Alpha widowed?

riseoftherice · 2018-04-05T19:55:30+00:00

That's not what alpha widowed means.

I'd reccomend trying to keep your relationship for the classroom only. It hurts your progress, feelings and it wastes your time. Set hard limits, he's a great guy I'm certain. There are other great guys, you think you have high SMV and if so, why don't you try to just see other people?

No sex, no commitment until you think someone is worthy of being exclusive. I believe that relationship experience or at least, knowing yourself better and how to present yourself in the dating sphere is very important.

If he changes his mind when you block him out or when he understands you aren't "his" anymore, he's definitely not what you're looking for. You're not a toy to be played with.

jacoba_sidenius · 2018-04-05T21:11:53+00:00

I think its more because u didn't have real experience. U created way more better pic of him. U don't know what its inside his head and how he is as a bf. I have bunch of guy friends, who r smart, gentle and polite but super complicated in relationship, so lets say, u don't know how is it with him

But second, and more important, is what its in ur head. I gave him so much value, I mean ofc there was some chemistry, but still we are controlling it till we make it significant.

My advice will be - try to cut it till the limit. Time will make the feeling less intense. I think one of the way- is doing something extreme. It could clean ur head and fill with energy.

yungshmoneygal · 2018-04-05T21:45:28+00:00

I think a big part of why it's difficult for you to get over this guy is because he's on a pedestal in your head. He's that unobtainable guy who you can't get out of your head and as he keeps sending mixed signals, it makes you feel inferior because after all that time he won't do anything that shows he's thinking about committing to you.

I know it's hard, but I think you should realize your worth! You are a young, well-educated, feminine, and healthy woman who probably has lots of options. I would try to go on some dates outside of this (not saying that you should commit to any of these guys just because, but rather just go on a good amount of first and second dates). This will probably make you realize that there are so many other options out there, and will probably also give you a confidence boost as well. You are desirable, and you are worth someone's commitment and attention. If this guy can't give it to you, just slowly drift from a friendship with him to a more professional and acquaintance-level relationship with him so that he doesn't get upset about it. Don't waste your youth pining over some guy who can't give you what you need!

pearlsandstilettos · 2018-04-05T21:27:33+00:00

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WhatIsThisAccountFor · 2018-04-06T07:09:34+00:00

Things only intensify because he doesn't want you back.

Look at it this way: unless you want to be only FWB and nothing more ever, nothing will happen. There are no mixed signals. He doesn't secretly love you and he never will.

I think you only still want him because he doesn't want you.

theoppositeopinion1 · 2018-04-06T19:46:04+00:00

I want to get married and have kids

What is more important to you, your PHD or kids and a family? Because right now your actions say "PHD is vastly more important"

Sleepisannoying · 2018-04-07T14:59:51+00:00

What if you tried seeing him in a different light? He likes being on the pedestal you created... It strokes his ego. You've asked for limited contact, he refuses and claims he wants to stay friends... he is discounting you and your situation and your pain, for his own needs of wanting to be admired. If he were really all that and a bag of chips he would respect your request and not "act really hurt". He likes the spotlight you've given him, it inflates his ego even is he's really good at not letting that show. He's using you. Stop letting him use you.

mymonster8u · 2018-04-08T04:24:12+00:00

Its ok to have him and have another man too. Its ok to have more than one friend. You are not in a relationship with him. So no need to worry how he feels. Go on dates. You have to force it sometimes. Stop the mental loop of him always being on your mind. Put the loop somewhere else.

Hellthug2 · 2018-04-06T04:28:45+00:00

If youve had sex once youre not a virgin dude

Title	Alpha widowed?
Author	marsystarzy
Upvotes	9
Comments	31
Date	April 5, 2018 7:42 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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