April 20 - Weekly Improvement & Progress Thread

rand0mdev · 2018-04-20T14:09:18+00:00

Background:

24M, 6’5”, 200lbs
LTR of 7 years ended about 6 weeks ago. Found TRP ~2 weeks after.
Since finding TRP I started realising I mostly was a 195cm tall emotional tampon for a long time. I’m starting to discover my flaws and am constantly working on improving my frame. I already start noticing differences in my interaction with people, I’m at the start of a lifelong journey and I am really enjoying it so far.

Negative:

Started smoking cigarettes again during weekends, I still only do it during the weekend but I know it’s not a good idea.
Skipped 1 of my 5 workouts with a shit excuse and ate some crappy shit this week.
Haven’t read a book or listened to an audiobook in a while.

Positive:

Managed to reach 21 days NOFAP (which was my goal), cleaned the pipes afterwards though.. Starting a new streak since I did feel some positive effects, next time the pipes need cleaning I’ll find a female to fix that.
Started doing Starting Strength (Rippetoe’s) to get a more structured workout.
My cyber security startup is still gaining more hype and potential clients.
Finally made great progress on my thesis again, still have some catching up to do but I’m getting there.
Met a ton of new people last weekend during two different parties, really had a blast. I added a lot of guys from the party to social media and funnily enough the girls I met started adding me by themselves. I’m really enjoying life right now. Two weeks before the actual breakup I was in a really shitty place, but thanks to some good friends and TRP I am feeling better than ever before.

Goals:

Further expanding my social circle and work on my income.
Catch-up with my thesis slack.
Improve my diet and lift consistently.

Thank you guys for this motivational community!

Shaney96 · 2018-04-20T14:31:28+00:00

I solve everyone else’s problems. If there’s ever a problem with our friend group, whoever’s involved comes to me to help solve it. If my friends are going through tough times, they open up to me and the solution to their problems are clear. My 6’5 stereotypical chad best friend called me crying when the cops came to his room, and then begged me to come handle it, which i did. Girls open up to me to, which honestly kills my sex drive but I can’t help but hear them out. Something about a girl crying instinctively tugs at my heart strings.

Everyone thinks I’m some golden child with my shit completely put together, but really I’m just as broken as everyone else. My perceptiveness is owed mostly to my experience with despair, and adversity. My ability to mediate stressful situations and lead my friends through hard times is probably due to my shitty ass childhood in a broken home.

I’ve gone through a lot and literally remade myself from the ground up. I went from a nobody who seriously questioned whether i was a person deserving of love and respect to the person I always dreamed of being: the alpha male in a group of alpha males. Yet, I still don’t feel fulfilled, or happy. People respect and admire me in all the ways I always dreamed of, yet my insecurities remain. I still haven’t gotten with as many girls as I want, despite my female friends telling me all the time that I’m the best guy they’ve ever met. I can stay calm talking to a drunk when I’m twisted as fuck, yet i can’t strike up a conversation with a girl on the bus. People open up to me in extremely personal ways, and i use it to my advantage to further solidify my spot as leader of my group. I can be as cunning or as manipulative as anyone you’ve ever met, yet I still feel empty sometimes.

lbond12 · 2018-04-23T16:26:15+00:00

finished another book this week, it was short but it was insightful (The Prince By Machiavelli). Was a great book, but was a heavy read. Although it talks about how a Prince should live, I can see how the information can easily translate to being an individual and a leader even today (book was originally from the 15th century). All about making the tough choices at the right times and making sure that you do not give power to anyone. All qualities I have to work on and now I have an excellent idea how to change my attitude.
Went to rugby practice, and worked out 4x this week met my exercise goals, big plus, gotta keep at it.
woke up early every day
finished masters application. I'm going to study in Italy this fall. Score.
made appropriate plans for the coming weeks with my bank and appropriately budgeted for the next few months. I've got to keep fighting the hard fight. Keep my head down, work hard, try to distract myself as little as possible and earn my keep. no going out, no social media, no distractions, not until summer hits and I'm ahead on my payments, I've got cash in my pockets, and the sun is out in +20 degree weather.

negative points

too much television, plain and simple
too much time spent being unproductive, this kinda means I've watched too much television but I was recently very very productive and now I seem to have lost the knack. I've just got to get back on it and do all of the little things to get ahead and have nothing to worry about.
spent too much money and am past my weekly budget. I get paid this week but that's no excuse, I just bought a computer and have no reasons to spend more money until I have paid it off completely and even then thats no excuse. I've been doing well at selling my stuff for some decent coin but its only really been to keep me afloat. I need to make money and stay still for a bit.

