what kind of life we're going to have. Many lives are harder to live than others. For instance, in this life I chose to be born to a family that struggles with addiction. Im a 4th generation alcoholic. It took me so long to understand this but the reason I chose this life is to beat the addiction and break the cycle for my children so that they might not struggle with it so badly. There are other reasons I chose this life too thats just one. I believe we actually choose hardship, for the difficulty, the pain, the sorrow and most importantly, the Experience. If every feeling you ever had was good and wonderful all the time, you wouldn't know how Good something can actually feel. Like if you never feel the sunshine or see the light, youd be blind and wouldnt even be able to conceive darkness yet you live your life in perpetual darkness..... we choose our experiences and all we can do is respond to the pain one way or another. I hope you find perspective, and the world is better with you IN it. So live your life for better or worse because when its over, you'll go back to your true eternal form and have the experience of a human life under your belt and be thinking of the next life you want to live.

executive-coconut · 2025-12-08T02:49:59+00:00

I feel you my brother, spend my 30s in anxiety and depression, im better now in my 30s, you never know what life has in store keep pushing AND ATAY PHYSICALLY ACTIVE EAT WELL thatsthe only shit you control

RevelationSr · 2025-12-07T20:17:28+00:00

It gets better over time, Bro. Get professional help in the interim.

This-Top7398 · 2025-12-07T21:07:21+00:00

It’s only gonna get worse I feel the same

Learningmore1231 · 2025-12-07T22:58:44+00:00

You need therapy my guy. Life ebs and flows we are not guaranteed happiness at all times or ever but ending your life is not the solution. Embrace the suffering and learn from it will produce a stronger smarter better man in the end.

BigGaggy222 · 2025-12-07T23:02:04+00:00

There are so many different ways you can change your life, where you live, how you live and what work you do, what sports, hobbies or pastimes you participate in that its too soon yet to write off the next fifty years.

If you hate it, change it.

Move countries, go on pilgrimage walks, travel to different lands, cultures and really change life up. You may find happiness and a life worth living.

LaoboZeus · 2025-12-07T23:53:42+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that, may I help you?

Designer_Lie_9436 · 2025-12-08T02:31:25+00:00

I was feeling exactly like that, depressed and suicidal for years and nothing was helping! I did a strong dose of psychedelic mushrooms and it was literally cured overnight! Don't get me wrong, the trip was extremely, extremely horrifically depressing but I literally woke up the next day COMPLETELY CURED of depression. I could not and still cannot believe it and you only have to do it once. The results last for years! It really is amazing!!!!!!!

Excellent_Client_796 · 2025-12-08T02:57:35+00:00

Bro, we're here for you. Us men must stick together-don't leave us. I dunno much I admit about hardship (kind of sheltered) but it sounds like you're in rock bottom's basement. Think of all the happiness in life. Religion also offers me a strong sense of purpose. I encourage you to try it. Please. I know life sucks sometimes, but you're wrong about one thing. It does pay off.

addings0 · 2025-12-07T22:17:08+00:00

Happiness is wanting what you already have. Having isn't the same as wanting.

Title	Life ain't worth it
Author	chris31605
Upvotes	46
Comments	40
Date	December 7, 2025 8:12 PM UTC (8 months ago)
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