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Stop liking their selfies. Stop leaving desperate comments.

biz20

July 13, 2015
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Title Stop liking their selfies. Stop leaving desperate comments.
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biz20

Upvotes 219
Comments 56
Date July 13, 2015 12:01 AM UTC
(11 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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[–]TheHaskman 59 points60 points61 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

This is essentially what Monk Mode is. If you are not satisfied with yourself, you take a break from chasing skirt in such desperate ways and trying to grab the attention of a woman in the same way as a bazillion other weak men, focus on yourself, improve yourself physically and mentally and then see that women will be the ones chasing after you.

[–]Hilde_In_The_Hot_Box24 points25 points26 points 11 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link

Its really crazy, and seems counter intuitive, but you often will do much better with girls when you aren't paying them one lick of attention and just focus on yourself.

I experienced this phenomenon for the first time my junior year of high school. I was a kiss-less virgin with about as much social tact as a piece of Velcro. One day it just kind of occurred to me that I was wasting so much of my potential goofing around, playing video games, and getting drunk alone with other dudes so I decided to focus on improving myself. I started lifting and watching what I ate. I poured all of my effort into my sport (wrestling) and my school work. I made a concentrated effort to have a conversation with a stranger every day. After a few months my efforts started to pay off, I won a varsity spot on the wrestling team, and my grades had improved. I noticed I was naturally starting to become more socially able and my body was stellar. Still no action with girls.

I didn't let that stop me though. After a while I realized that I was starting to enjoy improving myself. I loved working out, I loved making good grades and new friends. I was enjoying doing all of these things for the sake of self-improvement alone, women be damned.

And it was like a switch went off. Girls were flirting me up at parties. I started having hook-ups whenever I went out. And I wasn't even trying. I was just going out, being myself and having a good time and 9 times out of 10 a cute girl would come to me. Still, when I went to the gym it was because I wanted to be strong, not because I wanted to impress girls. When I won a wrestling match it was because I wanted to be a winner. When I aced a test it was because I wanted to to succeed. Girls can pick up on that stuff.

Tl;dr: Always strive to be the best version of yourself you can be, and do it not for girls but because you want to. Learn to love improving yourself. If you can bring about this change, girls will come to you.

[–]thecleaneone 3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

The girls are only part of the experience.

Recently I noticed that, while applying TRP and improving my frame and my habits for about 6 months, random people started calling me "boss". I don't even have to give orders or trying to be on top, I just hold my grounds, be reasonable and give my honest opinion when the situation warrants it and holding frame.

I still have a lot to do to increase my SMV (read losing 100 pounds, which is a work in progress going very well so far) to get girls, but they don't matter now, they never really were a strong long term motivation.

[–]DuncanMonroe30 points31 points32 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

I hate it when guys do this.

I'm new to TRP and all, but my thoughts always go "you desperate fuck, you're making it harder for everyone by being pathetic."

[–]all_the_right_moves9 points10 points11 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I hate it too, because it feeds their egocentricity and it's the sacrifice of a man that could be contributing to a better world; on the other hand, IRL, guys like that're just making things easier, all you have to do is be a better alternative than Desperate Dan in the moment and you look desireable.

[–]Bwhitty230 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Seriously, as much as I would want to fuck some random broad I never once thought of liking and commenting on those photos. That's why I don't get the guys on reddit/internet that comment on pornographic content because it just comes off sad.

[–]evileddy39 points40 points41 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

it's funny how it works:

"Nice pic!" = NO RESPONSE

"ew" = TWO PARAGRAPHS OF INSULTS AND "OMG GET OFF OF HERE YOU LOSER"

hahahahahaaha

[–]PedroIsWatching27 points28 points29 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

all negativity will be blocked

[–]Eutow7 points8 points9 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

8/10 single mom

a: "Sooo, fuck it.....this doesn't need a caption."

b: "Hahaha, there's a caption."

blocked

[–]UndoxableLord4 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Yepp.. I once got frustrated with all the "must be 6' tall", "must love children and not have any", "god is my number one" profiles on okc and drunkenly made an alt account just to vent. Lo and behold, every single person wrote back, often quite nicely.

[–]sum1rand0m18 points19 points20 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

What's worse is when some of these girls aren't even that pretty. 5's and 6's acting like they are a 10 just because people like their pictures. I'm sure some of them are nice on the inside but it's making them look a little sad and pathetic.

[–]xxzulu24xx 11 points12 points13 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

If a girl is that obsessed with validation, it's because she's empty on the inside.

[–]sum1rand0m-1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

True. Sometimes I just want to call these girls out, but they really are empty inside and it'd be fucked up to make her feel even worse about herself.

[–]xxzulu24xx 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

It's not really your place to say anything, unless she's going after you. It would not make you look good at all. Don't forget people will always side with the chick first.

[–]Doctorpepperpants33 points34 points35 points 11 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

The amount of validation these 4-6s are getting is out of control. I cold approached a 4 just warming up yesterday (I wasn't being a douche or anything) and she actually yelled "fuck off" to me - are you kidding? I've approached 9s at the bar before and have never had one of those model chicks ever disrespect me like that if they weren't interested. I'm not mad or anything, but the entitlement some girls have is repulsive.