I'm taking notes from this thread, especially in this past week. I definitely thinks it answers questions as to why thing haven't gone my way for a good while and it has definitely given me answers as to how I should change my demeanour. I can now see what kind of person I have to become and what steps I have to take in order to become that person. Here's why... I've decided to take a step back from dating because I'm not convinced that I've been doing it well at all, ever. My last (tinder) date was bland as hell, and not because we didn't have a good time it was just constant chit-chat and bullshit with the displaced discomfort that in all honestly, I did on purpose to sway the conversation. she insisted that it remain dull and I became bored and then put on my "ok lets do it your way and make it seem that I'm enjoying wasting my time in a bar with you" - face. This is one of the things I feel I need to change. If I can just look the person dead in the face during a date, and get up and leave if I feel I really need to, I want to not have to reflect on that decision, I want to get up and go. sadly I guess im so starved for attention, I sit and stay and talk useless nonsense till we both say "tonight was fun" and never speak again. I have not had much luck in the past year or so and the above scenario has occurred far too many times in my opinion. I'm bored and too polite to people.

YngWn · 2018-04-21T00:25:10+00:00

This week tested me not gonna lie

This whole week was me cutting off more bad stuff in my self and diet. Boy.

Cut coffee, haven't had a single cup in 4-5 days. Only caffeine left is in my preworkout and as far as i read online its like a 66 mg in a scoop dose, which is nothing compared to what i drank normally.
Started picking on BS behavior I had in me. After reading trp, as someone else mentioned i went full rambo, so im controlling myself more. (any additional tips are welcome) Its hard, but I never expected it otherwise. Nothing good comes from easy things anyway. Decent? Maybe.
Emotionally it was really rough. Anxiety from lack of coffee, brain farts all day long, negativity, questions (is it really worth it? Is this me? It was fine as it was!.). It was super hard i swear. At one point I went in to the kitchen, stared at the coffee machine, picked up the handle, ready to get some. I told myself, come on bro you're fucking better than this. I knew it was going to be hard, didn't want to let it all waste away for nothing. Once again, me 2 me: You knew it was going to be hard, if you stop now you're NOT going to feel better. Not gonna lie, I was going to break on everything, sweets, coffee, healthy shit, it was just too much of an addiction and the brain farts didn't help. I did jack off, but stopped there. I also did 60 straight push ups, less than a minute. Then 60 again and 40. Tried this neck curl thing someone posted about and then showed it to my brother later during the gym. Quite the experience, but end of the night as i'm typing right now 6 hours after the gym, my body is still burning and full of energy (its 3 AM).
Girls aren't going that well, but i'm interacting a lot more loosely. Obviously a part of that to blame would be my rambo jambo, which I will fix. I've started matching almost every HB8+ on my tinder on my current profile, while on the old one, even though i swiped right almost on all if not all i couldnt get better than a 6. I have no idea how to close them, because lets be honest, even though i look good, feel good and have a decent game (decent as in my PTSD kicks in too often to be marked as good or great, even though deep in side I have that), I get bored. Very easily. Almost every chick says the same shit, acts the same way and it just gets boring. Again, this is most likely because of me going rambo, but i start with some funny openers, they like it and then it just isn't interesting anymore, it cuts. What's a good thing to talk after? If anyone has suggestions for what to talk after please do reply and mark it as suggestionAFT. I'd highly appreciate it and you're also helping a brother out, maybe a potential trp friend if fate gets our asses somewhere together in the future.
Family. Much better man. Much better. My mother hated me, my brother created drama, because he's super emotionally driven and it was just flooding my brain. I always have this mindset "bad things happen all the time, its nothing new, you have to be stronger than this and be ready to leave it all behind, find a new path and continue with your head up". Regardless of the drama, I tried my best to stay positive. It really got to me at one point, I was on a tilt from this drama he created and then my mother started complaining and blaming for some unrealistic problems. I lost my cool. When she came back i didnt back off and apologize, like i'd normally do, i stood my ground and spoke with a calm, collected voice. Later on she learned about the drama and everything was great. I confronted my brother about it and he said i can blame it all on him, but it was already on me.

