Receiving compliments with grace

healthyelegant · 2020-03-10T18:52:40+00:00

One thing I've learned about taking compliments, is to accept them. Don't tell them some excuse as to why you don't believe it. Just thank them for it and continue the conversation.

I used to reject compliments which people hated and then I used to take the compliments and then compliment them in return, but then realized that came off as very in-genuine because I would just look for something to compliment them on after they complimented me. Sometimes if they compliment some type of clothing I wear, I would just thank them nicely and say I found it at Target or at a boutique!

KathrynHogan · 2020-03-10T21:29:32+00:00

Well you sound like such a dear. Just the energy from your post is so lovely, it warms my heart.

Another compliment!!! No wonder you are attracting them - you are improving the world around you!

One thing that I do sometimes with compliments is to imagine that I'm breathing them in. Literally take a breath in, and imagine that your lungs are filling with the compliment. A compliment is a gift, and so is air! Then you can simply smile and say thank you :)

Kara__El · 2020-03-10T18:50:17+00:00

Just say thank you. It's okay to include a shy smile. You really don't have to do any more than this, and in fact, it can be very off-putting to argue when someone tries to pay you a compliment.

hibariruled · 2020-03-11T00:42:06+00:00

Always react good on a compliment (coming from colleague, friend, not from a stranger lol).

Why?

Because this way you teach people that you like when people say or do good things to you. In result they subconsciously would like to continue doing good things for you. (Which is what you want, right?)

If you react negatively on a compliment - other person will be confused.... but then will understand the rules.... Which are that you don't like positivity and good things done for yourself. In result they will not treat you good because they know that you don't like it and in worse scenario will treat you bad just to get at least some reaction.

Synanon · 2020-03-10T18:54:01+00:00

You sound like an amazing person, first and foremost. What you’re experiencing is completely natural. My wife and I were ugly ducklings and have transformed over the years to be very physically fit and accomplished in our respective careers.

First things first, accept yourself and appreciate yourself for the hard work you’ve done. I’d assume (from experience) that you haven’t quite come to terms with how much work you’ve put into yourself and the results that are both overt and nuanced.

Be playful in situations of your choosing, otherwise a simple “Thank you.” with eye contact and a smile will suffice. Break eye contact and be as you were if it’s in an engagement you’d rather not prolong.

If you’re still deciding if it’s an engagement you’d prefer to prolong then you can offer a compliment in return or give a playful, witty response. Have fun with it. It takes practice and you’ll be awkward at first while you find your stride, but what better way to practice than on complete strangers you’ll never see again!

Whisper · 2020-03-11T02:14:58+00:00

One of the reasons that those in our culture (especially women) can find compliments embarrassing is that there is a heavy undercurrent of disapproval for pride or self-promotion, which comes from a profound misinterpretation of our collective philosophy of egalitarianism and the worth of every person.

But humility does NOT mean lack of belief in one's virtues, it means not claiming privilege because of them. There is no point in beautiful women claiming to be plain, or intelligent men claiming to be average. What the virtue of humility actual means is that the beautiful women does not regard her dumpier counterparts as worthless, nor does the intelligent man disregard the knowledge or experience possessed by those less insightful than he.

So, yes, you are probably attractive. No, there is nothing wrong with admitting that. And the proper response to a compliment is "Thank you."

FleetingWish · 2020-03-10T22:28:59+00:00

The thing about complements is that are typically not very original. You will find that you get the same comments again and again. So, if you're nervious about responding here is what I would do:

Step 1: Get a compliment

Step 2: Stammer uncontrollably and get tongue-tied.

Step 3: Later think about what you wish you had done better.

Step 4: Get the exact same compliment from someone new.

Step 5: Do better.

You are posting this here because you are at Step 3. But, realize grace is just a matter of practicing. Use each time as an opportunity to practice.

A simple warm smile and a genuine "thank you" can go a long way. You can even develop canned responses ahead of time to compliments you get a lot. I have a script in my head that I follow whenever I get a compliment, and it makes it easy to sound more confident than you are.

organicsunshine · 2020-03-11T00:56:47+00:00

"Thanks, I appreciate that." Is all you need to say. Don't give them an opening as a line if they are looking for it. Keep the conversation moving or end the interaction.

bitchbaby1 · 2020-03-11T01:10:37+00:00

first of all - wow!! you sound amazing. congrats on all youve accomplished.

second - all you need to do is smile and say thank you. smile shows humbleness and happiness at what they said. saying thank you shows acceptance and grace (rather than rejecting the compliment, etc).

stay_rad23 · 2020-03-11T03:49:17+00:00

I normally say thank you, you're too kind. Should I just be saying thank you? I want to be humble without making people think that I can't take a complement.

WhatTimeIsCowboyTime · 2020-03-11T11:00:57+00:00

When I compliment someone it is for 2 reasons. 1. Because I genuinely like or admire that particular aspect. 2. Because I want to see them smile.

So when someone compliments you, it is enough to say thank you, and smile if it made you happy.

szsunshine · 2020-03-11T12:55:21+00:00

Smiling and saying “thank you” is humble and gracious IMO.

If you argue with someone’s compliment (ie: if someone says you look beautiful but you say “oh! But I’m a mess!”), you are implying they are stupid to think highly of you and that you know better than they do. THAT Is off-putting.

Title	Receiving compliments with grace
Author	TakeYourTime109
Upvotes	68
Comments	20
Date	March 10, 2020 6:43 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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