Share your monk mode experience

PFN_LIST_FUCKED · 2014-11-20T18:23:04+00:00

I've been at it for half a year now. Hit the gym after the girl I was seeing left when I told her I was ill. Doctors told me it was terminal in a few years if I didn't start treatment. I dumped the second girlfriend after she flipped the fuck out over it. Tried online dating again and got a lot of responses and interest, but shut it down after two no-call-no-shows.

I work seven days a week trying to clear the debt that built up from medical bills. I don't have any time to waste, so it's either bettering myself to make sure this doesn't happen again, or visiting the friends that stuck around after telling them what I was going through.

ContinentalRP · 2014-11-20T18:28:02+00:00

This happened before I knew what monk mode was:

What I did

I promised myself no reddit, facebook or other wasting time websites. No watching television, any movies or series and no more video games. Basically no entertaining of any kind unless it was social.

During my free time I would only "grow" i.e. watch David deAngelo seminars about transforming yourself, becoming a man, inner game, dating techiniques, reading deivid deida, napoleon hill, etc or exercise.

How was it

The hardest was after work and during the weekends where I had loads of free time and couldn't entertain myself.

It didn't last long because it was brutally difficult to remove all entertainment from my life, but during that time the changes were instantaneous.

What were the results

Boy they were great.

Suddenly, and I really mean suddenly, my confidence skyrocketed because underneath I now knew whatever life would throw at me what would I gonna do besides solving the problem and sucking up possible suffering, pain and desconfort? I had nowhere to run, no entertainment to make life "easier", nowhere to look besides in the eyes of the problem.

My eye contact became slow and steady, i would look anyone in the eyes for as long as I wanted.

I lost fear of fighting and confronting people because, again, what were they gonna do? I could handle the beating or shaming because I had nowhere to run. That was life.

I became present all the time, with slow, steady movements. I'm someone who's always daydreaming and because of that I can't have conversations, i developed anxiety, i'm afraid of solving problems, but during that time, when I was present, socializing suddenly became fun, solving problems was just part of life, and anxiety lessened significantly. This presence also improved on me being the center of my life, like when you walk you're not the one moving on earth's surface, you are the one making earth move, thus, what I now know as "holding frame" became natural.

I stopped running from life's problems ( because there was nothing better to do ).

I became way more masculine because of my new confidence.

There would be a general calm in my life, I felt in control.

I stopped being goofy and always smiling and became more serious.

My house stopped being an "entertainment/fun center" where I could hide from life and became only a place to rest, eat and sleep.

I started seeing myself as a man, I'm in my early 20's and I still feel like a teenager, but during that time I could hold conversations with other man equally, I became interested in hanging out with them.

I started feeling a huge "I'm doing the best I can with my time, i'm living life to it's fullest, i'm doing what I was supposed to be doing, this is how a man lives" and it helped tremendously socially.

I also became way more aloof and stopped giving a fuck to a lot of things: my motorcicle breaking down, losing money, people flaking on me, the thought of getting fired, etc all lost importance.

Why I stopped

I would like to try again, but it's just too hard eliminating all entertainment from life, men before television used to live like this, but I guess I'm just too weak, I don't know, anxiety also doesn't help.

Edit:added few things.

Also looking back at it now it wasn't just the elimination of entertainment that gave me all these benefits, it was the process of using my entire free time for only personal growth related activities and only for that that gave me this sense of nowhere to run and living life to its fullest and also what made it so hard, because I had only "boring" things to do at home.

Popeman79 · 2014-11-20T19:27:51+00:00

I've been in monk mode for a short while (a couple of months), lifting, trying to change habits (almost no weed and no fap, going to sleep early) and having sex only when the urge is too strong (once or twice a week with one of the plates). When I go out it's only because I want to see some friends, and I don't pursue women, but I'm increasingly the life of the party.

Some of the results so far:

I am taller: Not that I feel taller, I am taller. I can see it because I'm now above a few colleagues that were taller before. It's not that I grew, but lifting is getting my body back to its original shape. I walk tall, I take space when I walk or where I stand. I feel like a rock, strong (although I'm far from optimal shape).

My Social Market Value has increased: I feel I am worth more. I am more confident, I am myself all the time, I don't care what other people think. I am making no efforts whatsoever to go out, but I keep meeting new people all the time, interacting with them. This dude at work was ditching my invites 2 years ago, now he passes by my office all the time to see me and begs me to hang out. Also, my own sense of SMV has increased: girls I was attracted to 3 months ago now do nothing for me. When I meet a girl I like, I have to know that I will probably lose interests soon, because I'm rising, whereas everybody else is stagnant. So that's why you can't commit to anyone in Monk Mode, because you're in the process of becoming better.