"I said what I said and you used it in a bad light. Its my own responsibility. What i'm saying, i'm saying to you." (he started apologizing and said he just felt angry at the time note he's 4+ years older '24'). I told him that its not cool regardless and if it happens again i'll just stop talking to him for whatever. I was alright with my mom hating on me as well, as she always blamed me and disrespected me in front of her friends/my friends as she felt powerless otherwise. I told her you can hate me, thats not an issue, thats not my problem, i don't care. She got mad, i maintained my frame and just went off to gym. She hated herself. I didn't like it, but its my own family man, I won't let them drag me in a negative path, so i'll get them up by being a man of steel and an example. Both my mom and brother have a much better connection with me now and treat me with respect i've never gotten my entire life by them. Stopped an argument today between family members in a matter of seconds. They were yelling and so on and it all just calmed in 3 seconds or less. Its interesting how easy it is when you don't feel insecure or not valued. Our family is dysfunctional. Father died early, at one point my brother was the father figure, then I and I went through many emotional breakdowns, at many points wanted to just end it. It was all gray. Not being able to find a relationship wasn't pretty as well. My mother always said shit stuff, even when I was a kid, like nobody will ever love you, you don't deserve this, that. I'm just genuinely happy with the progress in the family and me being able to stand on my feet once again after letting myself loose, because of bad stuff that happen anyway. Its not perfect, but it is 300 times better than it was for the last 3 years.

Haven't really met that many new people, but i've gotten a few connections back up from my oldies. At the start itself i noticed how one of them who's an aggressive beta started shit testing left and right to see where i stand. I made him my bitch (in a friend way obviously), same as a couple of more dudes. I still get some PTSD (causing severe anxiety and strong emotions) from before, but I try to tell myself as much as I can, DUDE NOBODY CARES ABOUT THIS AS MUCH AS YOU THINK. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.

tldr: Started to see the value in myself, my time, my words, my mentality and actions.

Damn I thought i wouldn't write this much. Its a pretty open post this week, but it feels alright sharing it with you guys. I'm open to constructive criticism. Stay on target boys, don't let negativity take you down.

Shaney96 · 2018-04-20T13:18:31+00:00

Neutral:

