Summer 2017 Challenge!!

Irisandoleander · 2017-06-21T17:26:56+00:00

Inner beauty - tell me if this counts but I'd like to move away from my dependency on social media. I'll be home 24/7 with Fishy and I don't want to rely on social media to entertain me. There are things to do around the house, things to do in my life, genealogy projects, sewing projects, raising the baby... etc. And not that I will step down from modding but I'd like to not be so addicted to the validating that social media brings (so thinking more Facebook/Twitter)

Romantic Relationship - this will be in joint with the above. Just simply spend more time WITH R. Phone down, screen away, TV off time with my husband and my kid. My favorite nights with him don't involve the TV - and are so much fun. So why don't they happen that often? Well because I don't put the damn screen away. Must do!

Outer Beauty - I'm not sure on the numbers, I'll need to talk to my OB but I'd like to set 3, 6, 9 and 12m postpartum on my weight loss goals. I want to be back to my pre-baby body ideally by 9m pp, but BETTER than pre-baby body by 12m pp.

RougetDeLisle · 2017-06-21T22:04:33+00:00

I've been lurking for several months now. I have another reddit account but since I use it to post on AskWomen, among other subs, I thought it'd be better to separate my RPWi activity from that. This post finally prompted me to participate – I love the idea of having something to hold me accountable!

Inner Beauty: Sociability. I've always been both introverted and shy, and while I'm actually comfortable with it, I realize it will probably hinder me in my relationships and my career. The first step is Week 1 of July, which I'll be spending with my parents – I rarely get to see them so I want to work on being pleasant, agreeable and present (actively engaging in conversation, not being on my phone too much). There are other steps but I'll take them one at a time and check back in here!

Relationship: Yielding. I want to become more aware of the times where I'm too hard-headed or just plain in the wrong. We don't fight but I know we frustrate each other sometimes over silly things. I'll be spending 3 weeks at my boyfriend's place this summer, which is a perfect opportunity to practice. Any tips here? (I've read the wiki posts and quite a few others, but I figure the women reading this might have additional advice.)

Outer Beauty: Makeup. I've never, ever worn any. I look fine like this but I'd like to know how to apply makeup for a special day/night. I know there are a million tutorials out there so I have no reason not to learn this, but 3 months seems like the bare minimum I would need. If you have any recs (I have dark eyes and olive skin, neutral-warm undertones at a guess) I'll gladly take them.

Glad to be here. :)

g_e_m_anscombe · 2017-06-21T17:17:30+00:00

As discussed in my other recent post, I've got three main goals right now, which don't map perfectly on these three. But I hope you all don't mind me stretching a little to be a part of the challenge conversation?

Inner beauty - work on developing my long-term career goals (working on a publishable paper, researching PhD programs).

Relationship - deal with my husband's negativity in more positive ways instead of perpetuating it.

Outer beauty - work on figuring out the root cause of my Hashimoto's disease and take care of my health (through exercise and undertaking an intense elimination diet).

hostwithmost · 2017-06-21T00:45:25+00:00

Inner beauty - Work on a quiet confidence. I am quite sure I came upon a huge character flaw in a recent friends' getaway. I like attention too much, maybe. Anyway! I would like to be in a place where I feel comfortable being a wallflower. specially if whatever I am saying can be perceived as braggadocios in anyway. I had to work to be comfortable with attention and I guess I overcorrected.

Romantic relationship - I want to restart writing love letters for him again. It has been a while and the last couple of entries were detailing my pain. I want to have a couple of them outlining my devotion to him, us and our future. :3

Outer beauty - Deepen my yoga practice. Ability to do a handstand flow and a side split would be huge marker of how far I have come! I have hyper extended arms I have to be very mindful of for the handstands. And I swear my hip flexors hate me or something. I can try for weeks and deepen my splits but if I skip a couple of days, the work is completely undone. When I finally get it, it will mean I have been practicing everyday.