Girls chase me: Wow, all the time. I wasn't a chump before, but now it's much more obvious. Colleagues come to my office and flirt, women in the street check me out. Friends' wives and girlfriends flirt with me.

With great power come great responsibilities: Becoming Alpha is no easy task. Now, I'm no longer under the radar. I'm the center of attention, whether I want it (in social situations, hot babes) or not (friends' wives, fugly chicks, my female boss who I can't really neg). I'm starting to understand hot babes that become bitchy, because some days I feel harassed by social attention, I feel like returning to my shell, where I was more alone but also more peaceful. Now I have to maintain frame all the time, diss flirty girls without being rude, take care for my friends and show them I'm not flirting back with their wives, and keep on improving.

Temptation is strong to stop and reap some benefits: I could stop monk mode after 2 months, start going out again, renew and improve my roster of plates, make new friends. It's really hard to stay focused on the final goal -which is to become what I can be. So this is the hardest part. I hope it gets easier as time goes, and that monk mode will be a habit.

Monk mode is not only to improve yourself to come back stronger to your old life, it is to change your lifestyle. I have a mountain to climb, and the higher I go, the better the view -and it's tempting to stop and enjoy. But I have to keep on climbing. Only then will I know how much I can really achieve in this life.

[deleted] · 2014-11-20T16:49:25+00:00

Staying home practicing guitar, reading books and practicing mediation has worked for me. Do this for a month but I still go out like once a week (keep the social skills from going stale). Then I go out every night for 2 weeks or so. I have a lot to talk about, the books I've read, the books I'm planning to read, the songs I can play and what I'm interested in learning. During this time I talk to everyone, pick up numbers, etc.

livebls · 2014-11-20T17:46:08+00:00

Went into monk mode for about 8 months. I would still go and party with my friends when they invited me but I wouldn't go out with the goal of pursuing women. I would however try to talk to as many as I could while still having fun with my friends.

In those 8 months, I lost 75lbs, got a lot better at my hobbies (basketball, drums, writing) and read as much as I could about politics and philosophy. All of this while lurking on TRP.

What I learned from the experience was that monk mode is more about changing your habits and your lifestyle for the long-run. It's not about doing a lot of stuff for a certain period of time and then going back to your old ways. Monk mode should change you for the better in the long-run.

vengefully_yours · 2014-11-20T20:05:56+00:00

To be honest I had only two choices; throw away everything I worked for since 1982 and live like everyone else, but rather comfortably, or rebuild my life and make a home that no lecherous cunt can take from me. I chose to rebuild. Bought land last year, but due to winter and the divorce I couldn't live there. This year was fucked due to my mother passing and my banker being a bumbling fool that wasted four months of building weather. I decided fuck the bank, I'll do it on my own.

Waiting on the dumb ass at the bank cost me another year, but I still managed to get some shit done before the snow hit. Now I'm building three or four cars to sell in the spring and finance some equipment so I can do more myself. I need a tractor that can move dirt, level ground, pull stumps, etc. I have too damn much shit to do and a woman will only distract me from it, so I haven't been looking for one. The hilarious thing is I am doing exactly what everybody says to do, wait, don't look, and one will fall in my lap. Yeah, that shit doesn't happen to men.

I'm building a small cabin in the spring, less than 200sqft. Enough for my dogs and I to live in while I build two shops to build more cars. One will be 40'x60' the other 20'x40' so I can store cars, parts, and do work year round. Eventually I will build a longer shed to house more cars and parts so nothing will be outside anymore, the two mentioned already will be where I work and do major frame off projects.

I've been married twice, every girl I meet has the same fucked up entitled attitude and I have better shit to do, besides there is no fucking way I'm going to subsidize another bitch then end up with nothing again. I'll get laid when I want, they are still easy, but I'm not keeping any of them. Right now I'm not even bothering with the young girls because they take some effort, meanwhile old bitches are like dog poo. The older they are the easier they get to pick up. She'd rather put out than be put out to pasture. I one give them my real name, don't let them know where I live, and that way I can ditch them at will.

Time to get back to the car at hand, might pull the Trans Am out of the trees and do it too, they are bringing good money right now.

[deleted] · 2014-11-20T16:47:56+00:00

I just started monk mode a couple weeks ago; going to completely ignore women, gym 6 days a week, nexted all of my plates and only going out drinking once per week now.

Yesterday a cute girl surprisingly cold approached me out of the blue and I got her number.

metallica11 · 2014-11-20T18:00:37+00:00

Been in "monk mode" for the past 2.5 years. "monk mode" = not actively trying to pursue the opposite sex.