Looked into the Law of Attraction. Interpreted it as: Positive thought inspires positive action, which inspires positive results. I don't think there's any hoodoo-voodoo bullshit, just the realization that positive thought usually provokes action toward your goals. I've always had trouble thinking I'm 'lying to myself', instead of just trying to see the good in things. For example, I'm not living in a place I like and don't have a fun job, and have tried just seeing the good in every day. I think it's my ego that has shut out this positive thought because when I try thinking positive I'm countered with "why are you lying to yourself? You're job isn't for you and the place is a shit-hole, so stop bullshitting yourself." This attitude is ridiculous and naive, and I think I've been in a negative thought cycle for a while, so I must find ways to stop this.
Met with a fellow TRP user last weekend. It was interesting to meet someone who's had similar past experiences (or lack thereof) and now has similar views. There's a goal-oriented forum I met him through, which I discovered through this sub-reddit so please messsage me if you'd like the forum name.
I was always pretty good at mixing with people and getting on with most people. I still find I can have good conversations with a great range of people. I always thought this was needy as I felt I was conforming to other's behaviours and the way they speak. Perhaps it is a little, however I now see that this is actually something of a skill. Of course, if someone has a view I disagree with or is a person I don't want to associate myself with, I won't converse. Law 48: Assume formlessness.
Observed how people I associate with have an effect(s) on me and my behaviour. It's difficult to keep frame and emanate confidence and certainty when you're rarely around strong people. I see this as a way to test my frame and it's been useful to an extent as it brings my flaws to light.
I've been impatient with my short- and mid-term goals. I expect results too soon. The sad result is that I end up carrying out actions which then pull me further from my goals and end up frustrated, berating myself, and feeling a lack of direction.
After taking bad actions, I never rarely myself for good action, and always feel I need to be doing something. I also procrastinate and feel anxious when doing so. When procrastinating I need to try breaking the cycle by doing something small that is productive, or just going out for a short walk to clear my head (did this earlier this week and it helped greatly, it's just difficult getting out of that negative thought cycle once you're in it).
Thought about the 'reality gap' that exists in my (and probably many other users on here) life. This gap is what exists between your knowledge of the real world and where you want to be, and the action taken. This gap creates anxiety and, when this anxiety becomes great enough, I take action. Once the action is taken, you begin a positive feedback loop and the next action becomes slightly easier. Once you take so many actions, the action becomes something of a habit and you feel anxious not taking the action. This is growth.
Although I don't have a clear mission, I can still behave positively and with confidence around others and during my interactions. I believe this is a sign of overall self-improvement. I don't want to appear to be living in the future when I say this but: I do look forward to 'finding' my mission and having a clear goal I can work toward, where the work is difficult but I actually enjoy it.
I believe I over-compensate with my wit. Very often am I sarcastic (A & A), and I think this repels people somewhat as I come across as an asshole. I think I can come across as condescending and this pushes people away from wanting friendship with me, even though I can have this IDGAF attitude and have banter and brush off any insult. I fail to form emotional connections and feel this may be due to a fear of being open and being rejected.

Positive:

Gym 4x - hit a few PRs.
Went on a date. Didn't find the bird very attractive but it was good to get some practise in and reflect afterward. I want to get plenty of practise/calibration in before Uni so I don't get there as a sexual-autist.
Spent a good amount of time playing guitar. I have a couple of set goals for this and it's rewarding to observe progress.

Negative:

Went over my calories every day. Each night I spend in my room very bored, and then get anxious for procrastinating. This is when I turn to food. I cannot let any compulsion toward food take over me and must instead find ways to break this procrastination and not look toward food for comfort.
Masturbated multiple times, twice to porn. Again, must replace these urges with something productive, or at the very least, distracting.
Feels like I'm taking a couple of steps back, and only the odd one forward. However, as long as there's constant reflection and self-awareness, these steps back serve only as lessons, and are not regressions. All territorial work (including reflection on mistakes and not making those mistakes again - meaning I must combat the masturbation and food problem now I've reflected on it) is never lost.

ManSoldWorld · 2018-04-20T18:03:12+00:00

Neutral:

Looked into Carl Jung's Shadow concept. Not too important, yet not minor, as it is important to know yourself fully, and the negative attributes that are a part of you.
Received a 98 on my Business Calculus exam and a 100 on a Microsoft Excel/Access Quiz. One could argue these fall under positives, but I find myself neutral because I expected to do well, without any doubts.
Had a call with my psychologist yesterday; we mainly talked about the shadow concept, and I brought up my hypotheses for some of my more unconscious traits and how they came about.

Positives:

Progressing pretty well in my workout plan (5x5 Stronglifts). I'm definitely seeing the results when I look at myself in the mirror.
- In relation to this, I suppose I should provide my current weight levels for that plan (as of this morning's workout). It's so much better than where I was a month ago:
  - Bench Press: 130 lbs
  - Deadlift: 175 lbs
  - Overhead Press: 75 lbs
  - Barbell Row: 135 lbs
  - Squat: 245 lbs
After doing some calculations, I established that I would need to get below a 70% on three of my four final exams to get below an A in those courses (which means I've built a sizable lead in them). I am also on pace to get a 4.0 for this semester.
I was able to schedule for next semester, and I have no 8 AMs to worry about; just two evening classes on Tuesdays.
Checking my weight this morning, I've lost 13 pounds (161 lbs to 148 lbs, over the span of a month).
I'm having more confidence in interacting with strangers, thanks to my efforts to try and tackle my social anxiety behind closed doors. In Math recently, I just started talking to some of the people next to me, and it was surprisingly really easy (keep in mind that I'm still working on getting rid of my social anxiety)
I only masturbated once this week (this morning, to be precise). Better than back in high school and up to the middle part of this semester where I was doing it before going to bed every night.

