Study shows you can change your personality through set goals and personal willpower.

Baylien2 · 2015-05-01T20:27:49+00:00

Our personalities are shaped by our beliefs. If we believe that we are victims then we will act like victims. If we believe we are free men with limitless potential then we will become so. "As you think so shall you become."

moose_war · 2015-05-01T22:02:51+00:00

I have always had a self-deprecating personality. I used to be very skinny and am not too tall, so I had the image as the little weakling to everyone.

One day I started lifting weights and I gained some muscle and really multiplied my strength to above average (before it was very much below average). Women started paying more attention to me. Then, I started getting into Redpill mentality, especially towards women. I didn't even realize it at first, but I was carrying myself with a lot more self respect. I still have subtle beta moments, but I no longer put my head down in every situation, and I can't remember the last time anyone tried to tease or bully me.

My best friend, who was always stronger and more masculine than me, now treats me as an equal and even sometimes let slip that he's self conscious because he doesn't lift (he trains in fighting) and doesn't quite have the muscle mass I have.

This is a guy who can definitely kick my ass and gets women very easily, but I can tell he respects me a lot more than he used to, and I don't even think he realizes it. He treats me like a guy who would have his back in a fight now. He listens to my advice about women even though he has tons more experience than me (and he agrees and is amused by a lot of what I tell him).

I'm still nowhere close to where I have to be, but the simple act of actually lifting weights and sticking to it, the action of doing that, has adjusted my attitude and persona just a bit to where it changes how people see me now. I didn't have to follow some social blueprint or over think things- it was the exact opposite. I did the actions, stuck to it, and then my self-respect came naturally. I don't feel like I have to justify myself to anyone now, which is a huge huge leap from where I was say, 2 years ago.

howard333 · 2015-05-01T23:51:12+00:00

I believe this is possible with autism, especially the higher functioning types. Typical nerdiness can be cured, or at least behaving a different way when its advantageous. The ones who were eating other children's shit off the ground at age 7 probably have no hope.

Di-onysos · 2015-05-02T05:33:21+00:00

Some things you can change, some you can't. For example: natural introverts have more sensitive/excitable nervous systems than extroverts. Meaning extroverts need more stimulation. This can basically mean the difference between a person who likes coffee shops and a person who likes cocaine-fueled raves(neither is "better")

Of course introversion is not an excuse to be a shut-in, but it does mean an introvert would benefit from a different approach to social life. Introvert's sensitivity means he is better at picking up subtle cues and messages while an extrovert can bulldoze through everything by sheer force of personality. You could describe the difference as one between a "machiavellian alpha" and a "classic alpha". Or the difference between sigma and alpha(proper sigmas exist, and not just in gamma fantasies).

Then there's, for example, IQ. You can't really change it, though you can make your brain more "efficient" by using it. Think hard-training, averagely gifted athlete vs lazy genetically gifted athlete. And of course IQ means fuck all if you aren't "clever", or "street-smart". High abilities in information processing do nothing(and can even be detrimental) if the information or the mental models processing it are false(difference between BP and RP for example).

High introversion + high IQ male can easily fall into the overthinking beta trap, and needs to work a lot harder than the high extraversion + avg IQ "natural alpha" who instinctively gets it, but his potential is also higher. Why? Because the high extraversion avg IQ cannot step into the mental model of an introvert, but the introvert high IQ can teach himself the mental model of the "natural alpha", meaning he can stand on both sides of the fence, which means wider thinking, which means more available solutions to problems and overall greater creativity.

I'm rambling but this subject inspires me.

whatsazipper · 2015-05-02T01:09:28+00:00

Our personality and social skills can be developed substantially. In essence we can cultivate our entire person, from how we behave to the very skills we possess.

The brain adapts and builds in response to our actions. Make use of the fact that consciousness enables self-directed growth; most people squander our greatest asset.

