This was originally posted on forums.red. I've decided to share my field reports here form now on and will share my old ones at some point.

Context I've posted about this blonde before. Back in late January I tried to pull her to my house one time for a movie and she shut me down hard saying "you're probably looking for a partner" and "I actually don't think I could ever date you. I'm flattered you want to go out" I just said she read it too deeply and that's that. I see her on campus once between then and March when she texts me. I ignore it till late march. We see each other in person on Thursday. She invites me out to that university bar, but I'm sick. Now it's this week, she invites me out again and I accept.

I've trimmed this post, it's mostly juicy material with dialoged to show where I'm at game wise.

Meet her in parking lot, hugs and we're off driving. Some talking, my hand's on her thigh and there's a little flirting. She again says she doesn't trust me and is wondering why she got in the car with me. She giggles at my joke. Get to dance venue and we're in there she's showing me how to two-step. I dance a little with blonde. These 3 hotties show up (2 7s and an 8), already tipsy. I move towards em a little and they really like my shirt and wanna grab a photo. I got a really nice pic with the 3 of em, and got it on snapchat. I was removed this morning, oh well. I tried to talk with em a little, but it was tough once they already had the photo. I decided against gaming them.

Blonde and I are chilling then two guys show up (they're regulars). She knows em, they come over and I meet em. I'm 5'11, and one is 6'1 but skinny and other is 5'8 and skinny. I could easily knock them out. They're mostly giving her attention and don't talk to me (rude) despite me being polite. That's when I realize it may be that kind of night. One of her girl friends shows up who's a tall boss bitch type (the rest of her friends are no show).

We all dance together for a bit when it's the group songs. This place mostly has skinny guys or chubby guys with their cowboy boots. I'm amog alpha like, and one of the bigger guys at the whole place (bulking again). But the dynamic has changed now. For some reason when tall guy leaves dance floor they all follow, even blonde. I realize it will be that kind of night where I'm just ignored as an outsider. I know my fun isn't tied to them, so I just do what I'm used to.. my own thing. I'm detaching and am mostly indifferent at this point. From this point forward in my mind, I'm there alone.

I just dance by myself, or merge with some other groups and build the energy. Some girls move away from me on the dance floor, but others are welcoming and dig my energy and lack of fucks given. We're just having a blast and I still catch blonde looking at me. It switches to two step dancing, and those guys just keep asking her to dance over and over. I only got 1 dance in with the blonde, and during that she's giggling and I think said once more she doesn't trust me. I briefly ask her about a dude she previously brought up, her parents didn't want her to be with a specific guy or whatever I somehow flip the script like I'm interrogating her and ask about her relationship with her Dad. She says it's good then asks me the same question I'm like "that's too deep." Dance is over. 6'1 guy goes to bar to get waters for everyone (but me) and girl and whole group follows. Weird as fuck. Now these two guys, they're confident while dancing, but strike me as average frustrated chumps that wouldn't kino her outside of the floor (I didn't see any). I walk after about 10 minutes and guy has 4 waters and hands 1 to everyone but me (rude again).

They're cliquish, and just their other behaviors makes em pretty lame. I still don't care, I already know what's happening. I hop to other side of bar with shorter line and get a long island. I finish it on a table next to em by myself and 6'1 guy leaves. I walk over, right as blondes explaining the "firetruck" game to this guy.

me: this is how these church girls talk about those kinds of topics (sex), it's kinda weird.

her: I feel like you're good at that." Me: I'm an expert, well semi-expert. I gotta stay humble.

That was my last full on interaction with them as a group and I'm carrying on with my night dancing with other groups. She's laughing again and touching my arm

I carry on do my own thing, dancing by myself or merging with other groups still. Now I'm asking other girls to two-step, like this cute one. I was in their group dancing and could tell she digs my energy. Turns out she also goes to my community college. At this point in the night, it's like I stop actually gaming. A couple dances later I grab her number, she puts in the whole contact information etc. But for some reason I immediately text her my name. I guess I was excited I met another cute girl I cliqued with.

While I was getting her #, blonde taps me on shoulder. I ignore then ask her what's up. She says she's ready to go home and and says I can stay longer "to get more girls #s." I said maybe and I'm tryna get more information outta her. I'm open and suggesting I can take her back, but she's like "No, I can go with this guy" (a third afc shows up, and she's gonna ride with one em back to her car). I doubt any of em could hit. I came prepared with 3 condoms in my car just increase things got steamy if I drove her back. I thought the night would be mostly her and I, but as I said.. I let that thought die earlier in the night. I still know she's holding back, so I pull her to another table and seriously ask her "what's up?" I needed to see if she wasn't hinting at bailing for sex. She tells me she just got her period which is why she needed her bag earlier from my car.