Negatives:

I'm going through a bit of a conflict with two of my three roommates over some honesty issues; holding frame has been really difficult there.
Remember how I said I scheduled for next semester? Well, there was initially an issue on the part of the advising office that wouldn't allow me to schedule for a particular section for a class. I ended up getting the issue fixed, but by then, I had to settle for an evening class.
I find that I still have anger over what I call 'the wasted years'. These years are the years of my life where I was living with undiagnosed ADD, and where I felt like no one ever seemed to take me or my ideas seriously. I've been really brooding over it this week for some reason.
I have a blister on my right hand that really conflicts with my ability to deadlift and barbell row. It was manageable on Monday and Wednesday, but when doing deadlifts today, I ended up only doing 1x5 instead of my usual 5x5 (I know it's supposed to be 1x5, but I have solid form and the weight isn't much of an issue, so I take it a little further).
Sleep has been an issue lately; I go to bed fairly early now (10-11 PM), but lately, I've been only able to sleep for 6-6.5 hours instead of the 8 I want for muscle growth. I may need to start taking melatonin again.

phoenixlife512 · 2018-04-21T13:19:54+00:00

I'm pushing 30 and I'm learning that its better and far less emotionally draining not to debate strangers who can't think critically, instead you just silently prove them wrong with your actions.

[deleted] · 2018-04-21T17:34:48+00:00

Continue to be a non-smoker.

Continue to be a nofapper, no porn, no nothing.

Continue to go to the gym, have now run 50kms over 15 days, lost 3 kgs and lifting 12.5kgs in bicep front lifts.

Focusing on my work and getting it done.

Getting enough sleep.

Approaching women more easily, getting matches on Tinder. Just generally in social control.

Tbh tired and entitled though. Need to start meditating to refresh and refocus.

Wrote what I think are good bits, really think they're good and want to perform them. Won't be able to do this week (or next) because of work, but looking forward to performing them soon.

Things are a bit rocky currently with LDR, haven't been getting the time to substantially reconnect. Looking to keep applying RP principles to keep the relationship happy, which I've done till now.

Enjoying the way I look more and more.

[deleted] · 2018-04-20T23:20:25+00:00

Been lurking for couple of months. ( since Janurary this year), and finally decided to " plug out of the system" ( if that is the right term). Just halfway though the " Misandry bubble" atm. Quite an interesting read, wish i have picked it up long time ago.

[deleted] · 2018-04-22T17:18:21+00:00

Been working out more so this past week than ever. An hour workout followed by an hour hike/run yesterday felt amazing and I was proud of myself.

I can't handle the bitchiness of my girlfriend of 5 years anymore. I moved to the couch on my own accord. I would have left a long time ago if not for her son.

Trying to figure out what to do now. I love the kid like my own son, and have raised him for over half his life. I am the closest thing to a real father he has known.

Working on self-improvement and hoping that the answer will come soon. Lifting and reading/studying so I can get into a credential program has been my way to not be so caught up in my head over the situation.

[deleted] · 2018-04-22T20:03:47+00:00

Former NoFapper her. This is a minor one but last night after three weeks without porn I succumbed to it and felt like shit about myself, thinking "Oh man, I'm gonna lose all my confidence and act weird again, et cetera."

Then I though, "maybe if I don't believe it will happen, it won't happen." So I went outside, grabbed coffee, grabbed breakfast, walked with good posture, and put on a positive tone/eye contact with the people around me, and lo-and-behold! I feel fine.

