How do we do it?

cupieheart · 2022-07-25T17:24:48+00:00

You don’t have to make 3 meals. I think the mistake I made as a homemaker in the beginning was pushing myself too hard. I would get up, make my husbands breakfast, pack his lunch, and make his dinner. I’d also push myself to bake everything from scratch and coupon and keep the house SPOTLESS.

Tbh after I while I realized that by packing his lunch and managing what we do with our money, I was “mommying” him which is very unsexy… and he didn’t even ask me to do all of those things!

You’re role is to yes be a homemaker, but also be feminine and receptive. So don’t treat it like a 9-5 and don’t forget to do your self care!

grahamcookiefart · 2022-07-25T18:24:01+00:00

For fitness reasons, my husband and I are doing intermittent fasting. GIRL how this has changed my life for the better. Better fitness, better body, SO MUCH more time and less groceries. If you can make one of these 3 meals that you're talking about to either nothing or something that needs no prep/pans (like no-cut fruits or muesli) then do it.

For the other stuff.. I have a schedule on my phone for the chores that I follow and I try to do maintenance while using the amenities. Meaning, while showering I clean the shower, while sitting on the toilet I sweep up hairs on the ground, while brushing my teeth I spray and clean the basin etc... it helps a lot.

LadySandcastle · 2022-07-25T18:57:19+00:00

Most of the time if the woman is working too she isn't expected to do ALL of the homemaking because that in and of itself is a full time job. It's a recipe for burnout.

snarkypirate · 2022-07-25T21:33:48+00:00

If you're making 3 meals from scratch every day for 2 people that seems like a lot. Unless you are making single servings every time!

Things that I do that help for food specifically are to make a couple of breakfasts/lunch that we can eat on all week. My husband is a teacher, so we focus on cold salads for lunches that can be packed and take less time to eat / don't require reheating. Lots of chicken salad variations, pasta salad, couscous/chickpea salads, etc. I try to vary the flavor profiles so it doesn't get too old. Same with breakfast - I'll do a baked oatmeal, or some egg bites, or something that's fast for him to microwave and eat on his way to work, but not something that has to be done every day.

Then for dinners, we usually do 2-3 entree recipes and try to alternate a little bit + eat leftovers. Usually means that I might have a few bigger cooking days in a week, but I'm not making all 3 meals from the start every day. I might make a special dessert a few times a month because I enjoy baking, but it's not an all the time thing.

I meal plan on Wednesdays and shop on Thursdays (you may need to use other days for this depending on your work schedule) - my local ads switch over on Wednesdays, so this gives me the day to look at new ads and see if there are any great sales I want to take advantage of. I have a Google Sheet calendar / grocery list that is shared with my husband so he can see the plans and add things to the grocery list (though I usually do most of it). I also added a tab for links to new recipes to keep track of things I find online that we like!

In terms of chores, it depends on your standards and your energy & time. I find that spending 30-45 minutes on a room or area of my house on weekdays is enough to keep it presentable, with some deep cleaning one day a week on one of the rooms. But we are pretty content with "tidy-ish and not dirty" rather than "magazine ready spotless."

Honestly, I find that most of these things don't take up as much time as I might expect, so I still have time for hobbies, especially since I'm not currently working. If you are both working, it may take more conversations and a more specific schedule to make sure you have time for other passions, which are still so important!

Princeking1175 · 2022-07-25T18:14:37+00:00

You don't need that kind of effort. Just cook in bulk and let everyone eat as they want with a focus on dinner as a special meal. Also you can conscript your children into cleaning

titlejunk · 2022-07-26T03:26:19+00:00

I plan my down times to coincide with his. I clean the whole house on Monday and Friday. I work out in the AM on weekdays. I figure out what’s for dinner by 3 and have it bought/prepped by 4.

alexaxl · 2022-07-26T05:39:51+00:00

Workout, yoga, meditation & energizing meals. Planned routines.

Instant pot delegation.

At home or in a corp - energy will sap out.

Use above either way.

ParamedicCapable6484 · 2022-07-25T22:58:00+00:00

Well kne thing that really helps me as a stahm w 2 kids for meal prep is I make breakfast pre-made, preset the coffee machine in the evening, his lunch is yesterday's leftovers....(sometimes premade but always accessible in fridge) so that way I can snooze in with the baby and wake up on my own time :-) I wash laundromat throughout week but usually don't get to folding/putting away one time a week.

henrycatalina · 2022-07-26T11:48:19+00:00

I'd say turn off your phone for hours, the TV is off, radio is ok. Make a schedule of tasks and organize enough to be efficient. When kids arrive, read to them, play and make sure the phone and TV are off. Just observations of my wife. She will complain so tell your future husband that he just needs to listen and not judge. Split up work with a spouse and avoid resentment but appreciate you are alive and engaged in life with challenges. Yes, life must be challenging of it gets boring.

babygirl2602 · 2022-07-31T05:30:49+00:00

Getting up, cooking each meal, cleaning, and grocery shopping are all things that you would have to do by yourself if you lived by yourself. It is definitely doable. The first step is believing in yourself that you are capable, which you are. The second step is figuring out a routine that works for you. The third step is repeating the routine until it becomes habit, from there on it is smooth sailing.

For me, designating weekdays to certain tasks helps. Saturday is grocery shopping day, Sunday is meal prep day, etc. Another helpful principle is, if you happen to see something that needs to be done and it will take less than 5 minutes, like taking out the trash or unloading the dishwasher, just do it right then.

Title	How do we do it?
Author	possiblyourgf
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Date	July 25, 2022 5:16 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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