Me playfully: why can't you time your periods better, we were having a great time

her: I'm sorry, I can't control them

I then reference the firetruck fingering joke earlier "Like firetruck though, when you see red you keep going." She's like omg stop or something.

One more line dance comes up, we do that. She's about to leave and I decide that I just want to make my interest clear as a man. I'm gonna fucking kiss her, this shit has been going on far too long without any progress. I'm ready to never talk to her again should this be the case. Time to take a step forward. I don't care what anyone will say about this, Todd V would approve. There's this side room with pool tables, and some games. like "hey remember that punching bag (reads your punching power)? follow me."

her: why are we going there? what are you doing?

me: just come on, I wanna show you something.

Step in, there's a couple guys playing pool, so we walk further in back (the room's open on both ends) but we're out of view of the main floor and by a wall. I look at her eyes and lips and touch her hair. She's nervous throughout all this.

her: what are you doing?

me: what do you think?

her: I don't know

me: what were to happen if I were to kiss you?

her: i don't know, I haven't kissed many people before.

me: that's okay

her: have you?

me: (this is where the truth slipped out. As I said, for some reason I just dialed back my game). no (whether she believed it or not, idk). But close your eyes

her: (something)

me: just do it

She closes and I kiss her for a few seconds before she pulls back. She broke it off before I did, whatever. We're walking back to the table and she's saying "I hope the guy isn't grumpy, he has to take me home."

me: if he is, and gives you trouble just tell me where he lives, you said you live near each other.

That was a very strong push, and she's looking at me so I gotta do a pull. I tease her

me: you're so awkward, I said I'd hang out ONLY if you wouldn't make me look bad.

She laughs, then they all leave. I can tell those dudes didn't like me and they were pussy whipped for her. Now she's riding back with one, not sure if that's weird or not. Maybe they've fucked before, or maybe she's just not fucking anyone there. I don't care anymore. It's just me now. I go dancing more, and am now talking on the side with a dude from one of the circles. It's good then this girl from his group randomly walks over, grabs him by this arm and pulls him away like he's a little bitch. He was like mouthing or gesturing "Idk, bro." That was just stupid and super rude, they're also around 18-19 and immature. I stayed past midnight, but should've left before 12:30, wasted time after that.

This was eventful, and we're probably thinking the same thing. There's definitely a possibility she's fucking these beta guys, and everyone's getting laid BUT me. However, they're seriously beta and you just have to take my word for it. It's more likely the case she's fucking none of us and may have a body count of less than 3. I was social with the drunk girls when we first arrived, but didn't start gaming other girls until blonde decided to spend time more time with the orbiters. I wasn't gonna mate guard, we haven't fucked and she's big enough to make her own decisions. It's free attention, I don't blame her.. but it does say something about how she sees me. Does she not see me as alpha?

She's been saying she doesn't trust me, does that have something to do with how I don't open up? She's the 4th girl to basically say I don't talk about myself. Am I giving off player vibes or something? She's also the second girl to suggest I have lots of sexual experience. Even this virign I'm talking to thinks I've fucked a lot and laughs when I say I'm a virgin. I'm in a bind if a player reputation is deterring girls while STILL being a VIRGIN. I only got one small regret with immediately texting that other girl because I gotta double text if she doesn't respond. Now this isn't the outcome I'd hope for. I wanted to dance and bond with the blonde then get intimate later. It didn't happen, I know I made mistakes, and then the orbiters n' shit. That's okay though. I still pushed forward and kissed her because we've been going back and forth since last semester. That'll give her something to think about. Intellectually, I know this was my hardest field report and I did the best I could. I just feel l could've done a little more, I wish I was better. I can be very hard on myself and talk myself down, but I'm not doing that this time. I literally played the field and reacted the best I knew how to the volatile circumstances. With all that being said, this has been an experience for me.

Thank you for reading, and please share your thoughts gentlemen.

Edit it’s probably my fault many of you are hung up on me mentioning I could “knockout” these guys, I’ll clue you in on something. I only said that to give you readers a picture of the massive difference between me and the AFC orbiters. I have 0 intention of physically harming those guys, or walking around knocking people out. I have Muay Thai experience and have recently gotten back into frequent sparring. Blonde KNOWS that, so she’s well aware of who’s more physically dominant and socially dominant. Again, you're missing social context and history here, but I know her from school, just take my word for it.