remember fellas, prenups are a must.

grasshopa · 2019-09-21T23:00:10+00:00

There's a balance, however. He's expecting her to give up her career to raise the kids. A significant amount of time away from the workforce will significantly diminish her earning potential, to say nothing about retirement, so unless a prenup addresses that issue I'd argue against it as well.

excess_inquisitivity · 2019-09-22T01:25:04+00:00

Prenups are worthless.

XenoX101 · 2019-09-22T04:28:49+00:00

This is a bit trickier because he is expecting her to sacrifice her job for X number of years. My understanding is part of the 50:50 financial split in divorce law was designed for this reason. Though I don't think 50:50 is justified, receiving no compensation for rearing kids while you forego employment opportunities seems a bit like a dick move.

Ody_ssey · 2019-09-22T05:00:57+00:00

Prenups are rejected by court most of the time. She just has to accuse him for domestic violence and see how court becomes a white knight. Prenup only protects the asset he acquired before marriage.

1LegendaryWombat · 2019-09-22T05:35:11+00:00

"It feels like he's using me in some way"

Uhh...no? Thats an odd feeling to get. A prenup prevents one party using the other.

As for the divorce thing, i think she would still get alimony, no? Just not any of his assets

NibblyPig · 2019-09-22T09:14:16+00:00

I will never, ever, understand the idea that being a stay-at-home parent is somehow a punishment or a bad thing.

I would love nothing more than to never have to work another day in my life while raising a kid and having a partner fund everything.

The fact people think it's brave to 'sacrifice' your career in such a way and that you should have reperations if you do so and later divorce is ludicrous.

If you wanted to make divorce fair then they would swap roles and the breadwinner would be able to raise the kid alone while the former-SAH parent goes and gets a job and funds everything.

It really boggles my MIND.

Criket · 2019-09-21T23:07:16+00:00

Prenup are turned around all the time. She just have to claim DV and it rendered invalid.

RagingHardBull · 2019-09-22T06:27:18+00:00

Remember also prenups get routinely thrown out. Best protection is not to marry.

rwp80 · 2019-09-22T13:28:59+00:00

Okay honey you're absolutely right, don't marry that selfish beast.

There are plenty of loaded men making 200k per year who are itching to take that risk for your lifelong benefit to avoid making you "feel personally insulted".

Go live your life in solitude or find a man that's willing to give you everything if you suddenly decide to divorce him.

If you do live your life in solitude just remember... "Ain't no man gonna thwart my 50k per year career!"

Good luck!

CantBanFacts · 2019-09-22T00:59:51+00:00

He really dodged the bullet on that one.

FractalChinchilla · 2019-09-22T00:25:17+00:00

STBH?

runner557 · 2019-09-22T13:02:20+00:00

This already sounds like its starting off on the wrong foot, even without the prenup. My honest advice to both of them would be to hit the pause button.

Right now, they aren't even married yet and already fighting over when to have children and how they will be taken care of. Both need a long talk about what their expectations are and how they each see their life and future. And if they can't work that out and agree on that now, then there shouldnt be any wedding.

Loumier · 2019-09-22T03:21:39+00:00

What STBH means? I take a while to understand acronyms because I'm not a native English speaker.

Lion_amongst_gods · 2019-09-22T07:46:01+00:00

It only says he wants a prenup. There's nothing here that says the prenup mentions that the woman wouldn't receive alimony or a settlement in case of divorce. Smells fishy.

theoracleofosiris · 2019-09-22T08:27:04+00:00

There’s no need for prenups if you don’t do stupid things like get married

jinladen040 · 2019-09-22T12:36:28+00:00

I've read (so correct me if I'm wrong) that prenups are basically useless in court these days. The arguments being are that not all finances or property was disclosed in the prenup. That the prenup was signed involuntarily or under stress. The prenup was unfair, oppressive, or financially unjustified. Prenup being filed incorrectly. And breaking restrictions defined in the prenup, for example infelidy if that were a stated restriction.

With these, Lawyers can usually argue for the prenup to be invalid in which case a judge will throw them out. I couldn't find any stats are how often they are thrown out. But if they aren't ironclad at the time of signing, it seems a lot of judges have no issue invalidating them, opening up the way for alimony.

pauliogazzio · 2019-09-23T08:43:12+00:00

Stop spreading the lie that "prenups are needed", the fact is they're worth as much as the paper they're written on, judges can throw them out at will. The answer is to not get married.

Title	remember fellas, prenups are a must.
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Date	September 21, 2019 10:37 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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