Some Cold Approach Expectations

319Skew · 2022-05-25T02:31:38+00:00

Skynet should've sent you after Sarah Connor

juddshanks · 2022-05-25T07:19:43+00:00

Don't feel bad if you approach 200 women, you only get 1 (0.5% success rate). The more you play the numbers game, the more you improve over time.

Cold approaching every so often as a way to build confidence and lose fear of failure = fine. Developing the confidence to take calculated risks when the odds are in your favour is part of becoming successful, not just with women but in all aspects of your personal and professional life.

But cold approaching hundreds, getting rejected by 99% and feeling like you're winning because you're getting desensitized to failure, better at repeating your lines through practice and encountering the occasional outlier who says yes = deranged and counterproductive.

Firstly, to be clear it absolutely is true. If you approach hundreds of attractive women for their number eventually one will say yes- they'll give you their number, they'll agree to meet up with you and maybe they'll even fuck you. This is why multi-level marketers, televangelists, mormons, and nigerian email scammers all make money- people are fickle minded and unpredictable and no matter how shit your product is, if you offer it to enough people eventually someone will buy it. Most of the PUA voodoo of the last few decades about peacocking negging and indicators of the interest really comes down to this same truth- just like telemarketers can train anyone to cold call people by reading a script, shrugging when they hang up and dialling again, you can train anyone to do mass cold approaches and eventually they'll strike it lucky.Even if you are pigeon chested unattractive penniless unwashed sperg, eventually one will say yes- but is that really the point?

The trick to red pill is there is no trick. You get out what you put in, and the most important place you need to do the work is always yourself. Sure there are external things you can do to build confidence and get rid of your demons, but the fundamental truth is confidence is something that you earn by getting to a point where physically, financially and socially when you are talking with someone you know there is a good chance you are the most attractive person they've spoken to today.

If you look around your office or workplace or class or social group and listen to what girls say to each other about the guys they see every day, or just look at who is fucking who, you'll find out pretty quickly there's a short list of guys, generally a combination of looks, status and social skills who are on the 'would bang' list- that doesn't mean you have to have NBA player/rockstar capacity to pull every time, it just means you're high enough value that an averagely attractive girl would be tempted to say yes if you hit on them, and would be okay telling their friends about it if they slept with you, and would want you to stick around if you did. If you're at a level where you're on that list, you're still going to need to be able to deal with a certain amount of rejection but you're going to be in a world where most girls you approach will at least want to say yes. Your time is best spent getting to that level.

MaOmega · 2022-05-25T06:37:27+00:00

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Protocol_Apollo · 2022-05-25T14:36:09+00:00

Brother, if you could stop rehashing the same cold approach/rejection basic platitude shit, it would be immensely appreciated.

There’s literally so much other shit you could talk about.

itsazdeen · 2022-05-25T02:21:00+00:00

Advanced cold approach is actually about creating attraction and she will be convinced to like you, the more advanced you get the less numbers game it becomes

isomar1998 · 2022-05-25T02:15:45+00:00

Just do the AA program for anyone really struggling

RP_utiliser · 2022-05-29T16:05:13+00:00

I've approached at least 300 women and maybe pulled 2 or 3. However, I don't regret it at all because it gave me confidence that most guys can only dream of. They literally always ask me how I'm so confident, and it's because I got used to rejection. Most of my lays are social circle/OLD, and those cold approach rejections have literally superpowered my game with the girls I actually go on dates with. I'm still young but my numbers are good, I fuck about 1 new girl per month and am pretty picky

eddieJr_com · 2022-05-25T04:09:18+00:00

Is this a field report? Looks ike theory. Have you done 100 approaches?

knowingly_diligent · 2022-05-25T02:43:11+00:00

The average rejection is a "I have a boyfriend" rejection.

You can always get in front of this specific kind of rejection before it potentially happens with playful tension.

Preemption:

"Does your boyfriend know you're up to no good?"

Indictment:

"Do you need your boyfriends permission?"

Question her independence:

"You'd better call your boyfriend so he knows you're being good."

phil_stein · 2022-05-25T05:13:44+00:00

This is so fucking autistic.

MacaronFinancial · 2022-05-25T10:12:16+00:00

My opinion:

-Go into quality venues: the women you approach on the street might be insane or criminals. You have no way to vet them. In quality venues you can vet women for quality

-Always look for eye contact. No extended eye contact? She wants you dead. Stay out

-You lose the fear but you don't get more confident for a good reason because the facts remain the same; she's responding to your genetic looks and you cannot compensate for them on the street. You cannot be truly confident at something that you are born to fail at. When a woman is trying to get to change her elderly grandmother's diapers or rushing to work, she's not going to be interested in an average guy telling her that she's pretty. It's almost like sending her a dick pic and expecting a good response because in both cases you're getting sensual right from the get-go.

-You can cold approach on Tinder based on your looks

abc_glen · 2022-06-14T00:20:23+00:00

#2 is pretty important - get rid of that fearful, "bitch energy"

once you cross this, things get way smoother and its easier to start convos.

D4rkr4in · 2022-05-25T16:27:37+00:00

0.5% is far lower than reality. I think on average you should be able to get 5%, as long as you’re not a fat slob and are well groomed

5_7pickup · 2022-05-26T00:14:07+00:00

All the people hating on you probably have never done a cold approach in their life. Hilarious.

chrisdidwht · 2022-05-25T14:04:36+00:00

This is some stupid PUA shit

Brawnhilde · 2022-05-25T16:56:46+00:00

This is actually really good advice. It seems respectful to women, or at least, it's compatible with respectful relationships

MaOmega · 2022-05-25T23:00:35+00:00

i have this issue where just taking someone's time for anything other than : asking for directions or time. makes me feel like i'm bothering them, i know this is because of my incredibly low self esteem/worth. any tips on how to overcome this voice that makes me feel like i'm not worth shit ?

2022-05-26T05:15:04+00:00

Thank you for this. Common sense advice without 10 paragraphs of psycho-analysis.

Y0UNGVISIONARY · 2022-05-26T18:57:03+00:00

Just focusing on myself rn bro

erikmalkavian · 2022-08-07T03:44:59+00:00

GREAT OP and Good suggestions about the reality of Cold Approaches.

Title	Some Cold Approach Expectations
Author	magnetradio
Upvotes	182
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Date	May 25, 2022 2:03 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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