littlegoosegirl · 2017-06-23T03:10:38+00:00

Re-posting here because everyone is posting here :p

Inner Beauty: Increase psychological femininity by embracing my own emotions as I feel them. I am a very sensitive person by nature, but as a child I learned to squash my sensitivity or channel it into anger/biting wit. I really want to break this habit down and learn how to be vulnerable to myself. I don't intend on breaking into hysterics every time I see a puppy or receive a strong rebuke, but I also really want to fully re-integrate this aspect of my feminine nature. It's not a weakness, despite what I was always told! I'm hoping that letting myself feel the depth of my own emotions will also lessen my anxiety. I don't usually journal but I think I will keep a rather informal/randomized log of my progress with this just so I can keep tabs on it all and check in with myself.
Relationship: Stop testing my husband when he gives an order or makes a choice. I will sometimes spin my own anxieties out of control and do this whole "is he sure?" kind of thing, where I see what I can get away with. Obviously this just makes him more irritated and less likely to involve me in his frame. He's always in control of himself, but I want to encourage his own "extroverted" dominance over me and my own yielding nature by just doing what he says the first time or believing him the first time. I tried this out yesterday to great effect. Can't wait to see a change in both myself and my husband (dynamic-wise) if I can pull this off for a whole 3-month period (and then the rest of my life obv)!
Outer Beauty: Work on lifting and toning my booty! I've already got a high-Yin petite hourglass going on. I think I can take it to the next level with the booty though, and make my waist look even smaller in comparison. I plan on working on toning/building muscle three times a week and doing cardio two times a week. The other two days I can rest or stretch or whatever. Not looking to lose weight, just exchange fat for toned muscle! :)

ThatStepfordGal · 2017-06-22T13:50:05+00:00

It's Winter now here in Australia so, eh.

Inner Beauty: I really want to improve on my wifely skills, I do have most things down pat though I think I can use some more practice being by my SO's side and being bright, helpful and of course, speak well about him. I will soon have some time with his friends in a large social setting, so I will take that opportunity among many others. I want him to be even more proud of me when I'm by his side, in every way.

Romantic Relationship: Sticking to my main tenets constantly is my utmost goal. Sometimes I still get that feeling of not stfu or getting tempted to take control, when I need to put more faith in my SO. I really want these at the forefront of my mind always.

Outer Beauty: I simply want to keep going on my exercise, cardio as well as weights, just to go up to the next level! The cold weather had gotten me sick before so I've slowed down, now I'll make up for it.

Why not? :)

Camille11325 · 2017-06-22T21:44:03+00:00

Here's what I'll be doing for the challenge:

For my inner beauty goal, I'm going to reconnect with my artistic side and and really develop my natural gift for creativity. Due to life events, illness, and injuries over the past few years I haven't been able to draw, paint, sing, or dance like I used to. Women are so great at bringing beauty into the world through their presence and actions. I'll be making more of an effort to tap into this wonderful aspect of femininity!
When it comes to outer beauty, like /u/littlegoosegirl I'll be stepping up my exercise game. Losing ~20 pounds due to illness set me back but I've been working on my weight and am now at a place where I can get back to the gym!
For my relationship, I want to create more of an air of mystery, and be "on" more. Separate bathrooms really helps but I want to get to the point where I'm rarely seen in a disheveled, unhappy, or negative state. Not hiding any legitimate problems of course, just not being 100% transparent about every little thing to the point where it weighs on M. I don't believe that our men have to know every thought that pops into our minds or hear about every negative emotion or bad thing. I can be pretty good about maintaining that healthy distance but if I'm having a bad day for some reason I can just dump it all on M and that's just not always the best way to handle things. So I'm going to be more mindful for the next 3 months, and more intentional about what I do share!

whitebunny87 · 2017-06-22T22:40:09+00:00

Inner Beauty

As a fairly strong INTP, my real weakness is in the feeling function. Social grace, emotions, creativity, etc do not come naturally to me and while I've come up with fairly decent coping mechanisms and manage to fool those around me, it's draining and an internal struggle. I'd like to build on my skills in these areas to the point where it's a part of me that I genuinely enjoy. I see a Jungian analyst who is all over this kind of personal development so I'm really excited to have that support in my growth.

Romantic Relationship

I want to get better at showing my love to FH in the ways that he appreciates. We're quite different in a lot of ways and sometimes I forget that the things I would appreciate from him are not always what he would prefer.

Outer Beauty

I'd like to be strict in eating keto for the next few months. I've fallen off the wagon a bit and noticing that I look/feel a bit sluggish. When I'm cutting out carbs everything's just a bit clearer and brighter and better. I also want to focus on drinking more water, and read into supplements that can help with hair/nail strength. Any tips are welcome!

MsVerleihnix · 2017-06-24T18:17:46+00:00

My Motto for the summer is: SELF CARE!

Inner Beauty:

working through "Warrior Goddess Training"
keep a bullet journal ( special focus on thankfulness!"
getting rid of energy vampires and actively avoid collecting new ones!
I would like to get my class through the 8th grade and see if I switch school then (the directors board of the school is a mess and not conductive to health or sanity!)

