Why is everything about women?

heeroena · 2022-12-10T10:24:34+00:00

Because we live in a gynocentric social order. Check out Rollo tomassi on YouTube

IceCorrect · 2022-12-10T10:51:54+00:00

We live in consumer society and shaming men for not getting women is just another way of "advertising" how women are valuable for men. Its just like any other advert using shaming tactic "if you dont drive bmw then you are a looser".

mikesteane · 2022-12-10T10:15:20+00:00

When you understand what triggers attraction in women and how to manipulate it, you end up having a lot less respect for the ability to attract them.

To answer your questions read The Rational Male vols 1 and 2 by Rollo Tomassi.

shit-zen-giggles · 2022-12-10T12:15:01+00:00

Hi,

I'm bi myself. I've resorted to 'being just gay in gay spaces' and 'being straight everywhere else'. The reason? see the link below

Why Bisexual Women Won't Date Bisexual Men - (Amber Rose & Biphobia)

or in article form, if you prefer: https://www.news24.com/w24/archive/wellness/mind/biphobia-why-are-women-afraid-of-dating-bisexual-men-20180420

here's another post with research links on the subject: https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/wf0egc/comment/iithaw1

Yes, it sucks and it is unfair, but you can't negotiate attraction. I wish I had some uplifting message for you, but it is what it is, I'm afraid.

IR0NxLEGEND · 2022-12-10T16:59:05+00:00

Squeaky wheel gets the oil

UnconventionalXY · 2022-12-10T13:55:08+00:00

The point of biology is continuation of the species, so men have powerful sex drives, women want children, sex is pleasurable and generates desire to repeat it, and nature drugs men and women to stay together long enough for procreation to be successful because men and women aren't directly compatible; but human beings also reach for higher order outcomes such as happiness and personal choice on top of pursuing their biology.

You were created to live your life, not be a slave to others validation, however you have to deal with everyone else trying to get their needs met as well as trying to meet your own, so that introduces conflict and competition.

Why should you care what anyone else thinks? They aren't living your life, you are.

You have to determine a plan for your life, what you want to achieve and how to do it. Society indoctrinates men with a basic plan: get educated, work, make money, get married, have children, pay tax and alimony/child support, then die. Most men already have a built-in sex drive and marriage used to be a way to gain regular access to sex without having to go through the hoops of encouraging a woman every single time, but women are increasingly holding mens sexuality hostage to their own wants.

Unfortunately the traditional plan no longer works as women are becoming more selective over whom they grant access to sex, holding men hostage to sex and raping men of resources once they get the children they want.

Everything seems to be about women because they are leveraging their delusional belief in greater worth than men and thus deserving advantage. This used to be the case when women (who are the only ones who can create babies) were more vulnerable to dying and thus being very valuable from a continuation of the species perspective, but not any more with our huge populations and health care.

You need to work out what it is you fundamentally want in life: sexual pleasure is important to most men, but a woman isn't the only path to sexual fulfilment (you can explore your own erotic potential as well as have sex with men in theory), platonic friends are good to have, a career or enjoyable occupation is useful and a way to make money to live is important, etc. These wants don't have to be provided by one person, in fact they can be easier to achieve if provided by different people as your eggs aren't all in one basket. Wanting one woman to provide all your needs, especially when she has her own possibly conflicting wants, is a tall ask and a huge burden to put on one person.

You can be alone in a crowd of people but be connected with someone across the other side of the world with a video link: being alone is not a problem, but loneliness can be if you don't reach out and connect with other people.

Dating is just a social custom to getting more familiar with another person to see if you are compatible for a long term relationship. Negotiating sex is complicated because it hinges on a womans interest and consent and is increasingly becoming a trap for men as women use consent to manipulate.

It was once said that men pay for sex regardless and I think it holds true: paying a prostitute for no strings sex may be cheaper in the long term than having sex in a relationship that not only has strings but traps too.

You are not a man based on how much sex you have or with whom or how many people: you are a man if you are an adult male, who is trying to find his way in a very complicated world like all of us.

EvidencePlz · 2022-12-10T16:06:33+00:00

I feel completely worthless for never being with a woman

When questioned on how he made Gordon Ramsay cry, Marco Pierre White denies the allegation. “No I didn't make Gordon Ramsay cry,” he says. “He made himself cry. That was his choice to cry”. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hNJ5gnFXmhs

Every one uses not getting girls as an insult or not being able to please a woman as an insult.

First try telling "every one" in a calm, polite but cold manner that you have no intention to "get girls" or please a woman" due to your own personal preference. If they still keep insulting you, leave them and then find and mingle with a different group of "every one" who subscribe to your own philosophy. For example go to a church. I'm sure they won't insult you if you told them you don't wanna "get girls" or "please a woman". Spend time with them instead.

The entire point of life is to reproduce but I'll neve r do that so I feel useless

This is completely false. Famous people like Nikola Tesla, Sir Isaac Newton never reproduced, never had gf/wife/family etc yet didn't feel useless. It's also not true when you claim that you will never reproduce. Ever heard of sperm banks?

Men thrive off of female validation and attention from women.

May be, but seriously, it's not as much of a big deal as you think it is, and you are definitely not gonna starve to death if you don't get this so-called validation and attention from women. It has absolutely no practical value whatsoever. Personally I'd spend that time and money on a threesome with two beautiful Romanian escorts once every 3-4 months per year, and in the meantime keep myself busy with things that I consider more important such as physics, maths, aerodynamics, history and politics. Much less hassle, and unbelievably inexpensive.

So many songs, a guy boasts about....

Don't listen to those songs. You can easily find songs where people don't boast about these things. My all-time favorite is the soundtrack for the movie Das Boot.

because it makes you more of a man

You are already a man simply because you were born a man. There's no need to be "more of a man". You won't win a nobel prize for becoming more of a man or whatever it means.

I don't understand how dating or sex works

There's no need to. I too don't understand how quantum physics work. Guess what? I'm still alive and happy. One day you will die, and those men and women who understand dating and sex will also die the exact same way, and nothing else will matter after that. Once dead, both you and those who understand these things will forget forever that they understood these things and you didn't. Nobody is a winner here.

I'm genuinely scared ill be alone forever

Again, refer to the Marco Pierre White video at the top of my reply.

mitskiapplepie · 2023-02-01T08:56:31+00:00

Boohoo. I'm getting no attention and considering your post history it has fucking nothing to do w men's rights you're just down to hate women. And fuck you all for supporting him

aren3141 · 2022-12-10T11:49:41+00:00

I am bisexual but I only want to date women because that's how you get seen as a real man.

Men thrive off of female validation and attention from women. So many songs, a guy boasts about how many "bitches" he gets and having sex because it makes you more of a man.

It sounds like you think that men make everything about women? Are you mad that women are such a focus for guys you interact with?

Title	Why is everything about women?
Author	boomboxspence
Upvotes	51
Comments	18
Date	December 10, 2022 10:02 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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