Converting our nanny?

pearlsandstilettos · 2026-07-05T14:52:14+00:00

Removed. Off topic and I see that you are actually the nanny and misrepresenting yourself is against the rules here.

igottapoopbad · 2026-07-05T13:39:23+00:00

Extremely unprofessional. She is a nanny that does well with your children and helps raise them. Having varied view points for your children to consider is actually a good thing, it enriches them and helps them develop critical thinking. If you want a Christian based nanny you should fire someone and find another who aligns better with what you're looking for. Asking her to convert or offering her a raise if she converted is unprofessional and frankly not cool.

MajorEntertainment65 · 2026-07-05T13:48:29+00:00

Am I the only one who doesn't see red pill as religious at all? Why is converting your nanny to your religion a topic for this sub?

PokemonJohto · 2026-07-05T13:51:31+00:00

The ultimatum thing is very manipulative and icky, is this the example you want for your kids? Just talk to her like a normal human being without these tactics of offering more money for following a religion. Your kids will have their own opinions when they grow up anyway, they're not guaranteed to be people of god. The more you expose them and push it onto them won't help either

Pronoia2-4601 · 2026-07-05T13:41:48+00:00

I would be very, very careful, as there could be a religious discrimination lawsuit in this situation.

blissanfull77 · 2026-07-05T13:58:34+00:00

wtf...just because she has critical thinking skills you're scared of her influencing your children? if the whole world ran on your ideas it would be a horrible unfair place to live.

DarceysExtensions · 2026-07-05T13:54:47+00:00

If she doesn’t believe in God, no amount of money is going to change that. You have no right to demand that she adopt your faith. Believing in God is usually something that people were raised with, or it developed naturally over time. No agnostic, or atheist can just decide to now be a believer.

If she isn’t a good fit for you anymore, you either find a nanny who shares your religious beliefs, or you raise your daughters yourself.

sine120 · 2026-07-05T13:57:42+00:00

If your family's faith cannot survive one caregivers beliefs, it is incredibly brittle. You will encounter thousands of those who don't share your beliefs, it's well past time to learn how to work with them.

Marali87 · 2026-07-05T14:06:49+00:00

This is awful. Ask her to convert, as if you're asking her to buy a different brand of cheese. Giving her a BONUS to convert? Are your serious?

She sounds like a very lovely and smart person who is far less judgemental of your beliefs than you two are of hers. I mean "she has a degree in philosophy so she must be a liberal", please, can you not see how unkind you are speaking of her?

If she found out how you both truly feel, she would probably leave the job.

bionicallyironic · 2026-07-05T14:13:34+00:00

You’re gross and totally off your rocker.

You need to gain some empathy and think about how you’d feel in a similar situation. What if your job demanded you convert to Judaism or you’re out? Why do you feel the need to have this level of control? Jesus wouldn’t agree with what you’re doing, he’d respect her and move along.

dnjprod · 2026-07-05T14:33:10+00:00

Hi, you are an employer. I don't know where you live, but I know in the united states, employers are not allowed to bring up religion nor make religion an issue about employment unless they are a church. You ma'am are not a church. Giving her the ultimatum you are wanting to give is not only gross and wrong, but illegal.

It is highly immoral and illegal for you to promise somebody a job, have them move to another country, and then make it a condition of their employment to become your religion. You are the reason people need these protections.

Keep your religion to yourself.

Andravisia · 2026-07-05T14:24:24+00:00

Wow. What an ugly thought processes. "This woman is kind and caring about my children, but because she doesn't believe exactly as I do, I want to manipulate her into doing so or firing her."

OP. This tells me a lot more about you and your version of your deity of choice than it does her.

I'm an atheist, so let me tell you how I'd see what you trying to encourage her to convert would look like

If being kind and good with children isn't good enough for you...it makes me think that being kind and good isn't a high priority in your church. It makes me think that your church must demand loyalty above all else. It makes me think that your god is petty. That he cares about performance over what is in a persons heart.

My advice? Leave it be. If she is genuinely curious, she will ask. Trying to convert her will only push her away. Be genuine. Tell her all about how your church is helping your community. How they help feed the poor, how they help house those in need. How they treat the immigrants. You know, the thing that Jesus told his followers to do. Show her how your devotion to your deity helps the community as a whole, even those who are not followers of their religion. Those are the kinds of things that would motivate me to convert.