Romantic /Relationship:

Date Nights every other week.
Support my SO with supporting his family
My SO is attending a congress and represents the law bureau he works for. I will accompany him as his secretary as his normal secretary does not travel with her boss. She will meet with me and go through his schedule and the calendar system he developed for himself.

deal with my husband's negativity in more positive ways instead of perpetuating it.

This as well. My SO is more a glass is half empty type of person and I beliefe he never learned to appreciate all the good things life has in store for him/us.

Outer Beauty:

learn how to do my hair into up do´s / learn how to braid my own hair
Yoga!
keep reading up on hair care and try a few sour rinses
switch to Conditioner only!
find a dress wich works for hot office and classroom days. So loose fitted, cloth that breathes and a fun color.

RPW88121 · 2017-06-25T19:55:05+00:00

1.) Inner beauty: Lately I've been getting more into spirituality and practicing gratitude, optimism, and just generally keeping a more positive vibe. I want to continue to work on that until it's my natural, default setting to be optimistic and grateful for the blessings in my life

2.) Romantic Relationship: I just stopped seeing someone this week after it became clear that we weren't right for each other (grateful to this community for introducing me to vetting, which prevented me from wasting too much time with this one!). So my romantic relationship goal is just to find one haha. I'd like to shoot for at least 3 first dates per month until I find someone great to continue seeing

3.) Outer beauty: I'm not medically overweight, but I have ~10lbs I'd like to lose. My smaller goal in relation to that is to stop ordering delivery food! I cook more often than eat out for sure, and I tend to cook healthy meals from scratch. But when I get lazy or start emotional eating I use delivery apps, and then all hell breaks loose. Luckily, I'm also participating in an "Uber Frugal Month" challenge run by a blogger I like in July, so that fits in with the delivery apps

dedicatedxx · 2017-06-28T12:07:17+00:00

Inner beauty I want to be more aware, focused and in the moment than I lately have been. (E.g. I often find my attention wavering during a conversation and I think it's simply disrespectful to that person.) Think I am going to start working towards this goal by taking my meditation practice more serious and decreasing my time on the internet.

Romantic relationship I'd like to be more yielding towards my SO. First, I'll start by trusting him to make the right decision (no second guessing) and being more open to sex when he seems to be initiating something instead of trying to take the wheel.

Outer beauty I am continually working on my body shape as strength training is a hobby of mine, but I'd like to accentuate my shape by upgrading my wardrobe. I find that a lot of my clothing doesn't really fit me, doesn't make me look feminine and I'm sort of at a loss what to do.

4everfemme · 2017-06-23T20:43:48+00:00

Hi everyone, another lurker who finally decided to join in! Here are my three goals:

Inner beauty - work on maintaining old friendships and developing new ones now that I have moved to a new area where I don't know many people. To achieve this, I will text one old friend each week to see how they are doing, and when possible, arrange to spend some time together. I will also attend the local church and introduce myself to the ladies there where appropriate, as well as volunteer to help with activities in order to get involved.

Romantic relationship - Actually do all the cute little things that I think about doing all the time for my SO. To remind myself, I will keep a little notebook with me and jot down ideas (writing a love letter or a short note, being more considerate with small things around the house, picking up some of his favorite candy to surprise him with, etc etc). I will set aside time to write the notes/do whatever else/ early in the morning after I work out.

Outer beauty - oh boy do I have my work cut out for me! So, I have lost some weight and am in the process of losing more through diet and exercise. I also feel like my wardrobe is all over the place - I do have some solid pieces, but it's not as cohesive as I would like. For this part of the challenge, I will continue my workout regime and maintain my diet changes, as well as implement some new rules - no sugary, carbonated drinks except on the weekend, sweets only twice a week. This probably doesn't sound great, but I don't want to restrict myself too much because it will backfire, in my experience. I will keep track of this on my above-mentioned notebook/everything journal. I quit drinking soda for like two years, but then the habit crept back in somehow. Good thing I have some self-control in other areas. As far as clothes, I will follow a guide I found through a blog called The Wardrobe Architect to help me define my style and my closet a bit better. It consists of weekly activities starting from exploring the reasons behind clothing choices and factors that influence it. We will see how that works out! I'm hoping to learn more about recognizing quality clothing and making purchases that fit my lifestyle.

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Title	Summer 2017 Challenge!!
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Date	June 20, 2017 5:25 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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