SUMMARY: I've lived in China for almost ten years, roughly equal between Beijing and Shanghai (the two most developed cities). Discovered TRP about a year ago and have been applying it here. Basically all the same stuff is true. It all works, totally cross-cultural. There's just one difference. Many women here, or at least the ones with class, educatiion, good family background, simply won't be plated.

It's getting pretty frustrating because I keep meeting women who I can totally dominate, create attraction and chemistry with, but I can't seem to spin them consistently. In some cases I take them to bed, but typically after a few times they start saying they want something serious, say they're hoping to get married within 2 years. Can't tell you how many times I've heard that from girls even as young as 22. Lots of pressure coming from parents.

The most recent one was 25 or 26. I know she liked what I was giving her, our last encounter was great as usual. She had already tried to bounce out once, saying she wanted a real boyfriend. I got her back with vagueries about saying I wanted to see more of her too but really nothing changed. 1-2 times a week at most. Last week she complained in a text message that I only contacted her once a week when I had "motivation." Now it looks like she's really not coming back.

Then there's some who you can't even get to bed once. This girl I was out with tonight definitely wants me. It was our third date, it's been kino escalation from the beginning, but all in public places. Tonight we're walking in the park on a summer night after dinner. Then I have to make a call for work and she's actually sitting on my lap (because the bench is wet from rain earlier in the day), and she's nuzzling up to me, we're holding each other close, having our most intimate moment of the three weeks we've known each other, and just then she whispers in my ear that we're not right because she can tell I'm not the marrying type.

All that alpha energy I'm putting out, she's totally attracted to me, but at the same time it's almost COUNTERPRODUCTIVE because she assess - accurately - that I just want her as a plate.

She's been well-disciplined and is supervised by family. This girl dances ballet, plays the guitar, sexy. But while we're walking in the park she gets a call from her mom checking on her. Then all of a sudden - again, this is our third date - she PUTS HER MOTHER ON THE PHONE.

It's ok because I speak Chinese, and the mother is sweet as can be, but it's clear she knew all about our date since it was first planned about 18 hours earlier. "It's getting late and it's time to bring Rosa home" she tells me a bit playfully.

Obviously China is a massive country and it's still easy for foreigners to get laid by some small-town or countryside girl (even then they often want marriage) but in a big, wealthy city like Shanghai, it's normal for a hometown girl to still live with their parents at age 26 like this one. These girls add the most "value" but they are also surprisingly resistant to TRP mojo.

She said she'd had one boyfriend before. Obviously that may not be true. What I do know is that I sensed simultaneously that she was highly attracted to me and also that she had no intention of giving herself up. I felt a grudging respect for her self-control. Also terrible blue balls.

I feel a case of oneitis setting in, so maybe I'm trying to rationalize it by saying that spinning plates isn't feasible here, but it's getting ridiculous running into the same thing over and over. Also I'm now 34 and even though I'm lifting, looking pretty good for my age, I still have to wonder how long I can keep pulling girls in early/mid 20s.

I'm so close to telling this girl what she wants to hear so I can have her. Then I'll either end up married or her family will send goons to mess me up.

TAKEAWAY: Conservative social values are a game-ruiner.