Don't Obsess Over Sex

RedPope · 2015-03-16T10:55:38+00:00

It's important to find something in life that you love more than love, and more than sex, because then you always have a safety net when you fail, and you can live off of that rather than becoming a victim to the high price tag that comes with many modern women.

This is the meat of the post, guys. You shouldn't be asking: "How do I get out of this dry spell?" Instead start asking: "What do you successful guys love more than sex?"

All you thirsty fucks will get a girl some day. What then? If you're so boring you can't land a girl, you're also too boring to keep her interested. She will leave, and you'll start counting the days of your next dry spell.

Or worse, you cave and become her BB, hoping she won't leave. The "high price tag" he speaks of. A strained relationship, a miserable marriage, a bitter divorce.

You have to have something else. A mission. A calling. A purpose. Something in your life that matters more than sex. We keep pushing the mantra "hit the gym and find some hobbies" not just for general self-improvement. It's also so you'll get out, get active, get involved, and find something you care about more than pussy.

When Typhanee starts acting like a bitch, your first thought should be: "Fuck that! I like sex, but if I have to put up with this behavior, I'd rather ______."

When a woman senses that, when she knows you'll choose ______ over her, you get far, far less bad behavior. Leaving is the one card you can always play. It is much easier when you have something to go do after you leave.

What is your obsession?

moodymela · 2015-03-16T00:20:35+00:00

The problem with love is it contingent upon an outside party being able to grant you your idealized version of what love should be. This means you are reliquishing some of your power in this in exchange for love. Remember gentleman, power is the ability to direct one's own destiny. Once you have made love a priority in life your destiny will always be entwined with another person's. Whether this is good or bad is the subject of philosophical debate. TRP will always choose power over love though.

Invalidity · 2015-03-16T00:01:21+00:00

It's fine to obsess over sex as long as you know what it takes to get the best possible sex. For some, that may be the motivation they need to get their shit together.

But if you obsess over sex, want sex from the best looking girls without putting in any effort... go hire some escorts.

Trigger_Warnings · 2015-03-16T01:31:03+00:00

So every guy has this point in their lives where they feel like they would bang just about any girl for sex.

Almost every guy, I've never fucked a fatty.

revengeofthecrazy · 2015-03-16T19:43:10+00:00

I want to expand on that:

I stopped being very interested in sex when I realized its price. I'm currently in a phase where I absolutely love my life and the fact that nobody ever questions how I spend my time. I do what the fuck I want and the process of convincing women to have sex with me simply isn't that fun.

It has given me a feeling of precise control over my life and my freedom. FREEDOM I tell you. I'm not the victim of my urges anymore because I've gone through the all the phases of withdrawal for extended periods of time. Nothing unknown there, nothing special to it anymore. Actually, the benefits from not having sex have been well documented in eastern cultures and I can testify to being able to thoroughly enjoy them.

Interestingly, when you get to the point where I am, men who chase women and sex appear like complete fools and victims. If you can objectively look at the investments and sacrifices they make just for the occasional temporary pleasure, you realize how silly it all is. I mean, we can all agree that procreation is completely off the table at this point. When you think about all the issues that women bring, and sex being the only thing they're useful for - it just stops being interesting.

I still talk to women and enjoy flirting with them, but their weird ways quickly annoy me and I'm always happy to end a conversation and be free of their strangeness. If I want to change my mind and get back into the game I'll do that, it's just great to have that choice and feel that good about it.

T_H_E_T_R_U_T_H · 2015-03-16T01:25:19+00:00

I try not to, but it's been way too fucking long so I'm in a catch 22.

MrHoman · 2015-03-16T14:43:46+00:00

I think controlling oneself in general is simply a trait of a true man. You say no to that junk food even though it would taste great right now, you say no to that bottle of jack because it's Tuesday and you have work to do, you say no to an available pussy because you are a man who controls his destiny and just because some wet whole offers itself up to you doesn't mean you have to take it. Even if you have no other options in terms of women, simply the option to say no is empowering.

'It is a great piece of skill to know how to guide your luck even while waiting for it.' - Baltasar Gracian

crimson-hound · 2015-03-16T15:31:35+00:00

When you're constantly focused on getting laid, it throws you off and sets you up for self-sabotage. It's kind of like when you say "don't fuck up don't fuck up don't fuck up" to yourself, then you wind up fucking up whatever you're doing.

Go with the flow. Establish a fun, light-hearted pressure free vibe with a chick. Go out for drinks or dinner and be playful with her, joke around and have fun like you would with your friend(s). Don't be afraid to touch her or put your arm around her when doing this too and avoid any too-serious conversation (ex: politics) or dramatic conversation (talking shit about people, letting out baggage etc.) (Good conversation topics: travel, dream jobs, hobbies, funny embarrassing moments, music/movies) etc..

The only time when banging should come into the picture is when a mutual physical attraction has been established. Start off with some light kino (playful nudge to the arm) and escalate by putting your arm around her and bringing her in.. Shit like that.

If you go into a date thinking "OKAY I'M GONNA FUCK THIS GIRL TONIGHT" sure you might be successful, but if you aren't; you're going to be bummed out and it's going to affect your interpersonal dynamic with her. She'll be able to sense this on you too and most likely think "wow this guy's a bitch". Just be happy go lucky with your interactions and accept whatever happens.

Obviously, be an interesting person, be good looking.. No matter what you tell yourself and what PUA tactics you use.. LOOKS FUCKING MATTER. You are not the perfect young man your grandma tells you you are. Put some effort into your appearance and for fuck's sake have hobbies other than video games, sports, and fantasy football (basic dude shit).

FrameWalker · 2015-03-16T14:45:36+00:00

Come to TRP to get sex, leave when you don't need it anymore.

For some of us that means fucking like it's going out of fashion - spinning multiple plates until we are physically numb. For others it's cultivating the self-development aspects.

Once you're getting enough sex it's not important. The guys who aren't will obsess until they do.

pewpewing · 2015-03-16T06:56:23+00:00

Nothing worse than a desperate guy. Get a fleshlite if you're struggling. I bust that out during dry spells. It's the same as or better than real puss.

airbornerocks · 2015-03-16T04:35:59+00:00

Virgin checking in, strongly disagree.

themouseclicker500 · 2015-03-18T03:11:13+00:00

I agree with this post wholeheartedly. I remember a time in my life where ALL I did was game. I was getting results, however after the hook up, still felt empty.

It wasn't until I begun training martial arts, got a real job and began writing in my free time that not only did I appreciate the sex more, because I knew that it was a SUPPLEMENT, but I was much happier overall.

NeoreactionSafe · 2015-03-15T23:16:26+00:00

"It's important to find something in life that you love more than love"

That has me worried. Love is a reward for a woman, child or puppy that behaves well. Beta's distorted concept of love is something based on receiving from a higher authority. (like a mother figure)

Love is an ownership thing. One loves their puppy.

You respect and often will Charm your parents or superiors. (but not a girlfriend)

Title	Don't Obsess Over Sex
Author	GeniousSpelur
Upvotes	75
Comments	48
Date	March 15, 2015 10:50 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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