Dating is a growing issue, it will effect happiness, children, relationships, and how we interconnect. Do not take this issue lightly, it effects us all, if unaddressed, will make us collectively miserable

I propose these questions, that need to be discussed rationally

Let’s establish simple facts:

Worldwide, gender is 50/50, value per person is distributed by learnt perception of self and others

In western economies, women, if we remove the slim top 10th percentile of earners from both genders, women far outearn men

Women & men ACTUALLY share nearly identical sex drives, and contraception eliminates risk from one side at the base level

All relationships generally form in two orders Sex -> dating -> committed Dating -> sex -> committed

Sex is generally required in order to create a relationship in dating, this is a sensitive tipping point

  1. Why, is one side generally at a massive disadvantage? And getting lonelier by the day in these circumstances?

  2. Why, is one side pursuing more than the other? This grants disproportionate power to the pursued, in ways that grow more than self adjust

  3. Why, is one side reporting single and sexless more than the other?

  4. Why, generally, is one side lowering expectations and the other raising them? The ratio is equal, people should be valued close to the same, if we are not treating them with wrongful prejudice

  5. Why, generally, should one side be expected to provide, if the other are better positioned now to do so?

  6. How is it true, one side generally has quality issues, the other quantity issues, when quality only comes from comparing against quantity

  7. What problems will people compensate for, when opportunity is not presenting itself to one side, and not the other?

  8. What happens to the way others treat others, if others are more easily replaceable?

  9. Why is one side refusing to open up about emotions, even when presented the opportunity to? How will they process their feelings if they cannot?

Your body your choice is ok, when does it come at the expense of others bodies? When does it become sexist to expect different or more things from one side than another side?

Yes, it seems quite obvious in every way… that as a society, we don’t generally respect one side in life’s purpose… procreation, this isn’t biology, this is troubling. science has shown us

  1. Women & men share nearly identical sex drives, mate choice is influenced by in-group & out-group bias, science says women hold a large amount of in-group bias (accepting of others similar) while men hold more out-group bias (accepting of others not similar)

  2. Testosterone gives drive towards everything, it does not make you more horny, dopamine and opiates do

  3. Sexual attraction is a psychological mosaic of “masculine” & “feminine” archetypes, humans don’t prefer one or the other until it’s conditioned

  4. Perception of value depends how humans are taught to perceive it, today it appears society refuses to value one side for things they always have, ONLY what they develop. Meanwhile… the other side are valued for things they have, AND can develop… when does this become sexist?

  5. Fear, comes from avoidance of pain, physical and psychological, it comes from what we are taught, and personal bad experiences from others bad behaviour. If bad behaviour comes from bad experiences, or abuse (cycle of abuse), would one side fearing the other more often, imply, one side has been mistreated and become more likely lash out(physically/verbally) and/or additionally, because they are falsely represented as a whole by media young impressionable minds consume?

These things have been bothering me, I want to know what everyone can make of these observations. If we drag one side through the mud, they might drag everyone else through it too. I view many issues all sides complain about, as symptoms, not the root cause, and they too are legitimate, but are not addressed by furthering the root cause.