Just Caught My GF Cheating

swordshab · 2017-09-14T12:21:46+00:00

You met her on bumble what did you expect

TheDivinePenis · 2017-09-14T12:30:30+00:00

You sound insanely sentimental, and it seems like you're incessantly trying to romanticize everything, including any suffering you experience. It sounds like narcissism disguised as depth.

You weren't that valuable to her, and still aren't. Improve, man, at everything. Then win.

max_peenor · 2017-09-14T13:47:19+00:00

I discovered RP about 4 months ago, started dating a girl I met on Bumble about 2 months ago

Using redpill knowledge to lock down a bluepill lifestyle?

Come on guys, relationships are hard mode. If you aren't in one now and you are in the middle of your awaking, why are you even trying it? Get some side ass while you work on you. Two months? Shit, all you should be worrying about is lifting, reading and fucking. And your side ass is going to be fucking someone else--get over it.

ReinhardVonLoengram · 2017-09-14T14:52:41+00:00

Don't bring the cat into this.

SkorchZang · 2017-09-14T13:28:09+00:00

They're all like that. After "Keith" happens, it's always "sorry, but I'm not sorry". Nothing special, and funnily, you can bet the exact same thing regularly happens to Keith too, so don't think he's in any way exempt from your pain because he's so damn superior or whatever. This aspect of AWALT doesn't change with a woman's quality, not one bit.

Thy_Lord_Castiel · 2017-09-14T11:30:03+00:00

I'm seeing as she out red pilled you, mate.

She wanted dick, she got dick. She took control, and she didn't seem to lead you on. Seems you led yourself on.

Sucks, but it happens.

Docbear64 · 2017-09-14T12:46:33+00:00

Fortunately deep down I knew from the second date this girl was low quality and I was wasting my time. She wasn't even that hot. So many red flags. She drank too much, wasn't feminine, didn't get along with her family, had a notch count in the 30s, had a cat. I was latching on to her simply because she's female. I'm codependent so I'm drawn to narcissistic broken women and she fit the bill. The volatility and neglect was so addictive. I wrote in my journal yesterday that she sucks and I need to walk away. But I couldn't shake the lie that she just needs the right guy (me) to show her so much affection and support that she can't help but become an angel.

You need to read this and then re-read it and then re-read it again until you can commit and embrace that all of this is what you need to work on .The situation its self wasn't bad , she was doing what just about every chick who uses a dating app does, riding the cock carousel and taking what she wants off the menu . The issue is you and your insecurities and feeling the need to commit so soon . Let a hoe be a hoe, you trying to make her into something more was an error in your judgement and a demonstration of your own weakness. You're better than that have better expectations for any woman you consider committing to and Don't rush into commitments . No chick worth being with is going to rush you into being in a relationship so don't rush to lock her down either.

dangercat415 · 2017-09-14T15:06:08+00:00

had a cat

This was her ONLY redeeming quality!

Cool_Mob · 2017-09-14T14:36:18+00:00

You never can wife a hoe my man.

You should go on monk mode,imo.

You have a lot to grasp.

Rian_Stone · 2017-09-14T12:42:48+00:00

I'll believe it if you don't do the same thing with the next girl

VictxrSenpai · 2017-09-14T16:13:06+00:00

I like how you bring up all her negative qualities AFTER she cheats. Well at least you know now man, SHE AINT YO GIRL ITS JUST YO TURN.

mindbreeder · 2017-09-14T15:15:59+00:00

dude that was painful to read. she clearly gave no fucks about you and meanwhile you're trying to wife her. I think you need to work on respecting yourself and your own reputation with yourself. In any event hopefully you've learned from this and are on your way to being a better man. When i look back at some of the lame beta shit ive done i used to cringe. Not anymore because im no longer that person.

trpthrowaway2003 · 2017-09-14T16:40:39+00:00

"Why don't we both do our own thing this weekend" I agreed like a good boy.

It's not really cheating then is it.

Just next her

banica24 · 2017-09-14T18:22:00+00:00

Any girl that has ever used a dating app is automatically not trustworthy for LTR. Even low quality girls get a huge self esteem boost from hundreds of matches and messages a week. They love the attention so it's hard to keep them in LTR. Not saying it's impossible but you have to have a solid frame. Otherwise after the smallest fight they go looking for other options

That being said, I'm glad it didn't get more serious between you two. Would've surely caused bigger, more impacting issues down the road. And thank you for sharing. I'm in an LTR for a year but still come back to read TRP and be reminded of the cold reality of women / CC / AWALT / she's not yours it's just your turn.

tropzumuch · 2017-09-14T15:48:07+00:00

AWALT .. bitch Here's the mindset you gotta adapt: You will not change shit in people. People will change you. So if you are not pleased by the appearance/lifestyle/crying/bitching/whatever, you can't make this bitch your gf.

You are free now. Use it

EscortSportage · 2017-09-14T16:40:20+00:00

3 dates! What is this the 50s? Christ guy, take your time, spin some plates, lift weights,go to work, school, bars etc follow your passion, get a hobby.

