This is really RPW 101 but what I think is important is to read the Mike Cernovich piece and the Keoni Galt piece to see the perspective of men who get it.

We have the power to make ourselves happy, but often times we just don't get it. We can't see that it is up to ourselves. What's more than this, we cannot see (or sometimes just don't care) that how we behave drastically affects the men in our lives. We can marry very strong men, but unless he is an absolute Oak, over time our bad attitudes will wear him down. I've seen it written time and again from husbands and wives: The husband started out alpha and masculine, but over time he dropped his guard and she just kept pushing at him. This will eventually wear all but the very hardest of men down and those men simply aren't going to remain present in one way or another.