-Increased my salary from around 72,000 to 92,000 and landed a job that I am passionate about in the one company I wanted to work for

-Reached my body and fitness goals (body in top 5% of men easily as long as I am not on a bulk)

-Could not cook worth shit, and learned around 50 new GOOD recipes and basic cooking techniques from around the world. I make 90% of my food at home (freeze it etc) and it is regularly praised by others (this was really fucking fun)

-Released a CD with my band and really honed my guitar/piano skills

Although I feel very accomplished and proud/confident, the reactions I get from women have not changed at all. I do not get women approaching me/giving me signals etc or say they are attracted to me because of my accomplishments. I am still struggling with building a more masculine appearance and more extroverted nature, which is the root cause of all my problems with the opposite sex.

senordustball · 2014-11-20T23:38:03+00:00

Practically all my life up to 28 yrs. of age I was in monk mode, (My logic was very pragmatic; "I'll get a girlfriend when I can afford one"). At 28 I had a BS, and a MS in Engineering achieved sizeable savings, owned a house, had a good car and a good job ($80K/yr US), I thought to myself, "Well now I can start looking for a wife." Real soon after that real soon after that it became obvious that all my perceptions about the dating world and dealing with women were wrong (blue pill mindset). In looking for answers to this I even started refering to these perceptions as "The Matrix" (This was in 2008 before I had found this site).

The one thing that I just never experienced in those 28yrs. is the whole "If you focus on yourself, women will come to you." I am living proof that if you stick to doing what you like you might come out ahead but you might not necessarily come across girls. In my case Engineering was always devoid of girls, and all my hobbies: Computers, electronics, carpentry, home construction, were devoid of girls as well.

Now at 34, my new monk mode is getting fit. I quit my job and made becoming a fit person my job. I hit the gym 5 days a week and focus on a good diet and getting plenty of rest. I plan on doing this for a full year before I go looking for work again. So far I've been at this for 20 weeks and lost 20lbs, I need to lose 11 more to reach my fat loss goal before I start bulking up.

[deleted] · 2014-11-20T19:26:04+00:00

Last year I met a girl. She was my first true relationship. Before that I had a few girlfriends but never fucked them except for one girl I had sex with once because I wanted to lost my virginity.

It was living hell. I had all those blue pill ideas and suddenly I was confronted with the harsh true reality.

Diagnosed with severe depression. I had suicidal tendencies and was failing badly at college. I had cut all contact for everyone in order for her to stay with me. It included my friends, my family, everyone.

I might say it again : severe depression. Severe.depression.

For three weeks, I stayed into my bedroom and didn't move. Didn't talk to anyone, didn't answer the phone, didn't take a shower. I barely ate a box of cookies during those 3 weeks. I remember how it used to take me several hours to drink a glass of water. Get up and get a glass. Too hard. Must go back to bed. I would fell onto the floor because the bed was too far away (2 meters) and stay there for an hour. Then I would muster up the courage to get up again and fill the glass of water. But again it would left me so weak I would have to lie down another hour before drinking up the water. It's in this physical and mental condition that I had to work my butt off for my finals.

In a nutshell, I entered monk mode. I stopped talking to anyone because all the people in college witnessed my ex cheating on me and said nothing to me. My (female) friends told me to fuck off because I was depressed and thus weak. That's when I stopped believing one could have female friends.

I spent three to five months dealing with anger phase. It hurted a lot. I then succeeded at my finals and entered second year of college. I stayed in monk mode and still wasn't talking to anyone. I was scared as hell to go back to college but I fought through it and know I want to succeed at my finals of second year.

No girls. No feminist bullshit. No feminine influence. It's in those conditions that I swallowed the pill. I went to see a shrink and a doctor. I fixed my depression, my one-itis and my addiction to sex.

As I am an introvert, I was glad to be alone. It was good to be alone, with myself. I began to define what I wanted out of my life, what my goals are. I got over the girl who brought me to TRP. As time went by, I understood more and more things about our "relationship" and it hurted more and more.

I am still in monk mode. I don't know when it will end but I think it will be when I will have succeeded to my finals of my second year of college. I begin to feel the need to have a sexual partner so if I ever get the chance, I will fuck almost any girl. However, I am so focused on college, on my health and on my goals that I don't even notice women giving me ECand when I do, I don't bother to open them or anything. Right now, I am in a time of intensive work. I do nothing but work. Of course, I still spend some time on reddit, do some stretching or meditation on a regular basis but I don't go to martial art classes anymore.

opening_a_bottle · 2014-11-20T19:55:20+00:00

Don't love all of what this sub preaches, but do like a lot of the general self improvement mantras....anyway.

I moved out of state to work for a few years after college to try and enjoy life before committing to working toward a legit career permanently. Went into monk mode a few months ago after living red pill for a couple years. I discovered this sub after the fact.

1.) Quit my job that was in a field I didn't enjoy and didn't have the kind of mobility I desired.

2.) Got rid of my lingering ex (she was my FWB) started studying full time for the GRE (grad school is part of my long term plan), took the test and nailed it.

