"There's no good men!"

FeeRevolutionary1187 · 2025-12-08T01:32:40+00:00

Usually when women say this, it means the types they like aren’t good and if you take a good look at their choices in men…. well it makes sense lmaoo

Suspicious-Sleep5227 · 2025-12-08T01:47:22+00:00

They set really high standards for the men they date yet they rarely meet those same standards for themselves.

Manaheaven · 2025-12-08T02:03:17+00:00

A lot of this is due to selection bias and market supply. The majority of men are virtually invisible to women, shrinking the market significantly. In addition a lot of men who value relationships and family have removed themselves from the market due to the current dating climate and feminist law/culture

DecisionPlastic9740 · 2025-12-08T02:43:01+00:00

...that they're attracted to

No-Werewolf-5955 · 2025-12-08T03:00:12+00:00

The mindset that "there are no good men" is primarily sustained by four interlocked logical and cognitive biases:

Texas Sharpshooter Fallacy: they are ignoring obvious examples to the contrary.
Confirmation Bias: they only seek evidence to support their pre-existing belief.
Hasty Generalization: A conclusion is drawn from a relatively small, unrepresentative, or anecdotal sample. (This is the fallacy that racism, sexism, and classism conduct.)
Availability Heuristic: the power of emotionally vivid events overrides the memory of evidence to the contrary.

The problem that we need to accept as MRAs given the political climate is that female (peoples) perspectives may appear to be completely valid from their point of view albeit with all of these aforementioned fallacies and biases being responsible for their perspective. There are two major points that work together that I believe are indicative of exactly how this perspective gets formed and it is all about being a repeat victim:

~6% of males rape at some point in their lives. Two-thirds of that 6% (4%) account for 90% of all rapes. Around 80-85% of those cases knew the victim as an intimate partner, acquaintance, friend, or family member. DV has recidivism at 1/5 to 1/3 with 15% to 25% males committing DV with lifetime prevalence.
A female that has been sexually assaulted is three to four times more likely to be sexually assaulted again compared to females that have not experienced SA. Victims somehow get targeted for repeat offenses.

6% of the male population is figuring out how to repeatedly terrorize 15-20% of the female population all while the good males aren't there, and while the females think they are safe. Without knowing how to identify who is a potential threat this experience is like a jack-in-the-box for them. This repeat victimization from the same 4% of males causes a big skew in the perception of males from that 15-20% of females, because they aren't discerning what is causing the repeat offenses against them. Basically there is evidence that supports the idea that some people are more likely to attract and not expel or evade the worst of the males repeatedly. I am not victim blaming.

There are some bad males who consistently go around causing problems for everybody including males and females. There are also bad females who cause problems for for males and females. The issue is asymmetrical. You have to acknowledge peoples experiences and validate them before they will ever listen to your corrections like "not all men" etc.: this is social tact. You are not going to get anywhere with anyone in life if all you do is deny them with your opening statement.

SquaredAndRooted · 2025-12-08T02:21:44+00:00

It's rotten behavior shaped by incentives & will go away quietly when consequences arrive (formal/informal). I feel that we need a mindset change:

I’m not being attacked by strength. I’m witnessing emotional insecurity & borrowed power.

WhereProgressIsMade · 2025-12-08T04:19:19+00:00

Every time I've seen a woman complaining about there not being any good men, she's had red flags. So the answer is pretty simple - the good men are avoiding these women. They're being screened out by the good men. Men with options won't settle for less than a good woman. So they are correct that there aren't any good men, they just need to add "in my dating pool because I chased them all away".

Living-Intention1802 · 2025-12-08T07:56:45+00:00

When they say there’s no good men what they actually mean is there’s no men who look like male models interested in them.

Downtown_Bid_7353 · 2025-12-08T02:33:38+00:00

Wow man yeah there are alot of bitchy women but much of the vulgarity we see is abunch of girls cooked on tiktok posts. The big issue is that most people are too disinterested in men issues. So whiny misanderists get alot of lax treatment on many forums because its not considered serious

Morden013 · 2025-12-08T08:12:22+00:00

There was no plan.

They call themselves Queen and Goddess all the time now, which is stupid. In their pecking order, looks are way more important than brains.

I am just sitting at the sidelines, eating my popcorn and watching the whole shit-show.

Emergency_Title1521 · 2025-12-08T10:53:22+00:00

They chase only the top percent rich/ handsome men who treat women disposable just like how women treat the average men, and then take their anger on the guys they ignore

Does_Not_Comply · 2025-12-08T15:58:32+00:00

No this is actually true. We are all assholes. We're forced to be kinda. As a man if you lack the capacity to be an ass rest assured you will get walked on, taken advantage of, and drained. We're assholes because assholes are successful at work, with women, and in almost every other area assholes are doing better than the nice guy doormat is doing.

TripleGDawg87 · 2025-12-08T05:16:31+00:00

We can raise more good men (and women) by being strong male role models for the next generation.

Ok_Effect9256 · 2025-12-08T20:52:22+00:00

they are projecting

Icy-Image1264 · 2025-12-09T01:33:13+00:00

Woman here, let me translate that for y’all. “There’s no good HOT men!” ‘Cause trust me, they KNOW that there’s plenty of amazing men out there…they simply weren’t fortunate enough to resemble prime Alain Delon.

I’ll admit, I always thought this was pretty obvious, but from what I’ve seen…I guess I was wrong.

Title	"There's no good men!"
Author	Aexaus
Upvotes	93
Comments	22
Date	December 8, 2025 1:27 AM UTC (8 months ago)
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