I've been seeing this guy on and off for a year now. At the beginning of our relationship we were just dating then we made it official but quickly broke up, and that's when the on and off started. Recently we decided that we care about each other and that we should be together. His been really sweet and attentive, especially a couple nights ago when we went out with a couple of his friends.

The problem is that we went hiking a couple days before that and I noticed that he was on his phone a lot. I brought it up and he showed me the screen to the Pokemon game. I didn't let it bother me and we went on with the hike. The other night though when we hung out with his friends. There was a girl in the group that he kept talking to and play arguing/offending each other.

At some point it got annoying so I moved to the other side of the table and started mingling with his other friends. Which he then noticed and moved to where I was; another thing that happened is that when he got back from the bathroom. He showed his friend his phone, supposedly of a joke he had written on the way back. I didn't say anything I kind of found it to be weird. Then again he was on his phone and I asked him what was he doing on his phone. And again showed me the Pokemon game that he had it open to.

It's really hard to trust him not because he has giving me a reason to but because it's been so long that we didn't make it official. I need advice is it me am I being neurotic about this whole thing, "hamstering"? I don't want to bring it up to him, because I feel if I do it's going to do that whole self fulfilling prophecy where things happen because you wanted them to. I need your help. This is really hard for me already, please be nice but honest.