Performative empathy for a lost generation of young men by the Femosphere, the feminist dominated media.

Mysterious-Citron875 · 2025-03-09T13:43:21+00:00

"misogynistic porn", they're still trying to victimize women

Enzi42 · 2025-03-09T14:16:39+00:00

So, I held my nose and read the article in full and I have to say that I'm disappointed beyond what I had expected going in. I disagree with the OP that this is even "performative" empathy, it's worse than that.

I don't take pleasure in making this point (especially since I've called it out before in people on both sides of the divide) but I find myself saying it here.

The "concern" for boys being expressed in the article isn't really concern for boys at all. Instead it is worry over the negative outcomes for girls due to the increasing problems plaguing men and boys and the resistance to addressing them.

In other words, they still don't give a damn about the fate of male human beings, they just finally realized that women and girls really might suffer if things don't change. And even when facing down this reality, they have to couch it in a way that makes sure they don't "go too far" and admit that they may have contributed to these issues.

If I can give an analogy, it's like abusive parents and their two children Evan and Emily. The parents shower Emily with affection and praise, justify and downplay her faults and often give her the majority of their attention.

Evan meanwhile is often ignored unless it is to be blamed for something. He is continually reminded of how disappointing he is to his mother and father and he is often told what a burden he is to his perfect sister. Gifts and resources that he may have received or worked for are given to his sister and he is punished and lectured if he dares complain.

Then one day the parents read an article about how siblings who think they are being treated unequally are likely to lash out at the perceived favored sibling, and perhaps even inflict violence on the child they feel is being treated better.

Suddenly the abusive parents rush to give Evan the affection and care he was denied previously. They attend to his needs, give him things, and try to force themselves to care about his day to day life.

But it's a hollow and insulting shell. They don't give any more of a damn about him than before. What they do care about is the potential harm Evan may inflict on their precious Emily if his resentment boils over.

That's what this article and many other attempts to "reach out" are. Selfish fear of what may happen in the future as a result of pervasive neglect, demonization and overall nastiness.

Kaayaa_ag4a · 2025-03-09T14:09:56+00:00

I totally agree with this. I mean even before this generation there was less sympathy towards men, but nowadays the media is totally dominated by pseudo-feminism and excluding men.

A few years ago there used to be these pages on Facebook called Bright Side and Five-minute crafts. The latter was good and had some videos satisfying to watch, and the former also had some good blogs (if that's what they are called), but the problem was that everybody in their videos or art for blogs was women, and men were almost never seen as the main character. It was as if they were made solely for women, and if they published some content meant for men, it used to be things like "how to make your woman happy". Again, nothing whatsoever for men's happiness.

I remembed when I watched Titanic there was a scene about rescuing the women and children first. It does make sense to say that men are physically stronger than women, but how does that justify neglecting to rescue them first in a literal disaster?

Only recently I have been on Instagram for a few days and most of the content is women-centered. I thought it would be suggesting me them because I am a woman, but came to know that my male friends who use it too have similar feeds. There were a lot of posts from many pages about body-positivity in women, which is of course very good, but what about the same in men? I saw posts which were literally making fun of men for not being muscular enough.

Hope this ends and soon the day will come when men get as much sympathy as women do.

Futureman999 · 2025-03-09T17:22:42+00:00

conflicting messages everywhere, from the violent, aggressive pornography to which so many young people are exposed, to important societal conversations about male violence, to the harmful stereotypes found in books and toys and on clothes

blah blah, women are better, men fail because they're inferior. Sorry fellow feminists for even mentioning men's problems. Ha ha they're such failures amiright? Maybe if they would embrace their feminine side and learn to cry?

She's framing everything to talk about how young ~~draft horses~~ men are not being properly conditioned to be useful to women. horrors!

Also like all feminists she can't stop crowing about female art, education, psychology, and dead languages majors "crushing it". Curious she picked women's 16-24 employment rate as her milestone to compare to men (another example of women destroying men - wahoo!! yah sistahs!!!) What happens after age 24, college or no, feminist warrior princess? Wait wait, I know what you're going to say: "pay gap"

Local-Willingness784 · 2025-03-09T19:03:55+00:00

better than the normal hysterical bullshit, still going on about patriarchy and I wouldn't be surprised of toxic masculinity was something this columnist firmly believes in, but yeah, bullshit.

also kind of funny that she cites the stats about young men being twice as likely to be single than single women and believes that doesn't says a lot about young women obviously sharing top men, I guess she thinks those men who are juggling multiple women are feminist or something and that's why that's fine, who knows.

OrcaTwilight · 2025-03-10T17:22:48+00:00

Never mind the “performative” empathy. Where’s the empathy at all? The world would be indifferent if half the men died horrifically overnight

Jersey_Suks · 2025-03-09T17:59:17+00:00

I don't like useing the term feminist to refer to woman who are fighting for the opression of men. We need a new word because to me feminism is people fighting for the equality between men and woman but nowadays men and woman aren't equal men face significant systematic oppressions such as homeless aid, child support system, prision sentences e.t.c. where as woman don't face any of those systematic opressions infact i personally don't believe they face any. Most of us men's rights activists are fighting for equality between men and woman so wouldn't that make us feminist.

Mysterious-Zone-334 · 2025-03-11T02:56:49+00:00

I want y’all to take notice that they are spouting the same nonsense that got the democrats asses kicked this year, and they will continue to lose support amongst young men if this continues.

They are only doing this cause they think trump is a fascist and since he is in power, that might motivate some incel to do a terrorism or something. Not cause young men are suffering.

Title	Performative empathy for a lost generation of young men by the Femosphere, the feminist dominated media.
Author	RealStarkey
Upvotes	298
Comments	30
Date	March 9, 2025 1:37 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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