[–]redditmoose 20 points21 points22 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Why cold approach a 4? That's what she's thinking.

[–]TheDialecticParadox12 points13 points14 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Hardcore abundance mentality. She was probably trying to raise her SMV by dismissing someone who is higher than her.

9's dont have to do this. They know they're hot shit.

[–]flying_cumshot10 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

She might've thought you were fucking with her, because she never gets approached. Prob has some self-esteem issues she needs to deal with.

[–]randomuserwot2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Lol I remember being in the bar NOT EVEN approaching any woman, when suddenly out of nowhere this psychobitch starts insulting me. I was like "dafuck do you want bitch?" without saying a word, then just moved on. Not worth risking white knights storming out for her sake, though a bitch slap was indeed warranted.

[–]Jimmypickles1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Genuinely curious, what did you say to her?

[–]Doctorpepperpants0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

She was trading hats with one of her friends, I said I liked the red one on her.

[–]1oldredder0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

cold approaches do feel weird / wrong. Unless you're good at somehow mixing in how things are around you to how you're both there at the same time to talk - it's intrusive. Unless you're hot. In any other case it's intrusive. Women who are 9's live off validation from looks and also know men are usually cowards and won't hit on them so it's a relief to get a cold approach, exception being if you're somehow way far off: smell bad, look scary-ugly, seem crazy in the no-fun talk-to-yourself kinda way.

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points16 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I completely agree with this. I do not follow women on instagram or like pics. I think posting "selfies" is dumb and vain and I don't want to support idiotic behavior just because the girl looks good.

[–]Modern__Day__Pricus7 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

I wrote about this a few months back. It was getting out of control and I just had to say something.

http://associationofchronos.com/2015/04/24/fans-of-dehydration/

A women sees a comment as another dead body to add to her pile after she sucked the necessary blood out of it.

If you want to comment, say something that has shit to do with her body and instead find something else in the picture to talk about. Or, find a picture where she isn't showing her ass out and pick one that actually has some value to it. Good luck with that shit of course but, you get the hint.

Game works from the mega to micro level. Always remain focused on yourself and not gassing up a bitch that wouldn't pay attention to it unless you say some negative shit in the comments. Even then, turning that around would be difficult from a screen.


People from the outside looking in will see this post as silly and think nothing wrong with commenting on a chick's photo and, they would be right but only to a certain degree. The Red Pill offers a necessary alternative that the world wouldn't teach due to TRP focusing on the individual instead of the whole.

Don't fall into the trap of "Its not that serious its okay to like a photo jeeze". People that say that have no idea or philosophy about how to approach life from a Mastery level. They are just living. Cool nothing wrong with that but, eh. I rather build on something instead of just passing through as another slave to the system.

http://associationofchronos.com/2015/07/12/the-fall-of-the-gods/

"Stop feeding into their ego through social media, it's not helping anybody."

Man or women. Good quote.

[–]tmjr013 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I'd you want to be sickened by a bunch of guys being BP lap dogs go to r/rateme and read the comments. It's like some of them actually enjoy it

[–]an0n4btc0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Seems some of TRP has leaked out over there, but otherwise that sub does pass my cringe test. A mild cringe, but still a cringe.

[–]ThreeEyez4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Guys who do this on social media look like thirsty little boys. Even the women view you like that. They'll gladly take your attention, but they aren't going to take your dick. It's putting women on a pedestal. They aren't special because they posted a picture of their face and their tits hanging out, thats the exact opposite of special.

[–]thecleaneone 3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Nearly every girls on my Facebook are "unfollowed". This is a great feature when you want to have a decent pool of female contacts without the spam.

[–]Interversity2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Are a lot of guys here doing this? Is this really something that has to be covered?

[–]Killigraphy0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

With twitter, KiK, Snapchat, Facebook and Instagram only on the rise, its appropro tell help dudes who still aren't getting it even on that level.

[–]Xstasy144 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

my favourite thing to do is comment on the picture but of something around them instead, like "that hardwood floor looks great." Nothing more annoying that girls who post selfies and get hundreds of likes.

[–]sum1rand0m1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Hahahaha I do this also to girls that fish for compliments. Like say the girl next to her is really pretty instead. It's funny to ignore them even in their own picture.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Ever since I was banned from OKCupid for setting preferences (ie. no girls riddled with tats), I made a troll account to straight up insult them. Feels good. Funny thing is, I actually get more numbers this way by telling them that they're a fuckfaced twat.

[–]evileddy12 points13 points14 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Same here, because I put on my profile "If you can't see your genitals, what makes you think I want to?"

[–]sgt-pepper123451 point2 points3 points 11 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link

How did setting preferences get you banned? I've got a fake profile I use to browse idly, but have never actually used online dating seriously.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Some girls probably didn't like what I had to say, so they reported me.