3.) Moved back home to reduce expenditures so I could save up a real amount of money and pay down as much debt as possible while working a solid sales job.

4.) Hit the gym harder than ever before

5.) Get back to reading more, started taking piano lessons

6.) Don't give a FUCK about what anyone says about what I'm doing INCLUDING FAMILY

Entered monk mode because I knew that any great life experience requires this kind of commitment. Results are good so far. Got the solid sales job, look better than ever, feel good about my direction, should have a 2nd degree and a career I can love all before the age of 30.

Not really concerned with the ladies right now, I'm an attractive guy and haven't had any sex in 6+ months now. After the 3rd month it gets easier ha. Stay strong fellow monks.

ucancallmehansum · 2014-11-20T21:56:27+00:00

I've been eternally in Monk Mode and I'm not sure I'm ever going to stop. AKA the story of a loser turned human

Being the son of a seemingly autistic beta father with zero social skills and a spineless, compulsively lying mother, I was super socially awkward so I always felt people didn't like me and had really low self-esteem, while being super quiet. I had a seriously warped sense of humor and, thus, basically 1 or 2 friends in elementary school my whole time there. I decided at a really young age (probably around 10 years old) I was going to make people like me because I was too lonely. So I saved up my quarters and bought some 5 and 10 and 15 pound barbells and get big-ass biceps, but it wasn't enough.

Even with biceps that were the envy of the jocks, my middle school years didn't go smoothly at all as I went from a semi-ghetto school environment in my elementary to a full-on projects school where kids would have knife fights and other crazy shit. I got the shit scared out of me and retreated further into my shell. I learned to be a little more masculine after joining sports, but I was still scared of getting into a fight, cuz of knives and gangs. I spent my days either at after school sports practice, competing at chess tournaments on Sunday, or playing my trumpet so I could keep my first chair.

High school was just as ghetto as my middle school but AP classes kept me away from most of the gangsters. I left sports. I noticed girls started to flirt with me (9s even!!) asked me to get with them, but I was super catholic and thought my parents wouldn't approve so I ignored them and got super anxious to the point of throwing up, thinking what the other students would think of me or what would happen if I became their boyfriend; I was cute but I new I had no personality. I grew my hair out and concentrated on my guitar so I could become popular without needing a personality (which I didn't cuz I learned speed metal...). I started becoming a recluse again and didn't hang out with anyone my Sophomore year and really started working on my craft with guitar. It was really therapeutic and eventually I just started practicing for myself (the thought of playing in front of people started to freak me out a little.) I learned songs my dad said he wished he had the talent to sit down and learn. He said I was gifted. I would say I was driven by extreme loneliness, low self-esteem and a lack of human contact. By junior year I had become as quiet I'd ever been but also "that guy who can play Stairway to heaven/Master of Puppets/How far is heaven etc." as demonstrated at the yearly talent show. Senior year I tried getting out of my shell as I felt more confident about my attractiveness but my social retardation was too much. Girls started approaching me again, but I didn't know how to talk to them(this one hot girl told me I looked like Beast from beauty and the best and I was like "Fuuuuuuck Yooooooou", later I found out she meant I looked like the prince after he transformed with my long hair...damn it).

College was one the most intense monk modes of my life. 4 years of never ending work on myself. Coming from the ghetto and going to an Ivy league college was a hard kick in the ass and self-esteem. I had to start from scratch as practically all the dudes at my particular school were tall, smart, athletic, and artistic in some way. Everything was equalized. My abilities counted for nothing. It was now a battle of personalities, so naturally I lost. But luckily I was surrounded by excellent examples of what an Alpha male should act like. I started becoming more stoic without even noticing it. After almost failing my first semester, despite trying my hardest, I had to focus on my studies exclusively or I'd get kicked out (you're not allowed to fail classes at small LACs) I worked my ass off and barely passed my classes. I spent the entire summer preparing for my next year I then picked up my first nugget of Monk Mode gold. It's not that quantity of work you throw at something that makes you better at something. It's much more the quality. I figured out my language teachers didn't know shit about teaching languages so I decided to become my own teacher and became the best Japanese student my college has ever seen. My Chinese professor suggested I apply for computational linguistics, but I decided I would work on my own software tailor made for myself so I could become a language learning freak. Five languages later and I am glad to say it it wasn't for my shitty Japanese teachers in college I would not be the language-learning bad-ass I have become today.