YNOT381 · 2015-05-02T06:41:16+00:00

I've really been trying to work on myself this year. There are a lot of areas that need work and progress is has been slowing down lately. This is just what I needed thank you

LessThanPerfectCell · 2015-05-01T22:59:04+00:00

This is what I've suspected all along. A lot of what Blue Pill people tell us, especially at the Purple Pill debate, is that you can't change who you are. They are under the assumption that you are in one set place a lot of time and that if you "change yourself" you are unduly manipulating your partner or friends.

Honestly, I would go a step further and argue that personality change is more often then not behaviors that we make habitual. If I wake up at 0600 everyday and go to bed at 2200 every night then it becomes habit that I do this. I can stray from these habits whenever I want, but they are no less habits. I think the same can be said of personality traits as well. If you really fell confident and you display confidence over a continued time period then you will no less become confident. Say that you are going for a run and you are reaching the point in your run where you are saying "Fuck this shit. I can stop. I can stop and no one will know.", but if you have a habit of not quitting when running then you suppress this feeling and soldier on. It's a habit. This is why you see people who normally aren't good at a select task persevere and stay with the standard.

IronMeltsinmyHands · 2015-05-02T18:31:35+00:00

I'm leyman's term, this is called Batmanning it. Parents died? Brood for a while, suck it up, and beat up a bunch of dumbasses.

Girlfriend is wonder woman? Brood, suck it up, beat people up.

Best friend calls to say he's gonna use his heat vision to fry you? Good thing you spent all that time, brooding and studying chemical engineering, and a bunch of other things, you can use that shit to create a weapon to user against him.

What I'm saying is, will power is everything.

ComradeCynic · 2015-05-02T04:54:18+00:00

It is very interesting.

As well, virtually all religions, spiritual disciplines, and even "cults" (by which I mean, "warrior" groups like Spartans, Bushido, Vikings or any other group that has shared values and beliefs) have in one way or another, mental training as a big part of their goals.

nefuratios · 2015-05-02T23:24:03+00:00

Great! Now, how do I get willpower?

DarkisKnight · 2015-05-03T22:11:01+00:00

This is great, thanks for sharing. Not a lot of posts that address achieving the RP mindset. We need more of this and less re-hashing of RP theory by the recently unplugged.

chronosthetitan · 2015-05-02T07:40:54+00:00

personality is largely affected by behavior, attitudes and beliefs so yeah there are a few things you can change, however i would go as far to say not everything is changeable.

Chesavekz · 2015-05-02T21:59:44+00:00

i find this weird they're only proving this now personally i have known this since i was 3... not a joke

RBuddDwyer · 2015-05-02T22:33:25+00:00

Habit is all.

foldpak111 · 2015-05-03T04:24:01+00:00

When women are riding the CC as I have plans to become a stock broker or an oil rig engineer, it's hard not to adopt this new persona.

moveon4ever · 2015-05-03T14:43:59+00:00

What we should do now OP? Do you have some ultimate answer?

ShitfacedBatman · 2015-05-02T09:09:24+00:00

Introvert? Extrovert? Check out /r/ambivert. Become one of those, that's what I'm doing.

wingednewt · 2015-05-02T06:25:35+00:00

The conclusion of this study is just common sense. We have all been practicing to reach a goal in all types of things our whole lives. Just think of school. I would not consider discomfort in a social situation a personality trait though, just a lack of social skills and fear of rejection. It's funny when researchers get paid to prove things that everyone inherently knows.

LongtimeRPLurker · 2015-05-02T15:15:36+00:00

Neuroplasticity works, yes. It's necessery to have a good mindset if you want to achieve anything. However, it's still foolish to believe you just can will yourself a better life. Our life depends on our place in the social hierarchy. And this place depends on the tools we got from our DNA molecule and the environment we live in. If our tools help us to reach the standards of our environment, we have good life, if not it will suck. Neuroplasticity can help you out of a depression or an addiction. But it won't change the harsh realities of life. If you are black and live in a racist environment, neuroplasticity won't change that. If you are short and the women have irrational demands on height, neuroplasticity won't change that. If you are gay and live in a homophobic world, neuroplasticity won't change that.

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