Chasing Stacy

“One of the hardest things to do in life is to let go of people who aren’t ready to love you.”

The above is often mis-attributed to Sir Anthony Hopkins, a 2x Oscar Winner for Best Actor, but not known as an essayist, but was actually penned by Brianna Wiest. She wrote it as part of a sob-sister piece.

I use it as a break-up line.

It is sort of the grown-up version of my university break-up line, “It’s not fair to me, it’s no fair to you and it’s not fair to the person who could really love you.” But there is some utility to it for you, younglings. As you make your way through the world,

So as you develop in your red-pill journey, and start improving and the quality of totty around you rises, you have to be careful about Chasing Stacy.

“But wait, Uncle Vaz,” you say, “Isn’t the point of all this self-improvement to GET Stacy?”

No, and if you thought so, go punch yourself in the dick 10 times. The point of self-improvement is so that you can live the life you want and not be some bloated, depressed, unhappy loser. Often, a beneficial side-effect is, the quality of vagine you will be plunging rises. The temptation is to go after EVERY Stacy, and that’s not feasible. Your time and resources are finite. Do not waste time on girls who are never going to fuck you, even if they SEEM like they might.

The “Fuck, YEAH!” Girl.

What you really want is the “Fuck YEAH!” girl. The girl who is down for what you want, so if you say, “Hey, let’s stay in tonight,” her response will be “Fuck, YEAH we are staying in. Now sit back in that chair and unbuckle your belt so I can do something nice for you, Daddy.”

That can be a Stacy, ofc, but won’t necessarily be. But the “Fuck YEAH!” girl will be fucking enthusiastic and that’s better than a Stacy who isn’t there.

What do I mean? So in my rotation there are two Certified Stacies who are also “Fuck YEAH!”* girls. Whatever idea I have is the Best Idea They Have Ever Heard. I hear from them probably 5 days out of the week, and always them reaching out to me. Another “Fuck YEAH” girl is on a program of sending me nudes every day, but she’s not quiet a Stacy. Cute as a button, but not my type, but def fun to rail out.

They all want my attention daily, check in regularly and never EVER leave me on read. That’s the type you WANT.

Look Out For Number One

As I said, your time and resources are limited. Do not waste them on attention whores and validation addicts. On the Discord the other day, one of the lads was asking for advice on how to move certain girls from text to IRL. There are some girls who are just going to Waste Your Time. You have to figure out when to continue to fish and when to cut bait, and if progress is not being made, you need to know when to move on.

He continued that that he understood, but the “problem” is that the girls who run a bit hot and cold on him are hotter girls.

That’s the difficulty. Hot girls on apps are going to have MEGA options and if they’re not into you, but want to keep you around as “back-up” or for (online only) validation, then that doesn’t do you any good and in fact wastes your time, time you could be spending on your grind, or having fun or fucking other girls.

There’s a girl I just cut loose who I have known for a bit, communicates with me regularly-ish, and such, but has a career that involves a lot of travel, so, as enthusiastic as she is (or seems) it’s difficult as fuck to get her to commit to plans.

Ofc, she’s Hot As Fuck (her career? Bikini and Fitness Model), and yeah, sometimes she’s going to be off in the Maldives or Mauritius on a shoot while I’m in NYC or SoCal. But she’s always upfront with me.

Until she wasn’t.

Two things happened recently that made me cut her loose. First, she deceived me about her whereabouts one week – she was on a ski vacation on France – and then got non-committal about the week between Christmas and New Year because she “might visit her family” that week, which ofc she didn’t, but we didn’t hook up that week either. She didn’t actually overtly lie about France, but she made sure not to tell me.

So that led me to calling her and saying, “Holly? It’s Vaz. So one of the hardest things to do in life is….”

I’m 100% sure she’s not heartbroken, nor am I. I could have been number 2 on her list or number 22. It doesn’t matter. What matters is, I wasn’t Number One. So I could keep wasting time on her, or I could cut her loose, and I chose to lighten my load. Good news for the guys below me is that they all moved up a notch. Bad news? They aren’t Number 1 either.

Deemphasize people who do not respect your time, or who just aren’t that into you.

So how to get a girl off of an app and into your bed?

Look, three things can happen and two of them are bad.

A. You get ghosted.

B. You continue to trade messages, but nothing happens.

C. You meet her IRL.

To get her to C, I would recommend Wr1tten’s patented line: “Nobody fell in love over text.” I would add that the “But I want to get to KNOW you first!” move she might make is bullshit. It’s 1000x easier and better to get to know someone by meeting them rather than exchanging novels over text. If she won’t meet you, she wants to keep you interested but will ALWAYS be trying to find someone to upgrade to. You don’t need that kind of drama in your life. Exchange a few messages and then move her into real life. If she isn’t down, then move her to the trash bin.

Takeaways:

• YOUR time is valuable. Do not waste it on girls who only want attention. They need to be cut from the team.

• If you aren’t Numero Uno, then it doesn’t matter what you are.

• If she’s not ready to meet you IRL after a few messages, it’s time to move on.

• Isolate, escalate, penetrate. Cant’ do that over text.

Further Reading:

Think HORIZONTALLY, Not VERTICALLY

-Don't Become the Mayor of her FriendZone.

The Anna Karenina Principle and the Problem of Bad Relationships

-Sometimes, Even Good Fits Are Bad Fits.

Why ‘Assholes’ Get Laid, And You Don’t.

-Being a 'Nice Guy' or a 'White Knight' Are Simply Alternative Pussy-Getting Strategies That Don't Work.

Are You Getting The Best of Her?

-Someone is, and better if that someone is YOU.

Become the Prize

-Master your life. Become the Prize.