Women are a pleasant addition to your life, they should never be the primary focus.

We have seen many posts here that suggest you should have 5 plates and such. With your job and lifting and (male) friends, 5 plates, where is the time for your mission?

A man without a mission is not bettering himself and the world and is a mediocre creature even if he's charming.

A mission is something that consumes your attention, something that drives you ceaselessly and brings out the best in you. Think of a young Steve Jobs building Apple. Such a man is a beautiful sight and is charismatic and irresistible.

Women are dream-killers and take away valuable time that would have been better spent on your mission. Young men in your 20's and 30's should focus primarily on your mission, because you are on an upward trajectory of your SMV curve and you can make it rise really steeply. Do not spend time or effort into chasing women. If they chase you, you can choose to have them, but drop them if they interfere with your mission. Time is the most crucial thing for a man on a mission and is irreplaceable.

Some of you will succeed in being truly great and you would automatically attract the best women. Many of you will be moderately successful and would still be successful sexually.

You can make your mission to spin plates or sleep with as many women as you can and you may become Neil Strauss/Tyler/etc. Ask yourself if you can be better than this. Can you create the next facebook? Can you create new musical genre? End poverty in your hometown? No? How about something smaller. A new approach to coffee places?

Think about how much time any worthwhile mission would consume. Make your choices accordingly.