• I know I will probably get grilled for this post, but there seems to be quite a split in opinions on how "controlling" (i.e. setting up relationship boundaries) a man should be with his LTR, with the majority of TRP saying that you shouldn't care what your woman is doing etc, you shouldn't mate guard as this is all "beta" behavior, and if you do this you're putting her too much on a pedestal.

  • But imo, by not setting up relationship boundaries early on in the relationship with a LTR (i.e. not a plate) and by validating her behavior --> in particular to girls nights out or late "work drinks" (i.e. her coming home at midnight after drinking) you're going to be setting yourself up on the eventual path to doom.

Let's look at this scenario

  • Let's say the relationship has started off rock solid and she has a really high level of attraction to you and doesn't want to lose your and has no intention to cheat on you.

  • She has no nefarious intentions and LTR comes to you (6 months into the relationship) and asks you have if you are "cool" with her going out with her friends (without you) to a bar/nightclub or late work drinks with a mixed sex audience. It's going to involve her drinking atleast 4+ drinks and getting tipsy and having fun with her friends.

1. Reaction A - Don't give a fuck /or dread game her

  • This is what majority of TRP recommends. It shows that you have self-confidence and know that if she fucks up you will turf the relationship and hit up a back up plate (no real loss).

  • In the short-term, this may pay off as she is highly attracted to you and its only 6 months in.

  • The risk of her screwing up on this night is low (in the short term)

  • Problem/issue with this reaction - it validates bad LTR behaviour. She sees that you are "cool" with this, and she will continue to do this whenever she feels because you have no problem with it. This might not be a problem early on 6 months to 12 months, but what happens years 3, 4 or 5+? How many nights out will this be? Even assuming a less than 5% chance of fucking up (i.e. she drinks too much, she’s ovulating and a super-alpha overcomes her on the DF and she makes out and gets fingered by him), this will eventually fuck up due to statistics. Do you seriously want to be that guy sitting at home while your GF is out to midnight having fun, getting drunk in a mixed environment? This is realistically where you might end up. I doubt any guy in a LTR would not "give a fuck" that his GF is out doing this if he has a strong bond with her. The bottom line is - this reaction is a temporary fix and is only applicable if you are “cool” with your GF going out late and getting drunk in a mixed social environment.

2. Reaction B - Say that you are not attracted to that behavior and its incompatible in the LT

  • You tell her upfront that you're not attracted to girls who do this and its compatible in the LT with you.
  • If she goes out anyway, you turf her immediately and bring 1 of your plates up into LT status.
  • You repeat this with all