Starting on the Red pill path.

girlwithabike · 2017-11-21T23:19:48+00:00

Personality wise I tend to be happy go lucky. However lately stress has made my personality change and I have been moody.

I'd recommend yoga for this if you can fit a class or two into your week. It helps with stress and for me it helps me get in a feminine sort of mindset.

mrpthrowa · 2017-11-21T22:21:56+00:00

The Gym Is Not The Way To Weight Loss.

Start With A Diet. Count Calories. That's all.

Gym is heplful when you get to the last step of muscle toning.

If anything the Gym encourages people to overeat.

FOCUS ON DIET.

teaandtalk · 2017-11-21T22:09:34+00:00

Why are you planning to go to the gym? Weight loss or exercise? If it's primarily for weight loss, I'd suggest skipping the gym and instead investing more time in cooking and eating healthily, with sensible portion sizes. You can't outrun your fork.

JennysLens · 2017-11-22T12:58:41+00:00

If you are committed to going to the gym, then go for it! It's a healthy habit that isn't going to hurt. You might not see pounds fall off immediately in the way you would if you changed your diet, but learning to love the gym is a lifelong benefit. I used to HATE going to the gym, then one day decided I was an adult, and I needed to get my exercise in. Since then I've learned to love my 30 minutes of quiet zoning out on the elliptical. Yes, weights would get me toned and a good diet would get me lean, but the elliptical helps my heart, helps get my blood pumping, and gives me some much needed me time.

You also mentioned a cleaning routine. Take a couple of days (a weekend or holiday) and get your house to it's "set point" (everything put away, dusted, vacuumed, etc.). If you have time to get rid of junk, do that as well. Then sit down and decide what needs to happen daily, weekly, monthly, etc, then plan your next 2 weeks of cleaning. For instance, I like my house to be vacuumed twice per week, but I only dust every other week. I wipe down my bathrooms with a Clorox wipe & toilet brush every other day (2 bathrooms, so basically I do it everyday), and they get deep cleaned once per month. I load and unload my dishwasher everyday. I clean my windows once per month. In other words, don't go to Pinterest and find a cleaning schedule, decide what you think needs to be done around your house and make your own schedule. Just because Suzy wipes her baseboards every week doesn't mean you need to. And I constantly repeat the mantra "It's easier to keep up than to catch up!"

LateralThinker13 · 2017-11-22T19:14:26+00:00

I’m about to turn 32 next month and work a high level role/career in a worldwide company. I have always been independent and maintained my finance self well.

Men. Don't. Care.

I work in a city where it’s required that both people must work due to its expensive nature. However I am the bread winner earning about 2 times what my partner earns.

No city requires two incomes. I guarantee that there are people getting by on one income, and that one less than what you earn. There are couples living on 30k per year in LA, Portland, etc. It isn't pretty, but it's true. Don't delude yourself into thinking you have to have two incomes. That's a rationalization that excuses you keeping your job/career against any urges/inclination to not work full time.

In a domestic capacity, I can cook extremely well, bake, clean, I take pride in my home, keeping it clean and well presented and comfortable and guest ready at all times.

So you're a perfect hostess/homemaker, plus a great career woman. Why do you need a man again?

Am I missing anything? Is there anything you think I need to work on or have missed?

Yes. You need to work on your focus. Your whole post is full of "I". I do this, I am that. It's a whole lot of virtue-signaling, accomplishments, and status. Very little of your post is on your partner.

If your goal is to be a better RPW, then let's talk about what you feel you aren't doing for him, and what you feel he isn't doing for you, and rectify that. You never actually address that; you just mostly talk about what you do right.

Cooking/cleaning matters, but not that much. Sex matters, but 3/week in a busy life isn't a dealbreaker. Fat - yeah, that need tackling and hard, but a good diet can fix much of that and without consuming a large portion of time or budget.

I'd focus your energies on where the relationship is lacking. And this is what you haven't really gone into to any degree. It's hard to advise beyond saying "lose the fat".

Title	Starting on the Red pill path.
Author	Weddingchickey
Upvotes	19
Comments	27
Date	November 21, 2017 8:30 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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