SUMMARY

Just another example of wommans doing what they do best

BODY

This guy moves to US at 19 to find opportunities as a coder. He works hard, gets a job and quickly finds himself doing well. He takes a university course to continue to move up, and there he meets a womans.

Only one thing disturbed me, and it was the fact that she was eager to have a proper engagement with me and start a family. And that was after our first month of dating.

First red flag, but it was of course ignored. She had already found herself a BB.

I stated clearly to my fiancée that I was ok with being official, but cohabitation and marriage were off the deal for me.

Nice. He set some boundaries, if only that would stop her..

She said she understood, and she would wait.

She'll wait for her BB, she's 22 and hot she's obviously riding other dick anyway.

Fast forward a few months, she told me point black that she was pregnant.

Oops. Probably just an accident, right? .... right?

I did not wanted the baby and more than once I brought up the possibility of abortion, but she was adamant not to do it and there was nothing I could have done.

He's right. Men have zero legal control in these situations. She will do anything she wants with the baby and now she has control over him. It's game over at this point..

We married when she was three month pregnant.

All according to plan for her.

I asked her to pay half of the lease but she told me she had no money, but still want to be in the leasing with me because otherwise “what would her friends think of us?”.

The entitlement is strong here. Of course "that's just what people do" so why wouldn't he?

Then we get to the good stuff.

it turned out to be zero. Sterile, I shoot blanks. I took secretly a paternity test. One month ago I had the results. Not the father. I am in depression. I can’t function well.

CC rider confirmed. She was fucking other dudes while claiming she wanted to marry and start a family with OP.

She gets pregnant, obviously doesn't tell OP the child isn't his, and now she has her cake and can eat it too.

I feel like she trapped me and her trap worked.

Yep, some top notch manipulation from OP's wife.

If I file a divorce, I would have still to provide for her and for a baby I never wanted, and that is not mine. They would strip me everything I worked for, the house and more.

This is the reality in today's feminized world. This guy moved to the US to make a life for himself, maybe a family later, but he's been tricked out of everything he worked so fucking hard for.

How do I approach her? How can I divorce without risking too much of my assets? Should I visit a therapist? How to approach the whole situation?

My friend, you need the red pill.

I couldn't find a single comment telling OP to stay with her, that would be insane. Instead, they say she is a bad person.

Why women finally blame OP's wife is explained here by marty2k but here is the gist:

By focusing on the woman and not the underlying issues, they frame the narrative in two ways:

1) Not all women are like that.

2) There is nothing you can do to prevent it, just gotta try again. It's a character flaw and not the result of many smaller failings on the man's part.

LESSONS LEARNED

Just one more story added to the list of reasons not to get married, to continue to work hard for ourselves, to continue to learn RP theory, and finally.. wear a condom or get snipped.