In fact, in general, I've noticed that just keeping good posture and eye contact has been working wonders for me.

That's all I have to say right now.

Chodafett____ · 2018-04-22T20:25:26+00:00

Background:

Lurker for a while, first weekly progress thread.
17M 144lbs
Currently trying to apply what I learned so far into real life.

Negitives

I was under my calories this week, it's already hard for me to gain weight, I have to make sure i stay consistent
Had a HB8 that was really into me, she was upfront about wanting to smash, and never really hid that she thought I was cute. She would CONSTANTLY text me for the first few days and I purposefully would try to get out of texting because it bores me and I like to only use it for logistics. So originally we had plans to go out with her on Friday (shes a friend of my best friend's GF) she insisted on a double date and suddenly the plans got cancelled, ever since then she lost interest it seems and after trying to make plans for a later time, she kept denying them, so i decided to stop texting her cause i'm not wasting time.
I need to eat better, it doesn't help that I still live with my parents, and my mother seems to not know what is healthy and what is processed. Maybe i'll just buy my own food from now on.

Positives

Noticed i started to gap my workout buddy at the gym with the amount of weight while lifting
Started NoFap and currently has been a week, fapping makes me feel like absolute shit.
Started to socialize more, I want to grow out my social circle.
Started talking to the Army recruiter at my HS because personally college right now doesn't appeal to me due to all the liberal policies and all that BS, still leaning on going to become a mechanical engineer after the military
Started to talk to more people and hang out with my Alpha friend.

Goals

Lift more and gain more muscle mass, also improve my diet this way I can eat cleaner.
Talk to more people (especially attractive girls)
Apply RedPill into my life more and reflect to see my mistakes.
Spin more plates before the summer.

This is my first Improvement and Progress post, if anyone can suggest stuff I can do or work on, i'm open to it. Thank you for being motivational guys.

[deleted] · 2018-04-26T14:27:48+00:00

I learned I need to keep myself more accountable. Started tracking what ACTIONS I take during the day and what their objective RESULTS are for: material/monetary, social/status, emotions and virtue (being a "good" person). It's eye opening. Lot's of small actions you can reason away are actually a lot more damaging then I thought. Also became more positive due to noticing the virtue in other actions I take.

[deleted] · 2018-04-26T16:42:02+00:00

Male 25 5'10 183 lbs.

Improved my quality of work at my job. Showing up on time no matter what, doing a better job overall.

I went on two dates this week with two girls that were both well below my standards, and thought themselves higher than that. Wasted my time really. Need to continue to lose weight (down 7 lbs past month) put on muscle, find a job that makes me happier (at my one year mark with job I got out of college, ready for a change).

Honestly these two dates took a lot of steam out of my engine. I know ill bounce back but I gotta make a promise to myself to expect more from the girls I meet. Too often I fall into their crazy and end up on their level of stupidity, often boosting their confidence while destroying my own. Glad I have a place to rationally vent about this.

ShesLikeOMG · 2018-04-20T15:20:49+00:00

Overall week 7/10

this is the lowest rated week a little while but wasn't really a bad week just was not a really good week either, catch what I'm saying? still happy but didn't feel extremely "successful" this week.

School 7.5/10

Have practiced but felt (2) exams only went mediocre (for my standard).
Been putting in work this week though.

Social 6/10

Have been more active on Snapchat and, well, chatting.
Nothing more to comment on. been quite meh socially.

Fitness 7.5/10

Feeling really fucking tired. havent felt I could recover properly. dropped two workouts because of that. thank god for deload next week.
Dropped BW about 1kg more. lowest weigh-in today at 82.3kg at 12am.

