It pisses me off that so many people in our society misled me and other men into thinking that being weak and vulnerable will get you romance/love/sex. That being a weak man isn't only OK, but almost something to revel in. You aren't like those other jerks!! I really wish I could find a nice guy just like you!! (but not you, b/c you don't turn me on)...every time I turned to a woman for advice on why I wasn't getting dates or having any success at all as far as dating goes they basically told me to do more of the same...be nice, don't act like those jerks that are getting laid!
Fuck at least guys are honest about what they want for the most part, THAT is what i would have liked to see from woman too b/c then maybe I wouldn't have wasted so much time. Some blunt honesty would have been nice at times when I was younger, so I could have gone down the right path earlier. Or at least hint at it b/c I know not everyone takes criticism well.
My father is classic blue pill and my mom is very smothering. They don't know any better, and their support has helped alot with my issues in the past when I was dealing with more serious depression and legendary social awkwardness. But I still would have liked more masculine role models growing up. Someone to tell me to get off my fucking ass and be a man before my mid twenties.
But here I am now at 26 trying to turn things around...and it is overwhelming. I feel like a college kid that forgot to study for his final and is about to fail. Way to much shit to do and not enough time...gotta lift, socialize, make friends, get more hobbies, get a good career, go out, sleep, work...and make all the 'right' decisions so I don't waste any more time. It gets stressful/depressing sometimes, but on days like this it just makes me angry...
The point of all this is...has anyone else here gone through anything similar? How did you deal and not go crazy?
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