This is something I've slowly come to realize as I've gotten older. Neurotypical people do not vet people. They coast through life purely on vibes when it comes to personal interactions, friendships, and relationships. For instance:

🚩 Spotting red flags is the popular new dating strategy. This is something I've always done unconsciously. I figured everyone did this but apparently not. If I witnessed someone do something cruel, selfish, or at odds with my morals, I would instantly write them off. Why would I want to befriend someone who is casually cruel? If they can do it to other's, they will do it to you. They are broadcasting being a bad person.

This problem is especially prominent in women. They will date men who are abusers and assholes and it will be a surprise to no one but themselves. BuT aBuSERs HIde wHo THeY arE! TheY stArt off preTendiNG tO Be niCe! No. They tell you LOUDLY who they are. You either missed the signs or deliberately ignored them.

🚩 Watch what she does, not what she says is a Red Pill axiom along the same lines. People lie. But their actions always expose who they really are.

If more people knew how to vet for positive and negative character traits, they wouldn't struggle with finding a partner. Controversial opinion: finding good women and men to date is actually easy if you know how to vet. It also saves you a lot of trouble because you can instantly cut off incompatible people without wasting your time.