[–]TamingDebt1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Facebook and Instagram seem like a massive waste of time to me. I have tinder because it's minimal time investment and leads to frequent enough casual sex.

[–]AdonisHera1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Reminds me of a girl who claimed she was a "feminist" last year, only to post pictures of her ass and thighs all summer. AWALT oh and she's a "Virgin"

[–]LionLaw1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Stop giving if you're not receiving something of equal value.
Women get validation from our likes and comments, why exactly do we get in return? Their attention (if that).
Women who get hit on every day will grow to have the false notion that merely being noticed by them, let alone spoken to, is a gift that we should be grateful for.
Fuck that

[–]trpadawan1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

If you feel like you're having to jump through hoops to get a girl's attention on Tinder, then she wasn't worth the effort anyway.

Seriously. There's no magic joke or corny line that's gonna make her want to date you. If you think of something witty and fun, say it. If you can't, just have a normal conversation. If she declines your advances, that's her loss. Next.

EDIT: and yeah, liking her posts on social media won't win you any awards. At best it's neutral, at worst you're just another orbiter. I don't bother.

[–]Smokratez1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Also, add all the porn on reddit to filter. All it does is take away your time and attention.

[–]thebillstone 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

My god, you just described r/gonewild pretty well.

[–]Moneyley0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I've posted this on a dating all I use called meetme. Women have actually liked my comment and spoke about how tired they get over frequent validation. I see a 5 or 6 with 30 fucking likes! And she's a single mom. Not liking women's pictures anymore on a grander scale would force them into digging in deep to prove their substance and not just looks. I'm a total advocate for men stopping this deterring so many betas out there is no easy task

[–]1CashFrags0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I use social media for game, but direct messages only nothings better than juicy pics on your phone in the morning.

[–]WhiteMarauder 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Stop reading things on social media. Only post, reading social media sites is a time-waster and you shouldn't waste-time in that way.

[–]Aspiring_Hobo0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Or just make fun of them. 9/10 times they take selfies in messy ass rooms or in bathrooms with scratched up countertops. If you're going to compliment a woman's appearance, it has to be in an objectifying way. Pretty women are used to hearing that they're pretty, so there's no point in telling them that.

[–]KaptainKari5ma0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Before I came across TRP, I did this for a girl I had oneitis for.

Funny thing is, once I stopped she started talking to me more (probably wondering why she wasn't getting all that attention anymore) and even started liking and commenting on my posts.

[–]refriaire0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes, yes a thousand times YES! I see Instagram girls with 30,000 likes! And these are normal girls, no models or anything. Who is going to be able to compete with that kind of validation? This is why women are crazy nowadays, just putting up a stupid selfie and 30,000 losers jump and say "lovely!", "cute!", "bae!" all with the stupid hope of that girl noticing them and fucking her (yeah, right!).

I have seen desperate losers leaving their phone numbers... no dignity whatsoever.

[–]celiberation0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Unfollow the frequent profile picture changing selfie bitches on facebook.

[–]sarsar20 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Social media is legitimately the biggest boon of modern whores-- they get easy validation and confidence from desperate BPers and white knights.

[–]bryanlharris1 point 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

I unfriended a girl on fb just to have her add me back. Now I just have to ignore her.

[–]ShitfacedBatman1 point 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

If you're not fucking her, don't pay any attention to her online. I'm not friended to any chick on social media that I'm not currently fucking or spinning as a plate I've already fucked.

Reasoning from the MGTOW perspective is why I'm this way. Generally speaking, women are parasites that try to drag you down and use you for things. Being friends with any woman, let alone being digitally connected online, is just giving her access to interject and interfere with your life. Time is the most valuable commodity you have. Even if you're not "liking" her selfies, your "friend connection" to her is symbolic enough to give her a very, very unnecessary sense of approval just by being part of her goddamn stamp collection. The only thing you need to approve of is putting your cock in her.

To put it another way, women you're not fucking are like a virus or worm on your social media account - especially facebook. Don't think that just because you'd never fuck so-and-so that she's harmless.

[–]WardlyHasted0 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

'Likes' and comments such as 'wow' or 'amazing' are a beta faggot's modus operandi because they are too much of a fucking pussy to say anything to a girl in real life. Girls definitely know this too.

Don't put yourself in the same category as those losers.

[–]bbidabbong -4 points-3 points-2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Few rules of mine. I I would rather chop my dick off then liked her selfie.

I am using Tinder just and only when I am taking a dump. Perfect time to swipe right.

What fucking compliments. And where. On Tinder I have two ways. Either I tell them they are sexy and when we can meet, or I try to banter and tease them about something in their pictures.

I have lot I mean 5 or 6 m matches everyday. My pictures: me lifting weights in a tight shirt. Me with my dog. Me in New York. Me boxing. Me showing my chin off. Me in the plane.

[–]BlueFreedom420-1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Seriously, these morons are inflating Women's egos.

[–]NorrinRaddSilverSurf -3 points-2 points-1 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

how about grow up and stop treating women as an enemy

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