Post college, I felt very much like a man, but I still needed to compensate for my personality, or I thought I did. Going to an elite school in the NE and then returning to the Ghetto really makes you realize how much you've grown. I can easily get an 8 anywhere in the city now based on accomplishments alone, but beta bux wasn't enough. I wanted Charisma. During college a friend of mine recommended I read the book "How to Win friends and Influence people". I did after college and my life changed again. I finally got the chance to fix my personality working at Sears retail. My boss was stupidly bad but I got posted with a lot of girls, which was great practice learning how they think. I made myself talk to everyone. I needed a good recommendation from somebody for my future job but I didn't know who yet, so I acted genuinely interested in everyone and knew everyone by name. I became popular for the first time in my life and it was mostly due to the fact I could talk as easily to the Store manager about super white things or to the dude in hardware about the most ghetto subjects. I had become a generalist and was reaping the benefits without even knowing it. I treated everyone the same, man or woman and soon all the girls wanted to get with me. During the morning meeting on a day I was being particularly sociable, I got looks from all the 10s in the store. At this point, I knew I was reborn. You can change for good guys. It's totally possible, but it will take you years, not months. I have nothing in common with my ten year old self, except the desire to become the best me I can become. I'm glad to say, all the women at my current waiter job enjoy slapping my ass (yes my woman boss too) and joking about having sex with and wanting to be my girlfriend, then proceeding to blow me in their car when they give me a ride home. For the record, I'm 25, skinny to average at best, about a 6.5on the looks chart (apparently I was a 9 beginnings of high school), Hispanic with a very racially ambiguous look, and look like I'm eternally 16 years old. In other words, I don't look alpha at all. There is hope.

IthieuNoir · 2014-11-21T01:55:37+00:00

For the past month ish I've been further sorting out my diet and workout routine, eating clean every meal except for supper and beers with the guys one night and Sunday dinner with the parents. Only drank alcohol one day since Halloween, for a friend's birthday.

I was doing great with meditation and reading, but they've fallen off over the past two weeks. Typing this up made me realize it, so thanks, gonna get back on that

fermbetterthanfire · 2014-11-20T18:12:30+00:00

I found the best way to accomplish monk mode is making a very stringent routine. So full that if you accomplish it each day. There isn't time for bullshit internet use or screwing around. Incorporate physical mental spiritual (whatever that means for you, reflection meditation, etc) and honestly I've found spending as much extra time in nature as possible is a good way to tap into primal motivation.

gt35r · 2014-11-20T21:35:34+00:00

Monk mode for 4 months here.

What I did

Cut out actively trying to talk and pick up women. Cut out getting completely sloshed every weekend (its actually been a year for this). Cut out all forms of soda (same with this). I spent my weekends at the gym, and my week nights preparing food and looking at new recipes. While eating healthy I learned to cook a wide range of things, so I got 2 birds stoned at once.

How was it

As others said, it was hard as shit, it still is because I'm still in it. If it was easy, wouldn't everyone be ripped? Anyways, I've not made it to a year yet but know this, once you decide in your mind you're going to do something, your brain will help you achieve this.

The first month was the hardest. Just like anything once you get past that introduction phase, it literally becomes part of your life. Eating healthy is part of my life, going to the gym is part of my life. I feel like garbage if I ever eat out more than 1 day a week, same if I miss a gym night for whatever reason, I feel like a worthless piece of meat.

My results

The most surreal thing for me was putting on jeans that I hadn't worn since the previous winter, those fuckers didn't even fit me. I tried a belt, nada. So my results ended up being expensive but that's the kind of money I dont mind spending, buying smaller clothes. I weighed in at 201 down from 238.

People started messaging me out of the blue (women mostly) saying they haven't heard from me in a while and I set up coffee meets/dates with them to catch up. To my surprise they noticed more than I did that I've changed. I come across as more masculine, carry myself with more confidence and who knows maybe one of them will convert to a plate.

I bought a house, throwing a house warming party for New Years. I figured what better way to introduce the new me to those who hadn't seen or been around me for a while. I also picked up cycling, it's cold as fuck right now so I'll probably hibernate until the temp gets back up but I know I'll get right back on the horse.

All in all it really showed me that I can be happy by myself. That's not my end goal but it's important to know I am not reliant on anyone else's presence or feelings to fuel my life meter. I defeated the fact that I was getting shit faced every weekend and wondering where my money had gone the next day. Now I have a few beers to take the edge off if needed and finish with water the rest of the night, it happens rarely but it's a HUGE change from the previous me.

I recommend it to anyone who doesn't know what to do with their life or to anyone who's depressed about a break up or divorce. Give it a try at least.

[deleted] · 2014-11-21T21:03:03+00:00

Lost my IT job a few years ago, ending a 12 year career in IT. College degree from a high end private school, military experience, and 12 years of IT all down the shitter with nothing to show for it. $40,000 in debt and no woman wanted me.

Burned through unemployement and what little savings I'd managed but still hung on for about three years before having to move in with my folks. Blue pill environment but at least they understand that I need to lick my wounds.

