What's up gents. I saw a post here briefly mention the importance of being discrete, and I think the subject warrants its own post.

 

TL;DR- Keep that shit to yourself.

 

We've all been told not to "kiss and tell," and we all (well, some of us) are guilty of our young middle school or high school selves bragging about our sexual conquests. And we can't help it, we want our buddies to know that we're studs, we want the girls to know that we're the shit. But as you turn into a man, your constant bragging about your exploits is only going to shoot you in your third leg. The biggest fear a woman has is being labeled a slut, do you think she'll sleep with you again if word gets out that she licked your butthole? Worse, do you think other women are now going to want to sleep with you if she thinks everyone will find out about it?

Let the girl tell her friends about it. Because she will.

Allow me to illustrate.

 

I was at a house party with a lot of my old high school friends, a couple years after we graduated. I ended up sleeping with a girl I knew, and was friendly with, but not particularly friends with, upstairs that night. Everyone knew what was up. She woke up before me and went downstairs, where several people were already awake and making breakfast. I went down a little while later, said my good mornings and went over to some of my buddies, who immediately started asking me about it. People could clearly overhear, and I told them nothing happened. I didn't care if people didn't know, I'd been along on the self-improvement road for a while at that point and didn't need to brag for validation, but I also knew that the other girls (and my girl) were listening. The topic didn't last long, everyone dropped it. A little while later, two of the other girls came up to me and said "[girl] told us that you did have sex," giving me some subtle IOIs. "We could even hear her from the next room." I responded, "Oh, did she," with a little smile, and dropped the subject again. Since then, I've slept with multiple women from that party, all of them told me they thought it was sexy that I didn't say anything. I still haven't. If you're reading this and I know you, please don't screw me over.

 

I had gotten a new job a while ago. A girl with whom I have a history works there. My interviewer asked if I knew anyone, I said I was friends with her. After the first couple weeks, it's clear to everyone that she was interested in me, and that we knew each other well. One of my managers approached us while we were talking. "How do you guys know each other? I remember [girl] talking about you before you were hired here.." with a look on her face like she already knew. "Well we used to-" I cut the girl off before she could finish. "We met at our first semester at college, we've been friends since then." I didn't need everyone knowing I used to tie her to my bed or that she was one of the kinkiest girls I'd ever been with. Besides, that's a bad look for her in our work place. Again, I was later approached by other girls who said they knew our history, and they wanted a crack at me too. Had I done all the talking, they wouldn't have been as comfortable being that up front with me.

And that's just the thing.

By having a reputation of discretion, girls trust that they can let go with you. They feel comfortable speaking and acting boldly about what they want from you.

 

Law 4: Always say less than necessary.