MostSolidFrame · 2018-04-23T15:25:19+00:00

-completed third week of zero alcohol, now into week 4. Feeling great. Avoiding all smoking as well

-socializing without alcohol as a crutch has been improving. Got a hot lawyer's number on Sat night. No interest in LTR with a lawyer but for the short term it's a very good prospect. She was highly interested in me and since we're hitting the same party next weekend anyway, she invited me to go with her friends

-diet remains clean AF, avoiding processed/junk/sugary drinks/etc

-bought a couple more books yesterday and continuing to read like a madman. feeling smarter and improving my mind while i have the extra time to spare

-preparing to move for a new job in around a month. it's going to be hard work but excellent for my career

-been in the gym around 3x/week only. realizing it is very difficult for me to gain the weight i desire. getting stronger but still stuck with a very small frame. need to stay hungry for progress

jadchronicles · 2018-04-23T16:18:27+00:00

for the past 3 months ive been working out 5/6 days a week. lifting 4 days a week kickboxing 2 days a week. I went from being skinny and weak to muscular and toned. Seeing this change is causing an exponentially increasing positive feedback loop and now i feel like i am addicted to working out.

I fixed my eating habbits, i no longer order food everyday, i filled my fridged and cook my own healthy meals.

I now read at least 2/3 books a month, i have put my focus back on my career (independent software consultant) i work on my own time and that gives me the benefit of managing my day how i see fit. (fuck 9to5s)

all in all, ever since i started taking the advice thrown around here seriously my life has changed.

I didnt have a big problem finding fuck buddies before but now, i don't even need to try --eventhough im currently in monk mode and turning down all advances.

thank you TRP :)

livefast06 · 2018-04-24T01:10:00+00:00

I discovered TRP about a month ago and have been reading ever since. I am already pretty red pill as it is (without actually knowing about this thread until now) but just like all men; I have a few weak areas that need to be hammered to continue becoming the strongest version of myself. Each week, I have been applying small changes to my game and daily routine to help me improve: - taking cold showers in morning - getting more sleep with periodic days of low rest to avoid comfort and for mental toughness (ie. 4 hours sleep after a brutal squat and deadlift workout, trying to carry out normal day the next day) - Wearing less layers in colder weather, wearing more layers in warmer weather (also working out outside) - Approaching at least one woman every where I go (grocery store, girl behind counter at gym, school cafeteria, book store/library, etc.) - Going for daily walks - Staying consistent with training (5 days/ week, 1 hour per day, full-body training with compound lifts and assistance exercises)

These are the changes I have made so far and am holding on to day by day. So far I am way more confident and have less social anxiety, and am getting jacked/ higher SMV. Will keep going and will add PU at other locations soon.

DietDonut · 2018-04-24T03:13:21+00:00

I have a simple question: How do I find other guys in my area that share TRP life philosophy? I want to hang around other guys that want to improve their social skills with women.

Most of my guy friends I have talked to about TRP or Pickup have given me the old "don't be such a try hard" , "just be yourself" or have just been apathetic.

You are the sum of the five people you hang out with the most. Where do I find those great people? I'm in the Chicago Land area and am 19 years old. Is this sub a good place to start? Are there other online resources? What could I do at my community college? Thanks you guys.

[deleted] · 2018-04-24T04:17:21+00:00

This week, I've been in no contact from an ex girlfriend who dumped me then wanted to be "just friends". Feels great honestly to walk away from that

I feel pretty good, I started working out more then I ever used to

Started to go on long walks, and jogging here and there

Had a summer job upgrade, I start today!

Working on maintaining frame (Needs some work, if I'm honest)

Reading most of the sidebars here that I have not already

iiKarambit · 2018-04-24T23:42:05+00:00

Girl at a track me asked me for my snapchat. Was funny confident and even when I failed a jump or something stupid I just laughed at myself and had a good time

Cardinal85 · 2018-04-25T15:57:47+00:00

Started to be more dominant in my eye contact. I make eye contact with girls in my class when they walk by but now I'm not breaking it, they do. Just a little bit of more confidence now.

crespo_modesto · 2018-04-25T17:43:42+00:00

Background

25M 6' 205 lbs
studied physics/engineering/comp sci
failed out
in debt, destroyed credit
part time freelance web developer
works in restaurant primarily part time
fears going homeless
lacks confidence/pessimistic mindset/always worrying the minute I wake up
trouble talking to women - pedastal/oneitis