It's a slow process. Started lifting with a buddy 6 months ago, showing some gains but I have very far to go. Started eating right years ago when I lost my job and had to live out of a crock pot. Started getting rid of the baggage.

I've found it's not a matter of willpower or any of that crap. Old vices just lose their appeal. Used to drink moderately to heavily and just straight up got bored with drinking.

Avid gamer since Doom II days...only games really suck now. Not just because of gamergate and SJWs, but because the quality of games and gaming just blows. LAN parties were the best because it was all about gameplay and face to face interaction. Classic male space, although the token female could usually hang and wasn't a cunt about it. Nothing like being able to turn around in your chair and tease the guy you just p0wnz0r3d spectacularly before you all raise a cheap beer to a good game at 6 a.m.

Somehow that gave way to WoW (seriously, fuck WoW!) and wasting away in front of a terminal by yourself. All the online games got full of cheaters and aimbots. Single player made a brief comeback but now the games are all buggy. To much corporate buggery and the quality took a nosedive. Too many clients like Steam and UPlay bogging my machine down.

I'm just bored with all the games now. Literally only two titles I'm interested in...Far Cry 4 and Assassin's Creed: Unity. Long time fan of both franchises but AC: Unity is way too buggy and FC4 so bloated that it won't run on my machine. Neither game is interesting enough for me to want to upgrade. Plus these game companies spend more time and money censoring critiques of their buggy ass games....when they should be spending that time and money making games that don't suck!

Same goes for TV and movies. I just don't care anymore. My folks waste away in front of these crappy shows like CSI and Bones....little more than thinly veiled feminist and stateist propaganda. Hollywood hasn't made an original movie in at least a decade. I'm tired of crappy remakes and comic book hero kid's crap. I can't watch sci-fi movies with my friends because I have to listen to a constant, running geek narrative featuring the same tired anecdotes about how Ewan MacGregor kept ruining the take by making lightsaber noises with his mouth. Especially tiring were the heated arguments based on some obscure ass book from the '80s which PROVES that I'm right and you're wrong about some spaceship design or why Picard just doesn't cut it as a captain.

Just STFU and enjoy the movie already!

Even when the movies were good I would look around at all my fat friends and realize that I'd just wasted yet another Sunday sitting on my ass drinking beer and I had to work the next day. Is this what I live for? I haven't finished a movie in at least 6 months.

It's not hard to give this crap up. I don't care. I don't care about Kim Kardashian's ass! I don't care if Han Solo shot first. I don't care about the slow poison leeching into our brains from the TV, whether it's CNN or Fox News. I don't care about all the incessant God damned compulsive talking that everyone insists on engaging in! I DON'T FUCKING CARE!

I lift three times a week. I supplement my lifting with a wrist roller and I got to tell you I get more joy out of this apparatus that I made for under $20 than I ever did with a $1000 machine plus $60 for a buggy game title. I also supplement the wrist roller with origami cranes to practice fine motor skills as well as mental and spiritual focus. I'm currently engaged in the Senbazuru and, no, I won't tell you what my wish is.

Just last night I uninstalled 10 games from my computer and just looking at my cleaned up desktop makes me feel better. I then did a radical thing. I reached up to my bookshelf of about 30 books that have been collecting dust and started reading the first one I put my hand on.

At Dawn We Slept by Gordon W. Prange. I used it to write a paper once but I never actually read it, just scanned for the bits I needed. Well it's a good bit of narrative history about the Japanese invasion of Pearl Harbor and I'm about 20 pages into it. Was actually planning a separate post because he describes a lot of the players in that story in a very red pill manner. Sure beats the hell out of that crappy Michael Bay movie.

On deck: I'm going to learn a language next. Pimsleur is supposed to be pretty good if I can stick to it. Either Spanish, because I'm a yank and it's the second most common language in the US, or so I've been told. Or maybe German, because I think I'm going there at some point in the future.

The TL:DR of all this is that, having worked fruitlessly my whole life, I'm taking advantage of having moved in with my folks to go into monk mode. I'm going to chisel my body and mind into shape. In fact the process had already begun before I made the decision.

Adanac23 · 2014-11-20T19:08:47+00:00

I am wondering if anyone has done a married version of Monk mode? I feel like I could benefit from full monk mode but can't commit to it fully with a child to help look after. Wondering if any other married men have done something close to monk mode and how did it work out?

3rdtimesacharmm · 2014-11-20T19:38:10+00:00

Got for it, bro. Don't forget to learn and practise meditation

abeuntstudiainmores · 2014-11-20T20:56:43+00:00

Work. I don't really care how shorty the job. Do it do it hard and make money. Your co-workers will see you as the hard worker. Then hit your spots, ready for whatever and the dough to do it with.