No disrespect, but 1. you seem very young, 2. You move wayyyy to quick..

Ive been messing with a girl for almost a year now, still no commitment, take your time. Get to know them, at their best and worst, see them without the make up, the sexy dresses and heels, and show them you are focused on you and your dreams. Woman are an addition to the plan not "THE PLAN"

amekooky · 2017-09-14T16:40:27+00:00

this makes me cringe, because I've been there a long time ago.

the second to last paragraph is the smoking gun, you are sitting there being critical of her, when in reality you should be critical of yourself for getting yourself in that situation to begin with.

now before you start getting into something cringeworthy like that again, hit the side bar and stop using common phrases from this subreddit ( RP, oneitis, frame, AWALT and not choosing low quality women) until you actually understand them.

no hate, just tough love.

dangercat415 · 2017-09-14T15:07:48+00:00

Here's a way to think about maintaining frame.

If she doesn't do what YOU want her to, and isn't submissive, she doesn't really care for you and has her own agenda.

I mean by all means let her do things she legitimately cares about. If she's taking singing lessons and that is important to her then she should go.. but if she's blowing you off there's a reason for it.

You're just not her top priority.

When you have oneitis and she's acting like this she's doing you a FAVOR by signaling that you should move on.

Bambam22bam · 2017-09-14T13:36:31+00:00

You meant absolutely nothing to her and You need to realize that now. She used You and that's probably all she really ever thought of You.

TheAirborne · 2017-09-14T15:44:23+00:00

I think it's clear you didn't want the red pill. You might've been successful in your attempts to get this woman because of her low SMV or the fact you used some aspects of TRP successfully....

But you IMMEDIATELY went to BP afterward, and continued to follow through. Even the things you reference as mistakes, cooking, trying to please her, etc... are missing the point.

You immediately became uninteresting, lost control, and then didn't just walk out when you noticed her acting strange.

You need to realize, going forward, that the "real YOU" and the "easy path" of relationships causes this result. In the future, don't take the easy way... maintain frame, and punt anything that seems fishy as far away from you as you can unless you're plating them.

equipmentpool · 2017-09-14T17:12:50+00:00

Learn from this and go into monk mode

SovereignSoul76 · 2017-09-14T17:23:56+00:00

...deep down I knew from the second date this girl was low quality and I was wasting my time. She wasn't even that hot. So many red flags. She drank too much, wasn't feminine, didn't get along with her family, had a notch count in the 30s, had a cat. I was latching on to her simply because she's female.>

...so you essentially got a free lesson

Also: You may have recently DISCOVERED the RP, but you've got a long way to go, pal.

TryHardDaily · 2017-09-14T20:29:32+00:00

As soon as she suggested that you do your own thing for the weekend you suggest you do your own thing from then on. At very least, it's a clean break from a low quality woman, at most, she'll realize she's gonna lose a high quality male (assuming you're high quality) and immediately try to please you. In your case, you had already exhibited low quality behaviors, go no contact and move on, if you're lucky she'll come back for 1 or 2 more fucks.

Blackhawk2479 · 2017-09-14T17:00:05+00:00

had a cat

No, no, no. Cats are awesome.

Horses are big red fucking flags though.

xeneize93 · 2017-09-14T16:00:48+00:00

Having a cat is a red flag?!

wheresMYsteakAt · 2017-09-14T16:10:34+00:00

Hmm Keith fucked my girl too... Chris Brandon and Keith's have been problems though out my dating life.

JBo4Three · 2017-09-14T16:12:46+00:00

Not sure why you expect to find a quality woman in the trash heap. AWALT for where you're looking, bro.

If you want a good woman, you'll need to look elsewhere. I'm guessing most here won't like the fact that where they'll find quality will require them to make honest changes to make them worthy of that quality. Because women can smell bullshit a mile away.

Sasori117 · 2017-09-14T19:27:31+00:00

"My frame was pretty good early on (with the exception of making her exclusive after 3 dates) but slowly my BP habits started kicking in..."

Stopped reading. #YouDeservedIt

SouthernFit · 2017-09-14T20:56:16+00:00

Gut check. It never fails you.

Actanonverba11 · 2017-09-14T21:01:36+00:00

You say "she wasn't that great, anyway," yet you had oneitis for this chick and was hurt by her cheating? Nah, fam.

redvelvet_oreo · 2017-09-14T21:08:36+00:00

"She is not yours, it is just your turn" - INTERNALIZE IT and MOVE ON.

You need to take out time and work on your self. Go through the sidebar again. Get in the Gym. Go out and get a better job if you dont have one already. Go out and start gaming. Internalize and practice internal and external game untill it becomes who you are. Dont just sit here and read shit. Learn from your mistake because if you keep "pretending" to be alpha and pick up a chick and become beta in the process you arent getting anywhere.

Weefilly · 2017-09-14T21:47:26+00:00

Classic case of the cuckins!

Title	Just Caught My GF Cheating
Author	mulepods
Upvotes	50
Comments	65
Date	September 14, 2017 11:24 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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