Several-Adeptness-83 · 2026-07-05T14:32:03+00:00

If your faith can not survive questioning from outsiders it's a false faith.

isthisreallife080 · 2026-07-05T14:33:31+00:00

If having a Christian nanny is so important to you, you should hire a Christian nanny. You can’t force or manipulate someone into converting. That’s not how faith works. As a woman of faith, you should know that. True belief is a personal journey, not something that can be bought with a hefty bonus. Your approach is decidedly un-Christian.

You have two realistic options:

Accept that your nanny does not share your faith, but is still a good role model for your children. She can educate them on secular matters while you, your husband, and your religious community handle spiritual education.
Decide that a nanny who doesn’t share your faith is no longer tolerable, let her go, and find someone who does meet your criteria. There are plenty of underpaid junior teachers at Christian schools who I’m sure would be thrilled for an opportunity at a well paid nanny job.

But you cannot, under any circumstances, force someone to covert.

Express-Score-2539 · 2026-07-05T14:48:06+00:00

Ermmmm. Paying her to convert is simony. You would be committing a sin as well as inducing her into sin. So much for salvation!
I very much doubt the Lord would approve……
Let alone you would be teaching your children that money matters more than faith. I’m pretty certain that’s the exact opposite to what Christianity teaches 😂😂

AutoModerator · 2026-07-05T13:33:07+00:00

Title: Converting our nanny?

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Full text: Hi everyone, looking for some advice on how to best handle this situation/if I'm being crazy for this...but about a year ago my husband and I hired a nanny to help out with our 2 young girls (4&3). She is from Australia and absolutely wonderful and trust that we did EXTENSIVE screening of multiple nannies before we decided on her. We knew at the time that she was obviously raised quite different to us being from Australia and all and that she likely holds different political and religious beliefs, but I suprisingly aligned with all her beliefs on childcare and education and things like play based learning and gentle parenting (the proper kind, not the crap you see on tiktok). I know she isnt religious at all and she says that she is politically neutral when working with kids (I asked - she said she "leads with kindness and curiousity" which I love) and honestly I know it wasn't all talk either because I work from home and see how she interacts with our children all the time - I 100% trust that she interacts with our children in a way that aligns with our values and isnt brainwashing them to any other sort of agenda but then again I still worry for when they get older and she is helping them understand the world better..I mean she literally has a degree in philosophy as well as her teaching degree so I definitely get the vibe that she is super liberal outside of work...

Anyway as my husband, children and I continue to deepen our relationship with God I can't help but question having someone who doesnt share our faith being present in our home all the time and essentially helping raise our children. I really think that I want her to convert so that I have that peace of mind that my home is filled with His light and that my children are being raised by someone who can be a true example for them.

Would I be crazy for asking her to convert?? I'm thinking I could ease her into it by inviting her to church etc with us and kind of helping her find her salvation but I just dont know if I'm overthinking this. My husband said we could also just start looking for a different nanny instead, or that we could offer her a bonus if she did convert. She is a fully qualified teacher so she already gets paid very well by us, but we definitely have the means to give her a substantial bonus if we think she might do this for us... what do you think? I actually wonder if giving her an ultimatum of staying and converting, or leaving and we find another nanny, might work better too.. It's not like she would find it hard to get another job because she is very good at what she does and we would still be willing to write her a glowing reference if she did go that route.

What would you suggest? Any advice at all would be SO appreciated because I truly am stuck on what to do. I just want what's best for my babies 😭

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NatashOverWorld · 2026-07-05T14:29:04+00:00

If religious faith was important to you, that should have been something you did when you were hiring.

Asking someone to convert or offering them a bonus to is wildly unprofessional and socially uncomfortable in a way that's going to impact your rlship with her going forward, if she chooses to continue working for you.

DangerousAd7274 · 2026-07-05T15:27:13+00:00

OP here - it didnt take long for this post to get removed lmao but to update those that are playing along... this post was a social experiment of sorts, evaluating the ethical justifications of ideological homogeneity within a value based community and the subsequent perceived moral legitimacies involved. There is a lot more to it, but this was just a taster for later research. But thank you all for your participation!

salemblack · 2026-07-05T14:33:42+00:00

Sincerely hope this young woman can escape the clutches of your insane incredibly evil ass.

Title	Converting our nanny?
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Date	July 5, 2026 1:33 PM UTC (1 month ago)
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