AntixD · 2014-11-20T21:44:04+00:00

I just started monk mode this week. I just ghosted my oneitis as I realized I was putting a lot of effort chasing. I felt a calling for something greater.

I've been reading books on meditation and yoga. Practicing yoga like a boss everyday. I leave for Mexico next week. I plan on practicing a lot of yoga, reading and recharging my batteries while I'm there for a week. I'm be pushing myself out of my comfort zone attempting to speak Spanish exclusively.

Also I've been thinking about goals I want to accomplish in the next year, 5 years and 10 years. While on my trip I'm going to lay down outline of what I want to do or be doing for those time frames. I've recently come to the conclusion what I choose to do now will ultimately create a future I want.

[deleted] · 2014-11-20T21:44:21+00:00

Had an extremely bad year. Went into hiding the next year to regroup myself. I ended up getting a second job plus contracting on the side. I did nothing but work. By the end of the year, after taxes, in addition to my normal pay, I made quite a bit of extra money. I used the extra money to buy myself a brand new pickup truck out right, no loans. Not having a car loan is nice.

By then I was so sick and tired of working and feeling down, that I went back to my normal mode.

What bothered me were things that had already happened and were out of my control. So the only thing I could do was to get over it, which after a year's worth of getting over it, I was done. So this may not work for people whose problems require active management, since just because you choose to ignore a problem, doesn't mean it'll go away, in fact often it would get worse.

I've had other lesser bad periods, life is full of ups and downs. I normally go into some sort of productive mode, but I have not done the nothing but work thing since.

One of the other bad periods I started playing guitar. Not as much as guitar legends like Slash, but I did put in about 15 hours a week (they'd play 12+ hours a day, plus natural talent, hence I'll never be anywhere close). I ended up being a better guitar player, and my music hobby has taken off since... playing in bands and such; it gave me a good kick start.

Espada18 · 2014-11-20T23:42:03+00:00

Left high school with bad grades (Mainly due to my fathers death), went to college then dropped out on my first year. I was depressed, clueless and it felt like the whole world was against me. I used to waste 6 hours a day on Facebook, doing absolutely nothing. It was on my 18th birthday when I realized I was throwing my life away and something had to be done. I went back to college, resit my GCSE's, got into a foundation year in Mechanical Engineering at university, met a girl, she manipulated me and fucked with my head, I dropped out again. At this point I'm 19/20 and somewhat stuck in a loop. I then cut her off, decided to do my A-levels, came out with good grades, took a year off and heavily worked on myself during that gap year. I cut everyone off, started lifting, reading a lot and somehow miraculously stumbled on TRP and the manosphere. I started university this September after struggling for a while but I guess my journey is still going, but it feels good looking back to see how far I've made it.

VoidInvincible · 2014-11-21T00:00:31+00:00

I started monk mode shortly after my LDR broke my heart. I started studying more game, specifically under Jon Sinn. His 100 days to inner game program hs really helped me grow. I only have two more presentations left. So I guess I've been Red Pilling a while without even knowing it (discovered this sub 2 months ago.) A lot of laptop fueled days for me. A lot of learning, a lot of reading. Smoking weed. I've also been working out. I haven't been going to the bars or anything. But I have been practicing plate spinning by using online dating sites. So far 2 plates per 2 months, I plan to have at least one plate a month. My monk mode will be over come January, when I take some community college classes. I'll be the hottest guy in class, I'm so excited I've got my inner game in line and my ducks in a row.

TRP_FuckFeminists · 2014-11-21T02:53:06+00:00

18 here.

Been lifting. Bench from 65 lbs to 125lbs. I know it's not a lot but I'm anemic and have a disorder that generally makes me weaker. Hooked up with one girl. Broke frame and didn't get past fingering her. No significant oneitis but k got mad that she vanished and dropped our mutual classes so I did message her thrice too many. Made a bunch of new friends. A bit more confident. All in all I generally still have so many issues and none of them are about girls they're more psychological. I'm also finding it hard to balance work 3 days a week, gym 7 days a week, school 3 days a week, studying 5 days a week, practicing with my video game Saturday and Sunday afternoons, socializing with friends, and having time to myself. Before you say drop the video game team, I get a shot at money often. Sometimes I'll make 0 in a month, sometimes I'll make 2400. There's too much money available to not do it. I've been sadly skipping the gym too much but I'm going to fix that. I just honestly need to be responsible and get my shit done.