Positives

been consistently hitting the gym, 3 days a week 3-4 hours each time full body mostly upper body
took this problem head on of getting my apartment's AC fixed by maintenance so I don't have to live in 80 degrees
dealing with lawsuit

Negative

watched a lot of TV
binge ate a majority of my week's food
barely got any freelance work done
did not build a project for myself

Goals

I want to either get hired as a developer full time/part time in house or remotely
build online businesses
improve credit/get out of debt eventually
save/improve cash flow
socialize more/maybe get a car

life-of-TT · 2018-04-25T23:53:13+00:00

I know it’s not much, but just increased my bench to 130. My goal is 260, in which case I will start asking out hot girls and will hopefully get a hot girlfriend.

kylerosa21 · 2018-04-26T03:59:00+00:00

This is the first week that I’ve ever made a significant amount of progress with TRP. I’m really ingesting more theory and making it a part of my life, but i aim to continue fine tuning things as i go and ensuring that my interpretation of theory is solid.

One notable thing that just happened: the concept of managing bitches has just clicked for me. I have just come to understand how to handle plates as i was spending time thinking to myself how i should be handling things. Ive struggles with bitch management and i had recently begun to understand it, but not in its entirety. Now, i understand what i truly should be doing, and will be making amends in accordance.

Still forever grateful for TRP.

dcmcmd · 2018-04-22T09:49:43+00:00

Ended 2-yr LTR last week, a good relationship but ended for solid reasons. Thanks to this sub I am much better-equipped for life outside a LTR, than I would have been a few years ago. Been a good week as a newly single guy.

Good:

Intently focused on work and got shit done all week;

Jump-started my physical training: I'm in very good shape but have been lacking in goals and motivation recently: said yes to a few things this week that will get me back on my toes again physically;

Hit a bar with a good friend, had a great time, did a cold approach and got a number out of it, using some good advice from TRP. I've done ok with women historically but never on 'my terms', generally just through chance, and I was a natural BP for my first thirty years, so for me this is a big step forward: see girl, like girl, get number. Make it happen. Literally would not have happened without TRP.

Bad:

I look after myself physically, and increased socialising post LTR has so far meant more alcohol (UK, we just love to drink.) So I'll keep an eye on that, as booze and body fat are the best of friends.

A collective thanks to you all for the assorted wisdom and guidance on here that has already made a material difference to me - absorbing the quality posts on TRP feels a bit like being given a cheat code for life. Love it.

LightFarron · 2018-04-23T13:52:49+00:00

What if I told you that in reality Chaddad doesn’t exist? What if I told you that Chaddad is actually much younger that a lot of the alphas he’s encountered. What if told you that this unusual true lone wolf. Has read and applied all of the knowledge all the alphas gave and played them in their own game. Chaddad doesn’t have time for alphas he plays by his own rules, maybe he was out fucking chad’s mom, sisters,daughters or any other plate he wants, maybe he has mastered and perfected everything he’s learned and now he’s just looking for revenge.

See the light for what it is, is it real? Or was it placed in order to test something?

A wolf in a sheep disguise.

LightFarron · 2018-04-23T13:59:39+00:00

What if I told you that in reality Chaddad doesn’t exist? What if I told you that Chaddad is actually much younger that a lot of the alphas he’s encountered. What if told you that this unusual true lone wolf. Has read and applied all of the knowledge all the alphas gave and played them in their own game. Chaddad doesn’t have time for alphas he plays by his own rules, maybe he was out fucking chad’s mom, sisters,daughters or any other plate he wants, maybe he has mastered and perfected everything he’s learned and now he’s just looking for revenge.

See the light for what it is, is it real? Or was it placed in order to test something?

A wolf in a sheep disguise.

Title	April 20 - Weekly Improvement & Progress Thread
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	44
Comments	54
Date	April 20, 2018 1:11 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/8dnfzt/april_20_weekly_improvement_progress_thread/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/TheRedPill/april-20-weekly-improvement-progress-thread.49809 https://theredarchive.com/post/49809

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