One more thing: I noticed my mom would bring up random bullshit in order to provoke me into an argument or more. One day after she antagonized me so much I exploded. I told her if she wanted to provoke me like a man and talk shit like a man and steal my clothes to dress like a man I would deck her like a man. She proceeded to threaten to call the cops, obviously, because she isn't a man. Tremendous loss of frame.. I then had an epiphany that I have not ever won an argument or left a discussion with her feeling good regardless of if I appealed to reason or emotion. I decided I would plainly ignore her. 9 days of not uttering a word and I was in heaven. She was doing everything for me. By day 2 she stopped trying to talk to me and just did shit apologetically like clean and cook almost like she was a real mother. Then her grandma died (Sunday) and I talked to her. Shit tests and antagonizing and provoking and theft have begun again. I'm tempted to not speak to her again. I'm 18 by the way.

razometer · 2014-11-21T03:02:12+00:00

I've been on it for 5 months now. I cut my social circle completely. My routine is work, gym, and sleep. The little free time I have is spent learning new skills. My sleep schedule is now constant, even on weekends. I live on my own, so distractions are non-existent. I do go out every once in a while, just to keep things on an even keel and I remind myself how boring bars really are.

I lost 35 lbs, my career has been improving every day, and I'm in complete control of my emotional and physical state. I could enjoy life now, but I choose not to. So much has been accomplished, and it drives me to continue as I feel that I'm not even close to reaching my full potential.

Basically, life is good!

40_SixandTwo · 2014-11-21T16:34:04+00:00

I'm almost at a year on Monk Mode. I consider my start of Monk Mode when I deleted all my social media profiles in February.

It's been very good for me so far, I've got alot of my projects done that I was working on. Such as getting into the music school that I've been going after and getting my band and music projects undwerway.

I've also got a raise at work and I've seen alot more relationships improve with my friends and family. Most importantly though, my music career is starting to kick off and I just want to keep working at it.

I've been reading much more efficiently as well since I started Monk Mode. I've been able to finish a good book in about a week or two. Right now I'm reading mostly all history with the occasional stuff on astronomy here and there. It's been primarily medieval feudal history so far, with a focus on Scandinavian and Japanese history which have been my two favorites for a long time.

Once a week I still go out with my friends. Since Monk Mode kicked off I trimmed down my friend circle to a core group that I work with, and who are some of my closest. The biggest thing I've noticed since Monk Mode is that all of these friends have a very positive attitude towards me, and seem to take a heavier interest in what I have to say when we are out.

nondvcor · 2014-11-21T06:45:34+00:00

What drove you to make this decision ?

The realization that I have a lot learn and improve, that I'm not even near of who I could potentially be.

How did you change your lifestyle ?

I still didn't change everything I need, I'm working on it. So far I have started going to the gym 5 times a week, I'm studying and working harder, I'm eating healthier, I try to sleep at least 7 hours each night, I'm setting goals and deadlines for everything I do, I'm organizing my day better, I'm cutting relationships that aren't good for me, I don't watch TV, series or whatever, I only play video-games on weekends if I don't have work to do. And most of the time I'm on the internet is to learn something or read TRP.

What I'm currently working on: speak, write and express myself and my ideas better, holding eye contact while in conversations, my game and stop procrastinating.

The downside is that changing your habits and pushing yourself to improve can be quite stressing, most of the time during week days I'm stressed with a lot of things in my mind and it's hard to get all of that out. (I'll write a post about this eventually, when I think my writing skills are good enough)

How did you come out of the experience ?

I didn't... there is a long way to go.

Another thing, my interpretation of the "Monk Mode", is that's a time to learn and change. I don't think abstaining yourself from approaching woman, like many do, is a good idea. The learning experience requires theory and putting it into practice.

Also, please critique on how I wrote this comment, give tips about writing if you can.

[deleted] · 2014-11-20T19:16:11+00:00

If you are over 28 and actively Chasing women, you need to sort your life out. Imo. Your not in college anymore, you have bigger issues to attend to. And Chasing women is a waste of time. Just yesterday a girl hit me up cold, and asked me to call her. I blew her off. Did the same with the one before that. No sex isn't awesome, but it's a price to pay for greatness in many other areas.

IllimitableMan · 2014-11-20T19:47:21+00:00

"I'm new and don't know what monk mode is, can somebody tell me what it is?"

Yes, I'm happy to oblige: http://illimitablemen.com/2014/04/13/monk-mode/

Experience:

Gym gains
Better at my hobbies
Better social game (basically, I almost instantly slaughter any shit test that comes my way.)
More confident (less is more? not in this sense. More is better.)
Utilise my time more effectively
Getting drunk less (Christmas gonna change all that shit though!)

needathrowawayplease · 2014-11-20T19:17:33+00:00

I really wish no one would ever use the words monk mode again. It's such a cringeworthy term. Why can't we just say 'self-improvement'?

Masonjarteadrinker2 · 2014-11-20T19:27:06+00:00

3 days deep in monk mode right now, not even touching my dick unless I gotta pee or shower. Pretty cool but it's getting harder every day.

Title	Share your monk mode experience
Author	theredcandy
Upvotes	78
Comments	77
Date	November 20, 2014 4:43 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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